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This piece of advice is worth gold. I highly endorse it. For any situation, with couples having problems..
The idea came from the moral advice "value your friends not for how they were the last time you argued but for how they've been through the time you knew them"
Location: Went around the corner & now I'm lost!!!!
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Originally Posted by thebanker
We are engaged. I'm more than a girlfriend.
I've been engaged and a couple of friends have also and cut it off. So my dear, anything could happen between now and then. You are still a girlfriend until marriage.
Being engaged doesn't obligate him to anything, including you.
I wonder what will happen to this poor little baby in a couple of years. What kind of child support can the O.P. get from a man living in another country? She has no job and the only skills she has is working as a pole dancer.
And since she is getting on in years and her body stretched out from childbirth and soon nursing, it doesn't sound like she'll be too marketable. How will she support the baby? Maybe she will end up leaving it with the father and mother-in-law to raise. Things don't sound too good.
here's a thought:
ask the guy to marry you before the baby is born. from his reaction you'll find out if he really has a commitment to you and the child.
if it's negative, you'd be better off on your own without him.
here's a thought:
ask the guy to marry you before the baby is born. from his reaction you'll find out if he really has a commitment to you and the child.
if it's negative, you'd be better off on your own without him.
Is it possible the boyfriend and his mother are plotting to take the child away from her and raise it on their own? I'm sure the mother-in-law is crafty. She knows exactly what is going on, trust me. She wants that baby!
If he is not ready to marry her tomorrow, she should hurry up and leave the country before it is too late!
W.
P.S. Who needs daytime soap opera? It's all happening right here on this thread! Somebody please make some popcorn!
Being engaged doesn't obligate him to anything, including you.
lmao yea. I've known people who have been engaged 2 years+. then they just go back to BF/GF lol. It is a classic tactic used by guys who want to have a girl committed to him without any of the financial responsibilities of marriage. I don't blame him. If he doesn't marry you all he is obligated to is child support and he would have to pay that either way. However if he marries you now he is on the hook for: community property, alimony, court fees and so on.
As long as he doesn't sign the contract, he has NOTHING obligated to you, at all!
lmao yea. I've known people who have been engaged 2 years+. then they just go back to BF/GF lol. It is a classic tactic used by guys who want to have a girl committed to him without any of the financial responsibilities of marriage. I don't blame him. If he doesn't marry you all he is obligated to is child support and he would have to pay that either way. However if he marries you now he is on the hook for: community property, alimony, court fees and so on.
As long as he doesn't sign the contract, he has NOTHING obligated to you, at all!
Sounds like you've been talking to his mother.
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