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Old Yesterday, 04:02 PM
 
Location: Middle of the ocean
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I never would have suspected that you had such a terrible life overall, although I did know about the WTC. You are a true inspiration!!
I was shocked too, MQ always has such a positive outlook and so even tempered.
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Old Yesterday, 04:25 PM
 
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Just wondering how elders on this forum are *feeling* . . .

After a lifetime of experiences, what is your current state of happiness and mental wellness? pretty much the same as it has always been. I'm sort of like those old Buick Dynaflos that I did not like to drive because they never shifted

Are you a good coper? Yes

Have you always been resilient?Yes

Maybe you have had an easy life with few traumas.not really

Maybe you have been through the wringer.not really but enough to keep me alert, focused and be thankful for what I have ----- and was privileged to have and lost.

How are you doing now after all of it? I can still walk and chew gum at the same time. I still have my horses and do all the barn work. I now play solitaire on-line instead of with a deck of cards and it sort of tisses me off that I can't "accidentally" cheat
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Old Yesterday, 04:37 PM
 
Location: Sierra Nevada Land, CA
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Thank you to all. Mrs5150 and I are doing as expected. We have had a lot of support from our small town community. One example is the mortuary we hired donated their services
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Old Yesterday, 04:38 PM
 
Location: Loudon, TN
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I'm not sure if I qualify as an elder, being "only" 60. LOL. I had a pretty crappy childhood and was on my own before I was even out of high school. I've lost both parents and a sister. I've been a caretaker to my own mom, and then my husband's, but I guess I must be the resilient type. I am happy, content with what I have, and am living a very nice retirement. I guess my mental state is pretty darn good.
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Old Yesterday, 06:18 PM
 
Location: SoCal
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Life is very good and I’m always happy. I guess I’m somewhat resilient, but have been particularly blessed my whole life, now that I look back my 60 year span.
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Old Yesterday, 06:21 PM
 
Location: SW Florida
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If you asked me this question prior to July 2, I would have said life is good. But our 8 year old grand daughter died in her sleep on July 2. So Iím not doing so well

That is my mental state
I am so sorry to hear this. My condolences to you and your family.
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Old Yesterday, 06:51 PM
 
Location: Central Connecticut
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If you asked me this question prior to July 2, I would have said life is good. But our 8 year old grand daughter died in her sleep on July 2. So Iím not doing so well

That is my mental state
Iím so, so sorry.
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Old Yesterday, 09:48 PM
 
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If you asked me this question prior to July 2, I would have said life is good. But our 8 year old grand daughter died in her sleep on July 2. So Iím not doing so well

That is my mental state
Hi Mr5150 --

I am so sorry to hear the news about your grand daughter. Just want to extend my sympathies to you and your wife, and to her parents and siblings (if there are any).

I enjoy reading your posts, usually. Not this one. A friend of our daughter, who lost a child, has found the online support group Compassionate Friends to be helpful.

Again, I am so sorry.

-- Hollyhock
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Old Yesterday, 10:15 PM
 
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Just wondering how elders on this forum are *feeling* . . .

After a lifetime of experiences, what is your current state of happiness and mental wellness?
Content but puzzled
Are you a good coper? Have you always been resilient?
Yes, I have always been a pretty good coper
Maybe you have had an easy life with few traumas.
That would depend -- I think I am about in the middle but some might say it has been rougher than their life
Maybe you have been through the wringer.
Same thoughts as above answer, but I know I had a very stable childhood compared to some others
How are you doing now after all of it?

A little nervous. The thing about my life that puzzles me the most is how my Hubby picked up Alzheimer's Disease so young (diagnosed at 64) when it was not in his family and he was physically fit. It baffles both of us, but we blame it on taking statin drugs and sleep apnea. You just never know.....
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Old Yesterday, 11:09 PM
 
Location: Coastal New Jersey
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I never would have suspected that you had such a terrible life overall, although I did know about the WTC. You are a true inspiration!!
I really don't feel as if it was all that terrible, but when I write it all out, it sounds pretty bad, doesn't it?

The balance is that I had friends and family along the way.
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