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You have every reason in the world to marry her. You're mature enough, financially set, she's your best friend, and you love her. So what's the problem?
You have created a situation, not unhappily, in which a family will be formed from here on out either with you or without you. So which is it going to be? Do you want to be the part time parent and have her be a single mother, or do you want to be an intregal part of a loving union?
Get married if she'll have you, and earlier rather than later.
OP not to be negative, but are you absolutely sure the baby to be is actually yours?
If so take the Father without marrying route WITHOUT CO-HABITING then "if" things look ripe for marriage think long and hard very again about if divorce were to come. Just think about the divorce rate, those numbers don't lie. If you feel that you must marry, I wish you the best.
My girlfriend just told me that she's 6 weeks pregnant.
Should i propose to her ?
I have doubts because marriage is a huge step and divorce isn't something i want
We've been best friends for 3 years and started dating about 6 months ago
I love her and it's been really amazing but marriage is a huge step
If you were me ,what would you do ?
How about fatherhood, did you think about that big step before taking it?
I don't like all this advice about encouraging men to be the baby daddy. What would our society look like if practically no one married for fear of committment or divorce? It wouldn't be pretty and it wouldn't be healthy either. I think we can already see what has happened in places where that is the case.
This man is not a child. He is in a good relationship, not one with a nutcase. He has everything to gain by a marriage to his best friend and the mother of his future family. However, he has everthing to lose if he lets this woman go. Marrying a couple of years into this is not going to endear him to her or her family and possibly not his either. She could choose to marry someone else and he would be closed off and in an akward situation. If I were her and the man hesitated I might not have him at all as it would be a sign of weakness of character to me.
If I were her and the man hesitated I might not have him at all as it would be a sign of weakness of character to me.
I absolutely agree with your point. Same goes for the idiotic DNA test suggestions. We're not talking about a hooker he picked-up at a street corner. How many of those posters proposed or would propose DNA tests to their wives? How is that different with a long-term serious girlfriend?
Frankly, this thread started making me sick and I don't even have any horse in this race - I don't have children and I've never been pregnant or had an abortion.
My girlfriend just told me that she's 6 weeks pregnant.
Should i propose to her ?
I have doubts because marriage is a huge step and divorce isn't something i want
We've been best friends for 3 years and started dating about 6 months ago
I love her and it's been really amazing but marriage is a huge step
If you were me ,what would you do ?
I typically would never advise anyone to get married simply because you got the girl pregnant. That in itself is not a good reason. But given the fact that you two have been best friends for three years, dating for 6 months and love one another, I'd say you have the perfect foundation to take it a step further and consider marriage. You've decribed everything a person could want in a spouse...best friend, love, and respect. It's a huge step, but so is parenthood, and if you love one another and are truly friends, you owe it to your child to provide him/her with a loving household that consists of a full time mommy and daddy.
One thing you can anticipate, having a child will change things, however, if you truly love one another then you will face those challenges together as a team and love your child unconditionally as most parents do. Based on what you've shared, I'd say go for it!
I typically would never advise anyone to get married simply because you got the girl pregnant. That in itself is not a good reason. But given the fact that you two have been best friends for three years, dating for 6 months and love one another, I'd say you have the perfect foundation to take it a step further and consider marriage. You've decribed everything a person could want in a spouse...best friend, love, and respect. It's a huge step, but so is parenthood, and if you love one another and are truly friends, you owe it to your child to provide him/her with a loving household that consists of a full time mommy and daddy.
Which can be very well done without getting married
Not so fast. If she decides not to place his name on the birth certificate he is going to be in for quite a hassle. Or, if she decides that she absolutely can't sustain the thought of being a single mother then she could ask someone else to marry her. Or, she could leave him at any time and do the same.
There is no no-risk scenario. Better to do the obviously right thing here as I can't see the downside. As it stands there's a good chance that she will move back in with her parents to have the baby.
Not so fast. If she decides not to place his name on the birth certificate he is going to be in for quite a hassle. Or, if she decides that she absolutely can't sustain the thought of being a single mother then she could ask someone else to marry her. Or, she could leave him at any time and do the same.
There is no no-risk scenario. Better to do the obviously right thing here as I can't see the downside. As it stands there's a good chance that she will move back in with her parents to have the baby.
Well, if she does want to have the baby and they don't get married, I personally wouldn't continue any kind of a "relationship" with him if I were her. Wouldn't care for child support, either. I'd just want him out of my life for good.
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