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You know, in principle they can be, but I doubt this works at all well in practice most of the time.
Of course it depends on how big the disparity is, and how adequate the smaller income is. I think it would eventually grate on the woman as much or more than the man.
All that said, if I were single and Sandy Bullock wanted to replace Jesse with me, I would make it a point to *not* get my knickers in a twist about her bigger income. Ol' Mitch would just shut up about that, as in, never mention it, not bring it up, never, no way...
I was in that situation for years and it contributed to the eventual dissolution of the marriage. We never fought about money or how it should be spent. I believe it made him feel like less of a competent man because he made less.
Can considerable gaps in earning power/potential really be worked out... if the one with the much greater income is the woman?
My ex-boss in the biggest bank in the world was a top exec. Her paycheque was close to 250K. She lives happily with her public government servant husband who makes less than 50K. And she is a very christian character. Once a value system is in place, anything is achievable.
And to add spice, she is in great shape and looks great even at 46. The man's a hairy fat gentleman. Yet, they are still in love and are raising 3 wonderful children as I type.
It only becomes a problem (either gender) if an ego is attached to earnings.
Ego is always attached to both people and their respective earnings. It's not a good situation. I witnessed it growing up and I just don’t believe too many men would be comfortable with it even if the women are.
I have been married 33 years I handle the finances only because I am a little better at it but we both work and it all goes into one account anyway so from this house no problem.
We don't hide money from each other or bills. We have a stash account that we build up and for fun we use that..if the funds are there we go or do if not we wait until we have enough.
It seems to have worked for us all these years.
Depends on their particular arrangement. A lot of high earning guys see money as justification to have their lower paid wives also play their secretary/housekeeper/etc. On the other hand, when women make more, I don't think men automatically step up and do a higher (or even equal) share of the work. So it would suck for a woman to be making a LOT more and yet still feel she has to do more of the household work just because it's more of "women's work". If the woman makes more and they keep things more equal in terms of house work, etc, I think it can work.
Married 6 years, together 10. When we both worked at the beginning/middle, there were years I made more than my wife....and in the last 4 years she makes more than me, so we've been on both sides. I don't understand the jealousy thing, personally. Why wouldn't someone want their spouse to be successful? I'm happy that she is successful at her career pursuits.
I suppose, though, as stay-at-home father of a 3 year old, I'm a little out of the "norm" to begin with....
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We don't hide money from each other or bills.
So important. It shouldn't really matter where the money came from as long as you agree on where it goes.
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