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I do not give it and whereas personal relationships are concerned this is my #1 pet peeve next to lying. I have little tolerance for passive-aggressive individuals and like to weed them out of my life as soon as possible.
I hate it with a passion. I find it incredibly distressing.
If someone is really angry and not able to form a coherant sentence while they ride out their anger then a short sentence saying something like, "I need to cool off and I'll come back to this conversation" is fine by me.
BUT crack it and don't talk to me for days in some pathetic attempt to gain the upper hand and I'm so outta there.
Yeah, I don't care for this at all. Ironically, once the person cuts me off to punish me I start to adapt to a more peaceful life without them. They come back still angry and I've already replaced them with other friends, activities etc.
I'm with you on that one. I prefer to talk things out (as they happen) instead of sitting and stewing about it. I made it clear, early on in my current relationship, that I won't deal with that type of behavior. I don't like playing guessing games with people when it comes to matters of emotion. If you can't tell me how you're feeling and why it is you're feeling that way, I won't waste my time fishing for a response.
Well, there is the "silent treatment" which is a form of punishment and ostracizing someone and there is a "cool down" period when one is angry and they do not want to speak out of anger.
The "silent treatment" to punish is incredibly juvenile and shows a lack of introspection.
Taking time to cool off and letting the other know you need to is perfectly fine. It shows maturity and common sense, that the best time to talk is when you're calm and rational.
The silent treatment is a form of abuse. It is a cruel, cruel mind f*ck. Grinds my gears just thinking about it.
Been there and done that. It happens in every dysfunctional hell hole environment, from family, to dating, to friendships, to college, and to the work place. I'm saying it is very probably to witness "the silent treatment" in any dysfunctional place or warped relationship, it's not exclusive to one on one situations. If it's a good place the people or person will not do that to you.
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Originally Posted by JeepGirl118
I do not give it and whereas personal relationships are concerned this is my #1 pet peeve next to lying. I have little tolerance for passive-aggressive individuals and like to weed them out of my life as soon as possible.
It appears I am in the minority. I do give it. Sometimes I just dont feel like 'splaining and cant be bothered. So, I have nothing to say - until I do. Could be minutes, hours or days.
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and I'm so outta there. 
