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his primary interest in your was sexual. if a guy tells you he does not care that you are fat is like you telling me it does not matter i am old and bald.
Alot of men can't perform from time to time and yes its happened to me on the odd occasion.
Any women who thinks this is not the case hasn't been with many men.
Men don't talk about it, thats why my statement isn't VERY well known....... we would rather sweep it under the carpet and forget it ever happened.
This is one of those situations where asking him probably won't produce a satisfactory answer. After all, he has some motivation to lie - i.e., not wanting to hurt your feelings by admitting your weight was an issue (if indeed it was) or conversely, not wanting to admit that sometimes impotence is an issue for him.
At the very least, if you're that unhappy about being overweight, you need to tackle that issue. There are a gazillion diet products out there, but as you know, there's a very simple formula: Move more, and eat less. Easier said than done, I know! I'm about 35 lbs heavier than I'd like to be, and I know all about feeling fat and gross.
If he continues to come back, then you'll have to figure out if he just wants sex or something more. For now, though, let it go. And be kind to yourself!
(I'm not a guy, but I responded to your post, anyway... Hope I've been helpful!)
..................I've heard that the most attractive thing a man finds about a woman is one who thinks he's sexually desirable. Is that true or just a pile of crock??.....
This is 100% true from my perspective. When I see that look in a woman's eye that she finds me sexually desirable, the blood rushes from my brain, preventing me from being distracted by any physical imperfections.
PS The passion in the first part of your post qualifies you to continue using the epithet "FreeNWild".
It's not the weight. Weight gain or loss don't matter in these things. It's something else.
Also. Male's anatomy does not always work 100% all the time, especially with age. It's more like the Moon. Sometimes it is full moon, sometimes it is no moon at all, usually, it is something in between.
Crap Christ, was he drinking?
I cannot f'ing believe nobody has asked that yet. Amateurs...
He's in his 50s. Sometimes the parts just don't work like they once did, especially if he was tired or stressed. It could have been caused by either a physical or mental problem. Yeah, it's happened to me. The first time I was in my 40s. I still don't know why it happened when it did. It's only happened a time or two since then -- over a period of 15 or 20 years. Don't sweat it for now.
Got together with an ex-boyfriend who I haven't seen in 4-5 years, but we've talked almost every day. Problem is the last time I saw him I was 50 lbs lighter, with an hourglass figure. Mind you, he's been wanting to get together with me for a long time but I was afraid if he saw me fat he wouldn't want me anymore. He kept telling me how excited he was in finally seeing me but I was very apprehensive and self-conscious about my weight gain. He reassured me that my weight didn't matter, he still loved me and wanted to see me, missed me, etc. Fast-forward to two days ago when we finally agreed to meet after all this time. I still found him very attractive, and he seemed to be pleased and happy to see me and we ended up in bed together. Without giving away too many details, while I was doing something to him that used to drive him wild, his anatomy didn't respond the way it used to (if you get my drift.) He told me it (his anatomy) wasn't cooperating so we cuddled and kissed for a long time. He said, please don't think you don't turn me on because you do, I don't care about your weight, it's not you, it's me. So after we parted ways, I've only heard from him once and he said, it was wonderful seeing you again, you made me feel so good, next time will be better.
My question is, do you think my weight turned him off and that's why he couldn't perform? Or is he just being polite and saying he doesn't care about my weight? Is this guy code for blowing me off since I'm fat now??
Ah hell, give me a break.
So his Kipper Dipper wasn't exactly cooperating. Next time, buy him some Viagra and forget about it.
Seriously, you have to step out of your self-conscious body and take a look at things from a different angle. Five years is quite a bit of time, and people change during that time. It's a fact - it's just the way life is. Thing is, he had all this pent up excitement about seeing you, coupled with the fact that, in his own mind, he was extremely nervous about being with you again. At first, he's worried that you'll still like him, and then when you meet, he's worried about saying the wrong thing.. Finally, when you two end up Skinning A Dingo Upside Down, he's so nervous that he just simply can't get his Ankle Dangler up off the floor.
So, he left, broken and dejected, feeling like a failure because everything didn't go as planned. I mean, this isn't an easy thing for a guy to handle. It had nothing to do with you.. So, at this point, just reassure him that everything's fine.. He needs to feel like it wasn't his fault, and that his manhood's still intact. Just simply tell him that the two of you went too fast, and with all the anticipation and anxiety, neither one of you would have performed as well as you usually do. Then, leave it at that, and make another date with him.
I used to be able to nail fat and ugly chicks with no problem. But, the second I hit 29, it's like my body yelled an empthatic, "No!". I can only do girls I am attracted to now.
He's in his early 50's so maybe it's just one of those things that happens to guys his age once in awhile.
He's in his early 50's and you're 50# over weight?
My gawd woman, you did not climb on top of him did you?
The poor guy probably could hardly breath.... let alone feeling arouse...
Did you notice his face turning blue, gasping for air?
Look, the fact that this guy still call you everyday afterward is a good sign that he still likes you. Don't be self conscious about your weight.
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