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Old 06-04-2014, 06:42 AM
 
Location: Mid-Atlantic east coast
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I'm not morbid, but I do read the obits on a regular basis. Living in a small town, sometimes I know the deceased. But in addition to that, I mentally cheer when someone dies in their 90's or older, meaning they've lived a full life--and are older than me.

On the other side, if someone younger than me passes on, I feel vulnerable and...old.

Another thing about the obits -- when I see someone in their 30's, 40's or 50's has died, I wonder what was the cause? If not from a major disease, or from an accident, were they unhealthy from their lifestyle? Were they morbidly obese? Why did they die so young? Are there lessons to be learned.

But of course, the cause of death is not usually posted in the obits.

Anyone else read the obits with interest and curiousity?
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Old 06-04-2014, 07:06 AM
 
Location: Central Massachusetts
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I'm not morbid, but I do read the obits on a regular basis. Living in a small town, sometimes I know the deceased. But in addition to that, I mentally cheer when someone dies in their 90's or older, meaning they've lived a full life--and are older than me.

On the other side, if someone younger than me passes on, I feel vulnerable and...old.

Another thing about the obits -- when I see someone in their 30's, 40's or 50's has died, I wonder what was the cause? If not from a major disease, or from an accident, were they unhealthy from their lifestyle? Were they morbidly obese? Why did they die so young? Are there lessons to be learned.

But of course, the cause of death is not usually posted in the obits.

Anyone else read the obits with interest and curiousity?

I occasionally look to see if my name is in it. I checked today, I wasnt listed.
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Old 06-04-2014, 07:22 AM
 
Location: Los Angeles area
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Anyone else read the obits with interest and curiousity?
I scan them quickly in the Los Angeles Times most days. There are so many of them here, but even so, once or twice a year I come across someone whom I knew, and about whose death I might never have known otherwise. Actually reading all the obits in a paper like the L.A. Times would be too time-consuming for my level of interest.
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Old 06-04-2014, 07:52 AM
 
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My big-city newspaper has an index of names at the beginning of the obit section. I check that daily for familiar names. I also look at local funeral home websites a couple of times a week.

I have no curiosity re age, cause of death, accomplishments and credentials, etc. For me, life is about the living, and someone else's death has nothing to do with my own mortality. I only check so I'll know to send a note or attend the service. I'm 65 and so far don't often see the names of my peers, it's usually their parents' names that I run across. When someone dies that is my age or younger, and I know her/him, I usually find out via word-of-mouth.
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Old 06-04-2014, 07:54 AM
 
Location: Tennessee
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Anyone else read the obits with interest and curiousity?
I don't read a hard copy newspaper.
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Old 06-04-2014, 08:07 AM
 
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I have relocated( 2 years ago ) 870 miles away but still read the obituaries of the papers back home.

I read it on line and even the newspaper that charges a subscription fee for reading on line, allows you to read obituaries for free.

If I know the deceased person, I will send a condolence to the funeral home web site.

( I don't have the mailing address of everyone back there )

When my wife died relatively young ( age 68) I did put in the obituary that she lost her 2 year 9 month battle with ALS

That was info I .........WANTED....to share and felt was just as important as any other info I put in the obituary.

Everyone is different.
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Old 06-04-2014, 08:13 AM
 
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I don't read a hard copy newspaper.
Obits are the one section that is free on the on-line edition of our local paper.
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Old 06-04-2014, 08:40 AM
 
Location: Mid-Atlantic east coast
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Yep, same here...
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Old 06-04-2014, 08:41 AM
 
Location: East of Seattle since 1992, originally from SF Bay Area
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We still get a newspaper (Seattle Times) and the obits are too long to read, 2-4 pages. If someone I know has passed I'll usually know about it.
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Old 06-04-2014, 09:44 AM
 
Location: Verde Valley AZ
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I'm not morbid, but I do read the obits on a regular basis. Living in a small town, sometimes I know the deceased. But in addition to that, I mentally cheer when someone dies in their 90's or older, meaning they've lived a full life--and are older than me.

On the other side, if someone younger than me passes on, I feel vulnerable and...old.

Another thing about the obits -- when I see someone in their 30's, 40's or 50's has died, I wonder what was the cause? If not from a major disease, or from an accident, were they unhealthy from their lifestyle? Were they morbidly obese? Why did they die so young? Are there lessons to be learned.

But of course, the cause of death is not usually posted in the obits.

Anyone else read the obits with interest and curiousity?
Yes, I do. Not because I'm morbid though. I know exactly what you mean about feeling "vulnerable" when people really young pass away. A good friend of many years passed away the end of April at age 54. Cancer. They had moved away about five years ago and I wouldn't have known had I not seen the obit. I also check the online newspapers for places I used to live and have seen old friends, and ex-in- laws, in their obits.

Sometimes the only way to know 'why' someone passed away is if they ask for donations to certain things in the obit..
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