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LMAO....It gets easier? Really??? Well gees, I must've missed something cause I don't remember it getting any easier. Matter of fact, here I am about to turn 50, with three kids in college...AND IT STILL HASN'T GOTTEN ANY EASIER!!!
Im 27 and my dad just paid my car insurance for this month and is STILL paying my phone bill LOL...I agree with you- with some kids, it doesnt get easier :-p
My husband and I have been married for 6 years and are in our early 30's. We don't have any kids yet. But I find myself thinking about the fact that I've grown so used to the DINK lifestyle, that I find it hard to imagine myself as a parent. When I read the Facebook status updates of some of my friends, they often discuss how exhausted from the kids they are--their posts just sound weary. I've grown accustomed to things like being able to do what I want when I want, going out for dinner with my hubby whenever we want, sleeping late on the weekends, spending a whole night laying on the couch with a good book, etc. In addition, I feel that I really don't have the energy necessary to be a parent. I don't know how people work and parent and take care of the house. I am unable to keep on top of the household chores with just the two of us, because I feel that I just don't have enough energy to get the chores done. Most days we feel so tired that we eat take-out every night b/c we're too tired to cook or grocery shop.
I feel that having a family is important to me, but I don't feel that I am capable of the day-to-day work required in parenting.
My husband is very ready to become a father and feels he is ready to take on parenting tasks, even though he works 70 hours per week and is never home.
Anyone have any thoughts about this?
If you can't imagine it, don't do it. I am a special education administrator and I see the effects on children whose parents really are interested, or can't or won't parent for lots of reasons. It's not that hard on the parents because they go about their 70 hour work weeks per usual pre baby. Get him to volunteer as a Big Brother, or at a children's hospital, at church or at a school. Let him see first hand what kids need.
It is so much better to realize that you aren't ready and may never be than to take the plunge and not do a good job.
I get overwhelmed easily by all the things I have to do--like chores, errands, etc. I'm not the kind of person who enjoys chaos or being on the go all the time. I just wonder if I feel this overwhelmed now, when it's just me and my husband, how will I feel when I have a child to take care of on top of it? I don't know how others do it--work, childcare, chores, errands--how do you manage it all and not get overwhelmed?
Most people deal with these things as a normal part of life. The fact that you are overwhelmed with doing much less...clearly you must have some type of health or emotional issue going on. Either that or you have just become a very lazy person over time, and have become unable to even fathom actually performing what the rest of us do every day. Not intending to offend, but seriously...it's just life, man. It's normal day-to-day life for most. Get your butt moving before you become decrepit before your time!!
Im 27 and my dad just paid my car insurance for this month and is STILL paying my phone bill LOL...I agree with you- with some kids, it doesnt get easier :-p
Im 27 and my dad just paid my car insurance for this month and is STILL paying my phone bill LOL...I agree with you- with some kids, it doesnt get easier :-p
Parents shouldn't be paying for either of these things. This is the problem nowadays, kids have become leeches.
Of course people's energy levels vary. Don't assume people who seem to do it all are not exhausted by it. A lot of people live on caffeine. And the stress and running around ruin plenty of relationships. People do takes naps after work. In some countries people take naps during work. The body is not meant to be going on high speed without recharging. Our current culture of uber busyness that we have been programmed into is bad for health and relationships. For a lower energy person it is toxic.
Parents shouldn't be paying for either of these things. This is the problem nowadays, kids have become leeches.
I agree, when I was 27 I was in charge of projects at work that were in the million dollar range.
Daddy wasn't paying my phone bills.
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....It gets easier? Really??? Well gees, I must've missed something cause I don't remember it getting any easier. Matter of fact, here I am about to turn 50, with three kids in college...AND IT STILL HASN'T GOTTEN ANY EASIER!!!
