Just getting home and I made one mistake on the date but it appears that it wasn't a big deal (guy, friend)
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The cafe we went going to meet at around 8pm was closed when we got there and I was stunned. I did not expect a cafe in downtown philly to be closed at 8pm on a weeknight. So then we tried to go to another cafe and that was closed too...
I gotta ask, what neighborhood was this?? I haven't lived in Philly for several years, but can think of several places that would be open on a weeknight in Fairmount, Northern Liberties, Old City, Center City, and Avenue of the Arts. Not that I'm doubting you, it just might be a better idea to go somewhere with multiple options nearby so if Option A is closed you've got Options B-G down the street.
Yes there were plenty of places open but not in the area I agreed to meet her. I decided to meet her near her school which is not near most of the places that would have been open. We made a final attempt and could not locate any other place to sit and talk that served food/drinks. We tried.
Never mind my last post, I just read this. I can see that being just bad luck then, you probably ran into a bunch of lunch places.
Give the guy a break. He did follow through on the date.
Now she let the first bus go by so they could talk. She also called him when she got home. She stood out in the cold.
Ok, so it wasn't a great first date, but the bottom line is she paid attention to him. She must have liked something about him to do that. If a woman didn't like a guy, she would have bailed out immediately.
I don't know TVSG from a hole in the wall, but from reading his posts here, he seems to be not that bad a guy. He just over analyzes a bit too much and he needs some more confidence in himself as well as to know when to put that TV remote down.
Now I know another poster said they'd be trying other places to go, and thats fine, because that is the type they are. But what you have to realize is the company you're with. If they are really tired and just want to go home, you can't force them to stay outside.
Just how cold was it in Philly? We were in the 40's here, which is warm for this time of year.
Never mind my last post, I just read this. I can see that being just bad luck then, you probably ran into a bunch of lunch places.
Yeah thats the problem with those areas. Places around colleges aren't open late because that is who their clientele is. Pain in the butt I know. I've been at college past 9 pm back in the day and wanted to grab something on the way home. Unfortunately I had to drive a bit just to find something.
Well, I'm very happy you followed through on the date...too bad it had to end so soon.
Great signals that she passed on the first bus and talked to you instead! Good stuff!!!
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Originally Posted by wigirl920
Well, you made the best out of the situation and as someone else said, it's good that she let the first bus go and kept talking. That's a good sign! Not every date will go perfectly, that's for sure.
I have to say, I'm impressed that you didn't come back here full of blame for how things went. I'm even more impressed that you came out of it acknowledging that there is something you can work on.
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Originally Posted by thebobs
Give the guy a break. He did follow through on the date.
Now she let the first bus go by so they could talk. She also called him when she got home. She stood out in the cold.
Ok, so it wasn't a great first date, but the bottom line is she paid attention to him. She must have liked something about him to do that. If a woman didn't like a guy, she would have bailed out immediately.
Alright alright alright. I guess I should give the ol boy a break.
TVSG, at least you didn't come on here complaining about what SHE did wrong. So for that, I'll give you a small nod. I'm still shaking my head at your ditching her at the bus so quickly, but if she called you, then she must be an okay gal. Perhaps you are headed in the right direction, at least.
I agree. I don't think I would have "pushed" her to go to her bus to leave. If I were here, I would have gotten the impression you didn't really want to be there in the first place.
TVSG, I'm so proud of you. If I were there, I'd give you a big hug. I kept checking the "rain, snow sleet" thread for an update. I didn't know you started a new thread of I would have said, "congrats" sooner.
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