the problem with meeting women (dates, American, ugly, friend)
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I've read that about 18% of married couples met at work and I've known a few. In fact a female supervisor I had quite a few years ago came back from a weekend trip to Nevada with one of the engineers in the office and they'd gotten married. Everybody was floored and didn't even know they were dating.
I do think the OP has a good point though. It's much more difficult to meet a single woman who happens to be by herself and I agree that a circle of friends would greatly improve the situation when there are get togethers and you are introduced to friends of friends.
In fact now that I think about my hopeless plight I realize that I only know a couple of people within 1500 miles of where I live.
Here's a quick tip. When at a bar, and a girl is surrounded by a group of guys, ignore the girl and befriend the guys. 1) You don't got to worry about scuffles. 2) Hey, you seem like a cool guy, you should talk to her sister.
This is good advice. My friend and I cam up with a saying about 10 years ago:
You can't get the hottie until you appease the nottie.
Think of guys as just ugly girls. You still have to win them over in order to get anywhere with the girl you're interested. If the logistics are good and you win the over, a lot of times they push the girl on to you.
As for meeting new people, social clubs like intramural sports, meetup groups, and co-ed hobbies are all good ways of meeting women. Most people meet their SO at work, school, or through friends in one way or another. Bars and clubs very rarely lead to long term relationships. There's nothing wrong with them per se, but the dynamics at play aren't conducive for much more than hooking up for filling a girls head up with validation and ego bloat.
Actually this is the greatest advice ever. Guys are smelling less guy. Try not showering for 3 daysand then go to the bar in an old t shirt and basketball shorts. Your man stink will have women crawling all over you.
Mr Cat, do you have a fund set up somewhere where I can financially reward such brilliant thought?
Great advice. I'm sure whatever bar lets you in, there will be plenty of women for you to chose from.
Try taking some college classes, lot's of women on campus.
Take other types of classes/lessons like dancing, cooking, photography etc.
I used to take language classes at the USDA in DC, and before the classes, all the female students would either talk on cell phones, or be listening to their ipods until the moment the teacher began, so you had NO opportunity to even try to talk to them except if we were doing group assignments for the class. Not very friendly or providing situations to let you meet someone.
I used to take language classes at the USDA in DC, and before the classes, all the female students would either talk on cell phones, or be listening to their ipods until the moment the teacher began, so you had NO opportunity to even try to talk to them except if we were doing group assignments for the class. Not very friendly or providing situations to let you meet someone.
they text or listen to music because they are bored. this is the perfect chance to meet someone
i think that for a large number of guys that have problems meeting women, the issue is not that they aren't confident or have poor social skills (although there are many guys for whom those are the main stumbling blocks, i'm sure), but the fact that they just aren't around women enough or don't have the right kind of social circles! after all, most couple end up meeting each other through friends, so if you dont have a good circle of friends, what do you do.
around where i live, if you go out to any bar, you almost always see girls rolling with guys in big groups, or if the girls come alone, they end up calling some guy friends who join them later. i've seen this time and time again and know that 95+% of the time, guys that come alone, or just with their guy friends, (myself included), usually end up going home alone too
so the question is, how do you go about building an eclectic circle of friends?? consisting of guys and girls, so that you can use the network to meet potential partners??
I moved to a new city about a year and a half ago where I knew only one person around my age. I met more people at work who I clicked with and can socialize with outside work. I started going to church, and I joined a running group and a hiking group through meetup.com. I also joined a gym and do volunteer work. I participate in online dating on a few websites both paid and free. Have I met Mr. Right yet? No, but I've made some great friends and I have the opportunity to go out and socialize just about every night of the week if that's what I wanted to do. I don't have any kind of timeline for meeting that special someone. When it happens, it'll happen and until then, I'm having a pretty good time.
Sure, it's kind of lonely coming home to an empty house all the time, but I make the best of that too, with hobbies and C-D
i think that for a large number of guys that have problems meeting women, the issue is not that they aren't confident or have poor social skills (although there are many guys for whom those are the main stumbling blocks, i'm sure), but the fact that they just aren't around women enough or don't have the right kind of social circles! after all, most couple end up meeting each other through friends, so if you dont have a good circle of friends, what do you do.
around where i live, if you go out to any bar, you almost always see girls rolling with guys in big groups, or if the girls come alone, they end up calling some guy friends who join them later. i've seen this time and time again and know that 95+% of the time, guys that come alone, or just with their guy friends, (myself included), usually end up going home alone too
so the question is, how do you go about building an eclectic circle of friends?? consisting of guys and girls, so that you can use the network to meet potential partners??
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. I'm sure whatever bar lets you in, there will be plenty of women for you to chose from.
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