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Originally Posted by cr1039
When people tell you something, LISTEN. He is telling you he is falling out and is not certain about staying in the relationship...that is something you need to really LISTEN to and consider.
Perhaps a break from the relationship is in order. Focus on your career and let him focus on whatever else it is that makes you happy.
Maybe you will both end up on the same page and maybe not.
Agreed. However, I'm not sure I'd consider it a real relationship until we met and got to know each other in person. You buy homes 'sight unseen' usually out of desperation, you don't do it with people and relationships. I'd probably be feeling the same as he claims he is.
I'm suppose to be moving to the city he's living in within a month or two for my job and we will be close again, and NOW all of a sudden AGAIN he's having these "doubts".......)
I'm wondering if ALL guys are this friggin flaky???? Or if he's just scared of committment or something?
I hope you'd be moving because of a job to a city you like and not just to be close to him...
Some people (usually personality-disordered people) can't stand things going right and have the need to inflict drama into the relationship constantly. They deliberately initiate break-ups, so it can start over fresh every time. However, the honeymoon part of the cycles get shorter and shorter and the hell parts longer and longer. It's a common trend among abusers, too.
Some people (usually personality-disordered people) can't stand things going right and have the need to inflict drama into the relationship constantly. They deliberately initiate break-ups, so it can start over fresh every time. However, the honeymoon part of the cycles get shorter and shorter and the hell parts longer and longer. It's a common trend among abusers, too.
hahaha :P Well my JOB is what is taking me out there........ he's the secondary thing.... but what the crap????........ for the past year we've both been talking about how we can't wait for me to finally get transfered and then right when it finally starts getting going he gets cold feet or something
(BEFORE he moved out there, like a year ago, we were AWESOME as a couple when he lived here..... then HE moved cuz of HIS job and it's been strained ever since. But BEFORE he moved we hardly EVER fought and he NEVER got cold feet like this!)
Maybe he's used to being alone and somewhat "single" even though it is a long distance relationship. The thought of losing that type of "freedom" may scare him, and he may be reluctant to commit.
Ok, losing credibility real fast here, huck. Slip-sliding away.
you are right its not my strong area, however cats love me. but then again they are simple beautiful creatures who ask for so little and are content with basic needs being fulfilled and some kindness.
When people tell you something, LISTEN. He is telling you he is falling out and is not certain about staying in the relationship...that is something you need to really LISTEN to and consider.
Perhaps a break from the relationship is in order. Focus on your career and let him focus on whatever else it is that makes you happy.
Maybe you will both end up on the same page and maybe not.
Agreed. However, I'm not sure I'd consider it a real relationship until we met and got to know each other in person. You buy homes 'sight unseen' usually out of desperation, you don't do it with people and relationships. I'd probably be feeling the same as he claims he is.
He lived here before he moved so we knew each other in PERSON before he moved away....... for 5 years actually
I hope you'd be moving because of a job to a city you like and not just to be close to him...
Some people (usually personality-disordered people) can't stand things going right and have the need to inflict drama into the relationship constantly. They deliberately initiate break-ups, so it can start over fresh every time. However, the honeymoon part of the cycles get shorter and shorter and the hell parts longer and longer. It's a common trend among abusers, too.
WOW, I never thought about it that way. This DOES sort of sound like him. We don't break up a lot, but over this past year he has had ups and downs where one month he's totally in love and committed and is almost to the point of being clingy, and then the next month he does what he's doing now where he says he feels like he's "falling out" and starts to initiate what seems like a break up but we never fully break up.
I do have to say though that when he lived HERE he wasn't like that. It's only been this past year that he's been away.
OH, and at FIRST I wanted to move just to be closer to him. But I've vacationed where he lives now and I LOVE that area. At first we planned all things together, but then I realized that I needed to plan JUST for myself for when I move out there. Because of his flakiness I've been looking for my own place, planning my own transfer, saving my own money so that I can be financially independent. I LOVEEEEEE the area too which is a huge bonus. I have tons of reasons for moving there, he's only one of many
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