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When an SO (spouse, bf/gf, etc.) has a wandering eye and decides to cheat, do both parties in the affair share an equal amount of blame?
For example: Jane is married and Jon is single. Jane has an affair with Jon. Jane will obviously be branded as an adultress, but what about Jon? What's his part in all of this?
I had a friend say that Jon did not take the vows, so he shouldn't be held accountable. What do you think?
If Jon is knowingly sleeping with a married woman he shares some of the blame yes. Not all, because if Jane is going to cheat, she'll eventually find someone who will be there. I would place an equal amount of the burden on Jon if he is a friend/family/acquaintance to Jane's husband.
When an SO (spouse, bf/gf, etc.) has a wandering eye and decides to cheat, do both parties in the affair share an equal amount of blame?
For example: Jane is married and Jon is single. Jane has an affair with Jon. Jane will obviously be branded as an adultress, but what about Jon? What's his part in all of this?
I had a friend say that Jon did not take the vows, so he shouldn't be held accountable. What do you think?
A single person has no accountability to a marriage partner, but they are culpable in the destruction of a marriage in a situation like this. It's all about character and ethics - either you have them or you don't. If you don't, that's sad.
A term called "home wrecker" is extremely popular; according the info I've gathered, people put the majority of the blame on the "home wrecker"...Many woman have the mindset that if they stop an individual "home wrecker" they stopped the cheating...
While I have some mixed feelings about it, I tend to agree with your friend. Jon took no vows. If he knows that he may be breaking up a good marriage, he shouldn't do it, but if Jane is available, he knows it's not a good marriage.
The other man or the other woman will often rationalize what they're doing by saying the married person they're having the affair with would've done so anyway, if not with them, then with someone else. But it's a lame excuse. If you sleep with someone who you know is married to someone else, that makes just as despicable as the cheater. But I don't assign equal responsibility. Ultimately, it's still the fault of the person who's cheating on their partner.
So which is it? You can't be equally wrong yet not share an equal amount of the responsibility. That's like be half-pregnant.
lol exactly what I thought.
As far as the OP goes, I don't think the question makes any sense. His question implies there's an impartial third-party that assigns blame, to whom everyone else must answer. Maybe this question belongs in the religion forum?
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