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I've really worked on myself these past couple of years while being single and now I'm at a place where I'm comfortable with myself and I like my life. The weird part is that I started the "single by choice" journey as a means to eventually finding a partner. By making myself complete in myself I would better be able to find and have a healthy, happy relationship.
The clincher is now that I've reached this point, I'm not sure I want a relationship. The idea of being in one isn't a turnoff, but when I really think about it, it doesn't seem all that appealing to me. I love the life I'm leading and my friends; I'm even liking my job at the moment. Not only do I not feel the need for a partner, it almost feels like it could be a disruption in my existence.
So, is this just a case of "when the right person comes along it will be a welcome intrusion" or have I gone to far down the path of independence?
Ha-ha, you are a living proof that Robert Greene (The Art of Seduction) is really right! He claims that those "whole" people (whoever they are) cannot be seduced. Evidently they have no needs to be met by an outside person.
In reality, I doubt you've reached such heights, Angel! Go and mess up your sweet life for a change of scenery!
they say the right person comes along when you don't look for it. I think if you run into the right person it won't be an intrusion it will be a welcome addition. on the other hand many people are happy being without a partner, either way it sounds like you are in a great place, not to worry
I've really worked on myself these past couple of years while being single and now I'm at a place where I'm comfortable with myself and I like my life. The weird part is that I started the "single by choice" journey as a means to eventually finding a partner. By making myself complete in myself I would better be able to find and have a healthy, happy relationship.
The clincher is now that I've reached this point, I'm not sure I want a relationship. The idea of being in one isn't a turnoff, but when I really think about it, it doesn't seem all that appealing to me. I love the life I'm leading and my friends; I'm even liking my job at the moment. Not only do I not feel the need for a partner, it almost feels like it could be a disruption in my existence.
So, is this just a case of "when the right person comes along it will be a welcome intrusion" or have I gone to far down the path of independence?
Been there, done that - and still on occasion, I go in and out of what you are going through now. Face it, Angel, the selection of *great and eligible* singles in our area (Tampa) is really not the greatest. It's a somewhat tough city to be single and searching in. If one wants to get laid. . . those suitors far outweigh the ones that want some sort of genuine, stable and committed relationship. Eventually, it sort of corners you into a state of mind of actually wanting to be left alone/independent. I can wholly relate.
Been there, done that - and still on occasion, I go in and out of what you are going through now. Face it, Angel, the selection of *great and eligible* singles in our area (Tampa) is really not the greatest.
Ha-ha, you should see what you left behind! Occasionally I take a look at the menu. It seems like "scaring small children" is a prerequisite for moving to AZ!
Not only do I not feel the need for a partner, it almost feels like it could be a disruption in my existence.
I feel the same way...occasionally. But it doesn't last, thankfully.
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Originally Posted by Angel and The Dolphin
So, is this just a case of "when the right person comes along it will be a welcome intrusion" or have I gone to far down the path of independence?
I was just told this very thing last weekend, by my sister, so I sorta know where you are coming from. But I think the fact that you are asking about it here, is evidence that you do have some interest. So get out there...and have fun.
Ha-ha, you should see what you left behind! Occasionally I take a look at the menu. It seems like "scaring small children" is a prerequisite for moving to AZ!
Ha! Thank God I was married when I lived in Phoenix! The stories I would hear from my single friends on the dating scene was frightening. The only thing I miss about Arizona is that people were a tad friendlier there - and that is not saying much, because I deemed them quite unfriendly as well. So it doesn't score that much higher than Tampa. Then again, I grew up in Chicago and I am used to and programmed to extremely gregarious people (and being such). . I most likely judge and base my decisions on that. I'd go back to Chicago in a split second if I could still tolerate the winters.
I've really worked on myself these past couple of years while being single and now I'm at a place where I'm comfortable with myself and I like my life. The weird part is that I started the "single by choice" journey as a means to eventually finding a partner. By making myself complete in myself I would better be able to find and have a healthy, happy relationship.
The clincher is now that I've reached this point, I'm not sure I want a relationship. The idea of being in one isn't a turnoff, but when I really think about it, it doesn't seem all that appealing to me. I love the life I'm leading and my friends; I'm even liking my job at the moment. Not only do I not feel the need for a partner, it almost feels like it could be a disruption in my existence.
So, is this just a case of "when the right person comes along it will be a welcome intrusion" or have I gone to far down the path of independence?
I say do what feels right to you. You're not missing anything, so why worry about it? When the time comes to take the dive, you'll know. It's not like you're ruined for life.
I'm glad for the OP as he seems like a good guy. I myself like being in a relationship. I never understood what is so appealing about being single. But if people are happy being single then cool
Ha-ha, you should see what you left behind! Occasionally I take a look at the menu. It seems like "scaring small children" is a prerequisite for moving to AZ!
I miss being single in Arizona. I had so much fun. Great clubs, great drink specials, and above all else great women. Then dumb me moves back to Oklahoma *yawn* after the military. There are some decent clubs here. The drink specials are not special at all. I went to a new bar about a month ago as the designated driver, and I was charged for water. And usually as the DD I drink the free coke. Glad I didn't ask for that. And oh, the women here? Obesity central. I think some women are trying to keep up with their moo cow relitives.
There are a lot of friendly people in Oklahoma though. I'm not trying to rag on the state. Just the nightlife compaired to Arizona.
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He claims that those "whole" people (whoever they are) cannot be seduced. Evidently they have no needs to be met by an outside person.
Occasionally I take a look at the menu. It seems like "scaring small children" is a prerequisite for moving to AZ!
so I sorta know where you are coming from. But I think the fact that you are asking about it here, is evidence that you do have some interest. So get out there...and have fun. 
