Why do people stare while I hold hands with my bf? (date, boyfriend)

[Chowhound]

Originally Posted by NYchi

I'm a black female and my bf is Italian, we live in new york and as diverse and liberal new york is, people still stare. Isn't it 2009 going on 2010?

That's bullshyt if you ask me. People are people and getting a little tired of that stuff.

My family is pretty racially diverse. White, black, some Asian.

It's like a UN meeting around here.

[Morphous01]

Originally Posted by NYchi

I'm a black female and my bf is Italian, we live in new york and as diverse and liberal new york is, people still stare. Isn't it 2009 going on 2010?

Ma'am, with all due respect, could it be that you are just paranoid and hypersensitive?

[artsyguy]

I like to give people the benefit of the doubt that they know the difference between a hostile glare and a "dang you iz sexy" look.

Originally Posted by Chowhound

That's bullshyt if you ask me. People are people and getting a little tired of that stuff.

My family is pretty racially diverse. White, black, some Asian.

It's like a UN meeting around here.

[LaoTzuMindFu]

Originally Posted by artsyguy

You are obviously not a sensitive or caring person. I can see that right away. She nor I need to explain to you about what minorities have to sometimes suffer through.

I am sensitive and caring but I am also a realist. Just want to make sure this thread isnt started just to cause waves thats all. I mean, just two months ago the OP started a thread on where to find/meet Jewish guys because thats what she is attracted to.

[LEVOW]

cuz 75% percent of people are closet rascist!

[artsyguy]

Why would it matter what you think? Have you been stared at ? Are you in her situation and in her neighborhood?

I been in a town where people stare and give out dirty looks but they don't do that to anybody else but me. When I moved it was a totally different story. People didn't look at me, bat an eye, or sneer ever and if they did look my way they were smiling, nodding, and waving ie: good manners.

Originally Posted by Morphous01

Ma'am, with all due respect, could it be that you are just paranoid and hypersensitive?

[artsyguy]

So what. You are from SoCal. It is no wonder you are defensive.

Originally Posted by LaoTzuMindFu

I am sensitive and caring but I am also a realist. Just want to make sure this thread isnt started just to cause waves thats all. I mean, just two months ago the OP started a thread on where to find/meet Jewish guys because thats what she is attracted to.

[NYchi]

I'm attracted to Jews and Italians, but I get upset when people give us that 'oh I'm so surprised' look as if they want to pat me on the head, or when some look at us angrily, like what i mentioned above.

[artsyguy]

I'm sick and tired of people assuming that the majority just love blacks, homosexuals, and people from the middle east. Um no. It is a hidden bias that exists.

Originally Posted by LEVOW

cuz 75% percent of people are closet rascist!

[NYchi]

Racist against me? why? I'm so lovable and likable