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While married or even while I was single and had a girlfriend, never done the "Boys Night Out" thing! Perhaps it was because the guys that I knew just didn't go out without their wives or girlfriends. However, I did see plenty of ladies wearing wedding sets who were out with other ladies. I totally kept away from them!! Actually, I had an old buddy of mine use to be a Bouncer at a nightclub and he told me about this married couple that use to come into the club often.........kicker is......after they came entered the club, each of them took off their wedding band/set OFF and went their separate ways!
"Boys Night Out" and "Girls Night Out" thing is pretty much for the those couples who are young (much younger than wife and I at 60/61 yrs. old).
Do we believe in it......absolutely NOT (but that is our opinion).
Couples can trust each other all they want, BUT when there is drinking going on.......well, only one thing we can say....GOOD LUCK!!
adultery no penalty any longer. for some reason its now no biggy if a woman cheats. how strange, its all about you guy.
this is all having an effect on the marriage market. women are no looking for good marriage material looking for good divorce material$$$, and the preserve has been over hunted, game is scarce.
If it was not the stripper it would of been someone else.
Girls night out...whatever...depends on the girls. For some that could be a bunch of movies and too much vodka exchanging various embarassing stories about the hubby.
But I think a need for g.n.o. or b.n.o. is an indicator that your partner is bored with you and there is a rut digging itself somewhere.
Problem with girls' night out is, as has been said, the types of girls she's going out with.
What I've found over the years is that I never have or will like a girl's friends. There are always issues getting along with them. Either I'm ugly and they don't understand why she's seeing me, they're hoodrats and I don't understand why she's hanging out with them, or it's clear they've been around the block, in which case I wonder about her 'conquests'.
My wife needs to get some friends that she hangs out with and go out occasionally and have a "clean" good time.... "Girls Night Out" is a good thing. I can tell you about the other extreme where you have the pressure of being the only "friend" as well as husband.....
NOT easy.....
PLEEEEEASE honey go out and have a good time. I'll watch the kids, just GO!!!!
(of course part of my motive is selfish because then I wont' feel so bad going out to catch a game or play poker... )
Girls night out is a good thing, as is boys night out. Everyone needs friends to go out with on occasion. However, I'm not really big into going to strip clubs. Dinner and a few drinks is fine, as long as there is a designated driver and no one gets wasted.
Girls night out for me has been hanging out at someone's place watching chick flicks, eating takeout or cooking a meal together and, of course, having outrageous desserts. Always a good time - no testosterone allowed!
Besides, if you and your partner don't have separate lives, what the heck are you going to talk about when you're together?
My wife needs to get some friends that she hangs out with and go out occasionally and have a "clean" good time.... "Girls Night Out" is a good thing. I can tell you about the other extreme where you have the pressure of being the only "friend" as well as husband.....
NOT easy.....
PLEEEEEASE honey go out and have a good time. I'll watch the kids, just GO!!!!
(of course part of my motive is selfish because then I wont' feel so bad going out to catch a game or play poker... )
Yep, I tell my dh the same thing. Go! Go see Ben, Matt, Chris, whoever. He goes to parties. I don't go out much any more, tho I have a lot of friends. Ever since we bought this house, and I started my new job, I just don't have the energy. I cannot go out, and feel comfortable, when I have a million things to do. It kind of sucks.
Any way, I don't do "girls night out" since my best friend in Boston is a guy and he's the one I'm normally paired up with. Tho, my dh often refers to him as a girl lol.
"Girl's Night Out" can be fun, but you're playing with fire. It depends a great deal on the quality of your friends, and what they might egg you on to do.
If I ever get married again, I probably wouldn't do this. Why? Because it would be weird to get all dressed up and made up to go out, and then say, "Bye, honey!" to my husband. I should be dressing up and going out with him. Going swimming at a friend's place, going to lunch, going shopping... Those are all "girl activities" that give me some space and breathing room, yet don't entail the meat market club atmosphere.
Ah yes. Girls Night Out. For years men have taken part in this event and there has been little or no consequence for their actions. Until now. Now its not necessarily a consequence for those men who have partaken in bad, or negative behavior in the past, as it now becomes a newly "justified" behavior for women (for all of those "bad things men have done in the past"). Instead of fostering a healthy interaction with a married couple's friends (which IMO is necessary) It has become almost a sense of "entitlement" used to help justify a married couple's difficulties in being married in the first place. We have been duped into believing that a night out with friends is a good thing. Then we are sold on the bill of goods that separate vacations are a good thing and so are separate bedrooms, bathrooms, (Some new houses have master suites with his and her bedroom and bathrooms???) Yet the divorce rate keeps climbing.
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