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The idea that a "woman alone" especially one who is widowed, desperately needs to seek another husband, I think went out with the horse and buggy. In the olden days that may have been true when women didn't have the financial skills or means in which to take care of themselves. That's when women were completely dependent upon their husbands for their entire lives.
In this decade, however, many women came of age in the 60's and 70's who are now in their 60's and 70's and can do quite well on their own, thank you very much. They do not need a man to take care of them. Where there was once a stigma against a woman without a man, there is no more. Women know this but I think for many men, it's a shockeroo.
I now see a match club for singles for people over 50 being advertised on TV just like Match.Com or one of those dating services. That makes sense. If people over a certain age are interested, there's no reason why they shouldn't have meet-up places just like the young folks. It's easier on the men because they can find like minded women rather than continuing to harbor the old fashioned assumption that all the ladies want them just because the ladies are alone.
I may be wrong (been there before), but I have also noticed that men want sex on the first date. It's treated as an expected event. And if the woman doesn't offer it up, some men will just continue to look till they hear "OK". Not sure if men think we women who have been single for a long time are craving it, or what. I don't think the advent of Viagara, etc., helps. It may have been created for one reason, but sure isn't being treated that way.
Maybe they feel their one true ability is in the bedroom, and they know they will never get to show it off if they have to depend on their personality to get a second date.
Or conversely, it's quite possible that they have enough experience to know that there are only two types of older women. The type who are desirous of physical intimacy who will have sex on a 'first date', and the type who will NEVER want anything more than a hug or a peck on the cheek, at least from them.
And really, isn't it a little ridiculous to call going out with someone a 'first date' when they both remember where they were when JFK was shot? Aren't they a little too experienced to act all virginal?
And really, isn't it a little ridiculous to call going out with someone a 'first date' when they both remember where they were when JFK was shot? Aren't they a little too experienced to act all virginal?
Depending on the circumstances of the "first date" you may not know the other person very well. I don't think it is "virginal" to think that perhaps you should actually know who the person you are about to have sex with IS and whether you really even like each other.
Another obvious thing is the use and abuse of Viagra and other artificial substances to overstimulate male sexual drive. Jeez, I look forward to complete loss of that or at least a reduction.
The little head has always caused trouble that gave the big head a headache!
However it seems many older guys don't share this POV and are a bunch of animals.
If I were a single older woman it would be a real turn off.
It is not acting "all virginal" it is acting sensible not to jump in the sack on first date. After all STDs are on the rise Iin the older population.
At any rate sex for women is not and never been the be all end all....we take our time.
Trust me, even in my teens and twenties I wasn't a 'jump into bed' kind of guy. I LIKE a buildup in a relationship, and was dating my future ex-wife for months before we actually had sex. And no, neither of us was a virgin at the time. What I wouldn't like is to be a 'girlfriend' to a woman who is never going to be interested in intimacy, unless she is extremely interesting and fun to be with, and finds me to be the same.
I do think many older single men have been through relationships that have led to nothing but being a platonic lapdog with a woman, and they don't feel they have the time to waste on building more of the same.
personally, heck no, men are not irrelevant I value them. Men my age, though, so often seem like part of my father's generation rather than my generation.
This is so spot on! I'm 64 and I've all but given up on dating because guys my age are too "old" for me. The exception are the guys from my high school class--they're still as crazy as ever!
I sometimes browse the personals to see what people are saying. More than once I have seen where a guy has written something to the effect that whoever the woman is, she must be sexually active. Or maybe I should say sexually active with him.
I'm sure she makes sure his life insurance policy is current.
Bravo! Excellent response - funny too.
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I value them. Men my age, though, so often seem like part of my father's generation rather than my generation.
The exception are the guys from my high school class--they're still as crazy as ever!
