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Old 10-29-2009, 11:42 AM
 
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Marriage is considered the standard foundation of a stable society. Many people say they would have left their partner at the first sign of trouble had they not had the paper. So apparently people feel they need that in order to make the effort to stay together.
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Old 10-29-2009, 12:43 PM
 
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Ive been there done that and cant condemn those who are happily married. I dont want to bash it but its just not for me and would probably take a lot of convincing to make me want to do it again.
It has its pros and it has its cons. No relationship is going to be 110% perfect every time, there will be issues. But making things work if both are willing is a key factor. Things need to be brought out up front, before even considering it, so someone isnt in for a surprise down the road. Everything from sex issues to having kids to who likes what foods, pets, beliefs, etc. Even little things like what side of a bed a person likes to sleep on or keeping blinds open or closed during the day has become issues with people I know. Stupid issues but theyve happened!
So....before thinking its all bliss and picture perfect, look at all aspects and think hard because its a lifetime sentence.....I mean commitment! (Just joking with ya there, lol).
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Old 10-29-2009, 01:01 PM
 
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Old 10-29-2009, 01:07 PM
 
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So....before thinking its all bliss and picture perfect, look at all aspects and think hard because its a lifetime sentence.....I mean commitment! (Just joking with ya there, lol).
"I now pronounce you 99 to life....."

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Old 10-29-2009, 01:43 PM
 
Location: Bradenton, Florida
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I'm willing to stay with a partner even with difficulties--it's always been the partner who left.

The only thing that marriage really means is that they'll have to file for divorce to completely separate themselves from you. Your spouse can pack their things and leave tomorrow, and there's nothing you can really do about it--except now you're "married", and can't move on with your life.
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Old 10-29-2009, 09:58 PM
 
Location: Tucson
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I'm willing to stay with a partner even with difficulties--it's always been the partner who left.
This sentence explains why more women may file for a divorce - because they're basically driven up the wall, but the husbands don't really want to rock the boat because they like the ride just the way it is and pray it never changes! However, one day the wives get so seasick they finally jump the damn boat!
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Old 10-29-2009, 10:20 PM
 
Location: Center of the universe
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Marriage is hard work sometimes, it's easier to be single. I can make a great case that married folks got it all wrong. I did not have the sense to stay single, and every time I change the locks on the doors the wife and kids get back in somehow.

As a not quite 40 succesful and reasonably comely man I'd have tons of disposable income if I were single. I'd enjoy the finest restaurants, weekend get-away's with exotic women, all of the finer things in life.....OK who am I kidding, I'd spend my nights at home in my underwear eating Captain Crunch and watching boobies on Cinemax.

I admire all of you independent singles, for me the drive to stay on my pedestal as a respectable husband and father is the thing that keeps my knuckles from dragging on the ground.
I do that now, and I'm married.......
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Old 10-30-2009, 09:55 AM
 
Location: Bradenton, Florida
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This sentence explains why more women may file for a divorce - because they're basically driven up the wall, but the husbands don't really want to rock the boat because they like the ride just the way it is and pray it never changes! However, one day the wives get so seasick they finally jump the damn boat!

"Problems? There are problems?"
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Old 10-30-2009, 11:26 AM
 
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This sentence explains why more women may file for a divorce - because they're basically driven up the wall, but the husbands don't really want to rock the boat because they like the ride just the way it is and pray it never changes! However, one day the wives get so seasick they finally jump the damn boat!
Actually the reason few men file for divorce is because they feel divorce law is unfairly slanted towards women. A lot of men will stay in an unhappy marriage because they don't want to lose everything they have.
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Old 10-30-2009, 11:34 AM
 
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Actually the reason few men file for divorce is because they feel divorce law is unfairly slanted towards women. A lot of men will stay in an unhappy marriage because they don't want to lose everything they have.
This half arsed theory is really getting old.

This just reported by CNN

Women are starting to make as much, if not more, than men, especially in third and fourth-tier cities," Rein said.

for the first time, the number of working women in the world's largest market was virtually equal to the number of men. By the end of the year, working women in the U.S. are expected to outnumber men.

Microfinancing gives small, short-term loans almost exclusively to women, because studies show women are most likely to invest in the welfare of the family and -- importantly -- pay loans back on time.

Women: Saviors of the world economy? - CNN.com
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