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I like sizable, round, firm, rich, breasts. I will not lie.
Having said this...
Some of the women I've like the most in my life - indeed, 2 or 3 of the women I can say I have fallen in love with and taken some time to get over once they were gone - were not that well-endowed. Even the one who wasn't flat-chested wasn't huge up there. Some size, but absolutely nothing that most men would call "big breasts," and not what any woman would call big.
Didn't matter. She was beautiful and I was crazy about her.
Another one... she was actually rather quite small. And?.... I fell in love with her and missed her terribly when it was over.
My first love, indeed, was rather flat up there. I didn't care. I fell in love with the person she was.
Now, GRANTED... I'll concede all these women were pretty, at least in my eyes. But hang on here.
The last 2 women I dated were both pretty AND had big breasts. The last one had a decent figure: nice legs, curvy butt, nice-sized (though not big) breasts. And she was a selfish, judgmental brat whom, if I married, I would have divorced 1 week after the honeymoon ended. The one before her had a SMOKING body and very large, luscious breasts... and she was stuck-up and vain, and was not warm nor kind. I knew it was time to jump ship and I'm glad I did.
To all of you women who may feel less attractive because you aren't as gifted as Pamela Anderson or Jenny McCarthy: there are plenty of men out there who will love you for who you are. They will find you beautiful in their eyes and with enough time spent together and with the appropriate chemistry, these men will grow attached to you and they will develop feelings for you. If your breasts are not the size of grapefruits, it won't matter. These men will see you for what you are. Your warmth, kindness, gentle spirit, lovely voices, and bright smiles will make their knees melt.
My mother recently told me what a few married buddies of mine have told me. These men said, "Sprawling, between a hottie w/ a kickin' body but who is a b/tch with a terrible attitude and a detestable spirit... AND an average-looking, plainly built woman who will love you, who will be loyal, who will always be warm and embracing to you... ALWAYS pick the latter." ANd these guys, I know for a fact, are not paragons of chivalry or of family life. And YET they say this stuff, because they know deep down where a woman's true value lays.
Charm, attractiveness, physical beauty... we will all be wrinkly, gray, and old one day. Weeks away I stand from the age of 36. I'm encouraged that at least 10 to 15 people I became newly acquainted with in the past 6 months have told me I look younger than I am... but inside I know the clock is ticking. It's time for men to realize that something like breasts, as delectable as they are to look at and as warming as they are to have for the touch, will as well one day lose their firmness and beauty. But what is inside - if of enduring beauty - is what men should really look at. I'm only now growing up enough to see this; hopefully you women will all meet men who have grown up thusly as well.
I am sick of seeing this damned thread. I seem to be pretty good at killing threads, so here goes.
Breasts are like dicks. Guys and girls like both of them to be big. The thing is, everyone's definition of big is different. And it isn't that smaller is bad. Smaller can be great. Smaller can suit a person very well. And as any wise lady knows, smaller can be compensated for. And I do emphasize "smaller" as I do understand tiny is pretty much useless.
When two people are very attracted to each other, they overlook a lot. I would argue that smaller breasts are rather minute in the realm of things that are overlooked. Humans are first attracted to the face of their love interest. Everything else is secondary and beyond.
If your boyfriend were truly into you, your breast size would have been a non-issue to begin with. Now ask yourself, "Should I be with a person like this?" If your answer is anything but "no", G-d help you.
Hm. Well, it may not be a requirement, but it sure sucks when men who prefer big boobs stare at the cesty waitress or look at big boobed porn stars. Like they looong for big boobs, but you can't provide it. "Oh, honey, it doesn't matter". Well, it matters to me.
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Originally Posted by FeelingUgly008
Plus, I don't criticize their liking of big breasts per se. It's the fact that they like big ones yet they go out with small breasted girls, only to later make comments or mindlessly check out every busty woman in the room. That doesn't make a girl feel good about herself, let me tell you.
So a big part of the problem are the inappropriate comments your bf is making and the ogling. I think that is the heart of the issue: he is being disrespectful and it's wearing on you. It wouldn't surprise me if he is subconsciously (or consciously) trying to make you feel inadequate because he feels insecure/inadequate and is afraid you'll leave him.
