She/He can't have children: Now what?

[*Sixy*]

Originally Posted by irwin2012

On a slightly related topic.....what would be the reason behind a woman with strong maternal instincts not having any children?

She might want children, but knows she can't provide for them. Or maybe it's not the right time for kids for whatever reason, or maybe she can't physically have children.

[wordlife]

Originally Posted by Ron.

Let's say you married someone that never told you that they could not have children for medical reasons but you mentioned it several times while dating that you wanted children and your new bride/groom agreed that they wanted children also.

Well, you finally found out the truth......( in this order)

You ask them why they lied and never told you and their reponse was: I did not want to lose you. You're the best thing that has ever happened in my life.

What would you do: stay and work it out or go


Ron

I have to edit your response some Ron, my scenario would play out like this.

After pounding it out at her place, she mentions to me that she can't have kids - what do I do?

I'd get ecstatic and go for round 2 sans the condom.

Although in all seriousness i've been in the situation before (without the marriage part), chick tried to tell me she couldn't have kids in hopes that I'd go raw but my intuition was giving me strong warnings about her. I dumped her. Years later I see the simp she told the same to and they've got three children. I shudder when I think that could have been me.

[TabulaRasa]

Medical issues can absolutely be a factor. You can want kids all you want, doesn't mean it's in the cards. But that's not what this thread was about, way back when it was posted. It was about a person who knew she couldn't have kids and kept that information private. Not somebody who was in a serious relationship and THEN found out she couldn't have kids. Although to some people, it wouldn't matter. When I found out about a congenital abnormality that could affect my ability to have kids, I realized that some men would have left me. My SO just said, "That's okay, there are other ways to have kids, if we want them." Sign of a keeper.

[hatgirl007]

Have you considered adoption or having someone carry your child?