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I joined a retired teachers group whe I first retired, I'm even more active in it as years go on, but that's just a small part of being retired.
For me, every day is a Saturday!
If you have the money then you can live a lavishing lifestyle.
Well, you can have money and live a lavish lifestyle and still be lonely and bored. I have very little money but I can find things to do or not depending upon how I feel on a given day.
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hated working because I never had time to do the things I love. I used to be at work worrying about my garden and not being there to water it. I used to miss my cat. I wanted to be able to buy groceries during the day, have time to cook real food and not be too tired out to eat. I wanted time to take day trips and to explore local history.
After reading everyone's reply, it seems the simple solution is to get out there and find something to do, find your passion, help someone, get outside of yourself. Those that seem happy don't seem to have any problems keeping themselves busy.. Good luck everyone.. enjoy the rest of your life, be happy!
Even though I am in constant pain and have severe disabilities, I do enjoy what I can in this "retirement". I am in my sixties and I got ill in my forties and stopped working. Yea, I do get a little troubled but I just go on and I adapt because that is the way it is.
If you are healthy and retired and you have problems and complaints, what are you going to do when you get older and your health deteriorates? Preparing for retirement is also being prepared for the different stages of retirement. I do not have to worry about preparing for the worse stage of retirement because I have lived it for years.
I am never bored. Actually, I have more to do now, then when I worked. Perhaps it is because every task takes longer and is harder to do. Also, I have expanded my interests because I have the time that I need. Most importantly because I have simple needs, wants and desires--I have freedom from greed and envy. Also a simple life is very easy to maintain; I have as much money as I need and I live debt free in my own home.
Working has been so far in my past that it really does seem like a vanishing nightmare and a desire to work is not relevant. If you did nothing but work in your life and had no interests in other activities--that is really sad. Retirement is not a magic wand that will make you a whole person. Some of you have to work until you die--so do it and stop complaining.
I am alone and I live alone. I have been alone for so long that I can be alone without being lonely. I find that I do not enjoy or need continous contact with others--a little here and there is sufficient.
Not true. If you have money then people will kiss up you for companionship especially women. Look at Hugh Hefner.
How can you be bored with lot of money and time?
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Originally Posted by Minervah
Well, you can have money and live a lavish lifestyle and still be lonely and bored. I have very little money but I can find things to do or not depending upon how I feel on a given day.
I'm one of those people who talk to myself when shopping, to small animals, and otherwise. You can't believe the amount of people I've had conversations with because of it. Sometimes I start them, sometimes they do, and they can last a very long time taking all sorts of directions. On one occasion at the beach a woman who could barely speak english started up with me, then another lady and her kids who were helping her walk came along and joined us, and then the first woman's whole family came over. There must have been 20 people in the end.
I find that if you're smiling and take the initiative all sorts of unlikely people enjoy conversing. It's very cathartic.
You no longer have to work 8 hours a day, spend maybe 30-45 minutes to get ready for work and travel to work, maybe another 30 minutes for lunch at work (for which you were not paid for that 30 minutes) and maybe 30-45 to get off work, drive home and sit down for a few minutes to rest after arriving at home from work. That adds to 9.5 (or 10) hours, that you now have for other activities, if you worked 5 days a week. You are now, most likely not in contact with any of your co-workers. You have to fill in these extra hours. Aging cost me my activities, so I am in a trend similar to my father. Amuse myself at home waiting on death, with a few forced errands to run each week, maybe visit a relative. My older friends from the past have died, younger ones are not interested in becoming friends with me, I am not married, no kids. Retirement stinks, unless you can afford to live it up. My $1060 per month S.S. checks does not allow any of that.
Maybe your retirement income lets your live it up.
Moderator cut: rudeThere are many things you could do that are free. You could volunteer as a docent at a museum; you are on the computer, so you can obviously read - so join a book club, reading group, etc. Older friends have died? Make NEW friends. Moderator cut: rude
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Some people have it a little easier when they have a natural inclination or interest in church involvement. But many of us are not interested in church involvement or religion. I think churches are a great community resource for all kinds of involvement and meeting people - but unfortunately, if one does not have a interest in religion, it cuts off a natural and easy avenue of involvement.
OK, but that's just ONE street. Senior centers, food bank, retired business people's group, take a college class, find a knitters group, learn how to can, teach music, say hello in the supermarket!
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Well, okay, I guess I will accept this: to these people I am invisible. I can't expect to be nodded at, said hello to, or recognized as a breathing living thing. OK, got that. Sad, but true I guess.
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Well hell's bells! Did you stop to think those people are feeling invisible to you? Did you nod at them, say hello, or recognize them? Sheesh, it's all about you.
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I'm totally confused by your apparent belief that people should acknowledge your presence (nod) and speak (say hello) to you first. And if they don't - you think you are invisible to them. That is very strange... What's wrong with YOU being the one to say hello or nod to someone? Or do you think that ONLY OTHERS should do that, and not you?
Exactly.
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Not true. If you have money then people will kiss up you for companionship especially women. Look at Hugh Hefner.
How can you be bored with lot of money and time?
Moderator cut: rude Does it take money to walk in the park?
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Originally Posted by Sgoldie
I'm one of those people who talk to myself when shopping, to small animals, and otherwise. You can't believe the amount of people I've had conversations with because of it. Sometimes I start them, sometimes they do, and they can last a very long time taking all sorts of directions. On one occasion at the beach a woman who could barely speak english started up with me, then another lady and her kids who were helping her walk came along and joined us, and then the first woman's whole family came over. There must have been 20 people in the end.
I find that if you're smiling and take the initiative all sorts of unlikely people enjoy conversing. It's very cathartic.
YES YES YES - and you're the kind of person I want as a friend. Imagine the trouble we could get into?!
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Even though I am in constant pain and have severe disabilities, I do enjoy what I can in this "retirement". I am in my sixties and I got ill in my forties and stopped working. Yea, I do get a little troubled but I just go on and I adapt because that is the way it is.
If you are healthy and retired and you have problems and complaints, what are you going to do when you get older and your health deteriorates? Preparing for retirement is also being prepared for the different stages of retirement. I do not have to worry about preparing for the worse stage of retirement because I have lived it for years.
I am never bored. Actually, I have more to do now, then when I worked. Perhaps it is because every task takes longer and is harder to do. Also, I have expanded my interests because I have the time that I need. Most importantly because I have simple needs, wants and desires--I have freedom from greed and envy. Also a simple life is very easy to maintain; I have as much money as I need and I live debt free in my own home.
Working has been so far in my past that it really does seem like a vanishing nightmare and a desire to work is not relevant. If you did nothing but work in your life and had no interests in other activities--that is really sad. Retirement is not a magic wand that will make you a whole person. Some of you have to work until you die--so do it and stop complaining.
I am alone and I live alone. I have been alone for so long that I can be alone without being lonely. I find that I do not enjoy or need continous contact with others--a little here and there is sufficient.
Livecontent
I love your posts and agree, wholeheartedly! Yep, I'll probably have to work till I die...or darn close!...but I never complain. I LOVE my job and have fun doing it AND I make decent money. It's all good.
That last paragraph fits me to a T! I have spent my entire work life dealing with people and when I have my "alone time" I am happy to have it. I stay busy, never feel lonely or alone, and am quite happy in my own little world. Friends are great, and I probably could use one or two, but if I don't it's really no big deal.
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What's wrong with YOU being the one to say hello or nod to someone? Or do you think that ONLY OTHERS should do that, and not you? 
