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What about what you quoted makes it sound like she wanted the pregnancy as proof of his intentions to make her his wife? I'm not seeing it.
What I'm not seeing is this man's enthusiasm for making her his wife. Only an idiot or gullible gold digger would move to a foreign country and become a baby momma to a 40 year old man.
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Old fashioned = closed minded. Loose morals for having a child out of wedlock? Bastard? That's a bit much.
It is not acceptable to be a baby momma in Chinese culture. Maybe it's acceptable in African American or 'hood culture, but not mine. And we had no baby mommas at my suburban high school when I was there. No one in my step dad's WASPy family has ever had a child out of wedlock. No one in my boyfriend's family has had kids out of wedlock. It's just not done and it's considered shameful. And after some long thought, I have no current friends that have had children out of wedlock. Two co-workers have each had a child out of wedlock, but I don't really respect their personal lives. With one worker, his baby momma lives in FL, and up here he has one main girlfriend and a couple other casual girlfriends. Having children out of wedlock is the stuff of Jerry Springer shows and soap operas.
Common law marriage isn't enough when kids are involved. And I see no reason to change. I just don't understand a couple being in love, but not in love enough or committed enough to get married, having children together. What's so wrong about getting married first? And do the children take their father's last name or their mother's?
Yes he has said that before. We live in his country (Netherlands) not mine (Canada). I have no clue how common law marriages work here. But I am assuming in any country in the world having a man's baby entitles you to half his house?
I know I should investigate this further but things that were no-brainers at home like picking up the phone book & looking through it are a hassle here because of the language barrier.
I know that's a long shot but do you have any idea what the common marriage laws in Netherlands are?
See it sounds like you got pregnant just to be entitled to half his house.
Do you think that you deserve half of his house just for carrying his baby?
Yeah....(clears throat) I was gonna say that ya` all need to be doing something in there one day, that would surprise her, but ah.....masturbating should be enough! She still don`t get it!
One time, my ex mother in law just walked in to my husbands house, until one day, she walked in to a group of 5, smoking a big ol` joint!
She entered, smelled, looked, said,"OH MY!!" And then, quietly closed the door, and walked out.
My mom-my sister-my brother-and my mother n-law all have a key to my house and the alarm code
"but they don't just show up at my house and let themselves in they call to ask if I am up for a visit.
If anyone that has my key just shows up at my home without me calling them to say go check on
something at my house while I am out of town (THEY WOULD LOSE THEIR KEY).
You need to talk with your future mother n-law and ask her to please call before she stops over,
or the next time you plan on playing with yourself do it in the
bedroom and get a lock on the bedroom door that she has no key for!
My SO is 40 and we live together. Before I moved in, his mother always had an extra key "just in case he lost his keys or if there was an emergency". ( These are his words!)
Fast forward to me living with him now. I want him to get the keys from his mother. This is for privacy reasons. She has opened the door without knocking twice. That is, she came over to where we live & opened the door ...used her keys to let herself in...no knock, no prior phonecall ...nothing!
Once she even just opened the door to where we live without knocking & found me Moderator cut: .. . You would think my SO would of gotten the keys back after that incident.
The house belongs to my SO as I do not contribute financially ( not working and also pregnant).
I feel like these people (him and his mother) are disrespecting me because it is "his" house not "our" house since he pays the mortage & I don't. We are not legally married. Living together & expecting a child.
So I want him to get the spare key from his mother as I'm not comfortable with another woman having the keys to where I live. He feels that since I'm pregnant for the first time I might need his mother to have the keys in case of "pregnancy emergencies". My take is that if there is an emergency I'll call 911.
I said lets compromise & have a spare set of keys in a safety deposit box @ the bank not with his mother. He refuses.
Am I wrong for wanting the keys back? If I lose my keys my SO has the keys & vice versa so I feel we dont need third parties aka his mother keeping a spare key.
I'm so mad. Please help. I feel like choking him right now
I know what you need! One of those door brace thingies. You wedge it underneath the doorknob, and the door can't be opened from the outside.
..or one of those chains that hold the door open only a couple inches when the door is open. Is that what you are talking about???
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I was gonna say that ya` all need to be doing something in there one day, that would surprise her, but ah.....masturbating should be enough! 
She still don`t get it! 
Reps to you when I get my powers back! 
(they would lose their key).
You would think my SO would of gotten the keys back after that incident.