Well, he left me the other day and now we're sort of back together, but he has huge issues with my rather tame past. I guess he's insecure. He's just so perfect in every other way (smarts, great in bed, good looks, he's funny, he's generally a good person, and he's very romantic most of the time, we also have tons in common), so it's hard for me to just walk away. I know I shouldn't be with a guy who has so many issues with my past, but somehow I keep wishing that will change. He has told me he wishes he could get over that. I was a virgin when we started dating, that should be a clue to how tame my past was. I just gave a BJ to a friend once, and the rest was just making out with a couple of guys I barely knew at parties. All that makes him boil in anger, I don't know why. And when he gets angry, he totally changes... he doesn't believe that I love him, etc., etc. But then when the anger passes he's like the happiest man when he's with me. Most of the time he's not angry, but I tell you, it's still confusing for me.
I mean, I know I have stupid issues too (the breasts thing). But I don't react the way he reacts with my past. Sure, I've nagged him a lot, but now I just try to keep quiet most of the time, like I grin and bear it. Especially since I know most guys are like this. My guy friends - they all go gaga over big breasts. They make comments. My boyfriend isn't really disrespectful about the subject, it's mostly that I see how my guy friends react to big breasts and I can only imagine my boyfriend reacts the same way when he's with his buddies and I'm not around. On occassions in which I've been with his friends, they make comments about big breasted women too. My boyfriend doesn't, in those occassions, but I'm sure that if I wasn't there, he would. It's just the mere knowing that deep down he secretly wishes I was bustier (and believe me, I've talked enough to my guy friends to know that guys settle but wish their gfs were bigger) that makes me sad and angry. But I'd never get angry the way he gets angry with me about my past. I would never make him feel bad about anything that he has (because personally I can't find anything except maybe the fact that he's jealous). When he gets upset over my past, sometimes it takes him days to "recover". I just don't get it.
As much as I, too, wish this thread would die, I have got to post this: girl, look back at everything you have posted about this guy. Now imagine your best friend or your sister is telling you all of this about her bf. What would you say to her?
Either you really don't want our advice, or you're just too young to appreciate that the world has over 6 billion people. Over half of them are male. Weed out everyone who is too young, too old, married, gay, not attractive to you, not attracted TO you... that still leaves potentially MILLIONS of men that would appreciate you. This is so boring.
Over half of them are male. Weed out everyone who is too young, too old, married, gay, not attractive to you, not attracted TO you... that still leaves potentially MILLIONS of men that would appreciate you. This is so boring.
A trip around the world just to meet the man of my dreams... interesting, and it sounds like fun, too!
To the OP.
Next time you feel insecure, think about this. If he didn't like you the way you are, you wouldn't be his girlfriend.
I totally agree with this. If he really has a problem with his gf having small boobs, she should tell him not to date her then. Plain and simple. Although, I kinda understand the OP's situation. My first serious boyfriend was a kind person in a lot of other ways and fun to be around, but he had hang ups about physical attractiveness that would really bring me down sometimes. He was in his mid-30s and still had a high school mentality about it. He just couldn't understand why I couldn't be hot. lol He would say that he loved me but in the same breath tell me something he didn't like about my body. The saddest part was that he would build me up to think I had all this great potential but knowing that I couldn't live up to it in the end really hurt me a lot. It is hard to hear negative things from someone you love because their opinions matter so much. Now I couldn't give a rat's arse about what he thinks but at the time, it was all I could think about. I'm still getting over the scars from that relationship but one thing I have learned is never let a spouse bring you down no matter what. Once you start letting things fly by or you just "grin and bear it" that's when they start to take advantage. I wish I had stood up to that ex-bf more but I was so focused on just making the relationship work and he had me so blindsided by making me think it was MY problem that I just sat back and took it. I think this relationship the OP is in should be approached with caution because it sounds a lot like my own relationship and I don't want her to be hurting in silence like I did for years. Either stand up to him or make him realize that you have the ability to leave him if he continues to treat you like he has. Also, stop worrying so much about pleasing him. I'm sure he isn't physical perfection himself and knows it.
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