How have your wants and needs changed? (relocate, Canada, dump)
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Not retired yet - close to it. Life changing of “wants” came about 15 years ago when I, attended numerous estate sales- the burden of crap to the surviving family members was unbelievable. I learned, the older I get the more streamlined I want my life to be. Often, estate sales Thursday, Friday, half price Saturday and in the dumpster on Sunday- most of the time dumpster was waiting to be filled while sale was ongoing.
I don't need a big house or multiple cars. I just need one small place to store my crap, and a passport to travel. the older you get, the more you realize it's not about more stuff, it's about more experiences.
Don't forget your vaccination passport; I have no doubt THAT will be required soon...
.................As for travel...well that experience is not what it used to be. Even before Covid, I had no interest in being squeezed in an airplane seat like a sardine. Love the being there (wherever it might be), hate the getting there. Air travel is not that enjoyable..........
If anyone ever tries to make me travel, I'm pulling a gun on them. OK, a little bit for a few days, if we can drive.
I spent my whole career traveling.
What has changed for me is a deep appreciation for the place I live. Home.
The pandemic hasn't changed my wants/needs at all.
Getting older in general has changed my outlook on things. And I've just moved on from some of the things I've done.
I'm single. No kids. Lots of great daily/friends relationships.
For example, in my 40s I bought a SFH, was into decorating, remodeling (it was the second house I'd had remodeled), gardening, etc. My lawn had to be the best on the block. I had all these places I just knew I'd travel to one day.
Well, now I'm 60. Have lost both parents and other older relatives close to me. Don't want to work anymore. And retirement -- and staying employed for 21 more months to get there -- is the main thing on my mind.
I'm in my third home -- which I also had remodeled -- and don't give a hoot about decor, remodeling or gardening. As a matter of fact I 'm getting bid to get rid of all of my grass. If I garden it will be in pots.
So for a lot of my interests it's a case of been there, done that. Just no more interest in those things.
As for travel...well that experience is not what it used to be. Even before Covid, I had no interest in being squeezed in an airplane seat like a sardine. Love the being there (wherever it might be), hate the getting there. Air travel is not that enjoyable.
And at this stage of my life I want as few inconvenices as possible. I want as low a stress life as I can get. And that means no work, and my time being my own.
So those are the reasons my outlook and interests -- wants/needs if you will -- have changed. Some things I thought were important -- or which were important before -- just aren't anymore.
(I'll never forget being at work, when my mom was sick and being on the phone most of the day with personal things to attend to. Couldn't easily get time off. I just realized how much the job got in the way of my life. That was about 10 years ago. And I've never wanted to work since then. I want my life to be my own.)
I learned, the older I get the more streamlined I want my life to be. .
I think I'm going to hit the garage this weekend and do a (very small) clean out of things I just don't think I'll need or even look at anymore. After all, I moved those boxes in four years ago and haven't opened them since. I'll take pictures of the contents. But the items themselves....buh-bye.
(This, from the person who bought more clothes last week, when I've got items with tags still on them...and can literally go four months without repeating a single work clothes item. Go figure)
Having NOT been anywhere since the summer of '18, then lockdown, and now the recovery and vaccination s, I'm looking forward to...at least a weekender!
But to where??? To do what??
My ex and I have decided we can be nice enough to each other as friends..to go somewhere together.
I have major surgery coming the 26th to remove all the sagging skin from a 140# weight lose...over '17 & '18, and have proven to keep it off since.
I'll be off work for 3 weeks, and will expect to go back may 19.
Looking for a weekend on the 14,15,16 of May, when I should be healed enough to travel, and just before I go back to work.
We used to go hunting and riding still operating steam locomotive tourist train rides.
Might stop by Steamtown national historic park in scranton on the way to Strasburg RR near Lancaster on the way to the B&O rr museum in Baltimore. Been to the first two, but not b&o.
They all seem open, we've both had the j&j single dose vaccine, and have been wearing masks...for what? 2 years..no big deal.
Might do that.
I have sinus surgery come august, and 2 weeks off work then.
Since that is 5 weeks off, which manager is willing to give me, using sick time and unpaid...I don't want to press my luck with unpaid vacation time too! (Not enough sick time to cover all that time off).
But I desperately want to "get the hell out of Dodge city!!"
Lol.. meanwhile my ex was looking at europe for my birthday in Sept!!
Because of COVID I have mostly lost interest in other people and in a lot of things. Since we had to stay isolated, I haven't invited anyone over and the only people I see are my apartment neighbors when we are outside. I can't get excited about going anywhere or doing anything like I did before COVID. Having been forced to just stay home, all I want to do is stay home.
Now this has to change! I'm fully vaccinated and people I know are posting on facebook that they're vaccinated and ready to venture out. But it's been so long, that I barely even care anymore.
I clearly remember the last time dh and I went anywhere. It was on Feb 2nd, 2020. We stayed overnight in a motel so that we could attend a concert held at a casino. I said to the person sitting next to me that with this new disease this could be the last time we go anywhere and she agreed and said she didn't know if they'd be going to Florida.
The month of March was a living hell in this state--we were hit early on in the pandemic. It felt like panic and there was a steep learning curve. Now we can finally loosen up but I seem to have forgotten how. Would a trip to a museum be wonderful? It used to be but after spending a year doing nothing and feeling proud of how well I was coping, it's hard to get used to the fact that I could go out and do things, could be with other vaccinated people, can plan some fun again.
I'm stuck in a rut but right now I am going out and getting caught up on stuff that I need to do, mostly things I need to buy but I got tired of Amazon all the time and there are some things you need to see in person-- got to get my computer repaired, got to go to the jeweler and get a few things appraised. Got to do, got to do, got to do...hopefully when I get all caught up, I will be ready to be with other people and have some fun.
Because of COVID I have mostly lost interest in other people and in a lot of things. Since we had to stay isolated, I haven't invited anyone over and the only people I see are my apartment neighbors when we are outside. I can't get excited about going anywhere or doing anything like I did before COVID. Having been forced to just stay home, all I want to do is stay home.
Now this has to change! I'm fully vaccinated and people I know are posting on facebook that they're vaccinated and ready to venture out. But it's been so long, that I barely even care anymore.
I clearly remember the last time dh and I went anywhere. It was on Feb 2nd, 2020. We stayed overnight in a motel so that we could attend a concert held at a casino. I said to the person sitting next to me that with this new disease this could be the last time we go anywhere and she agreed and said she didn't know if they'd be going to Florida.
The month of March was a living hell in this state--we were hit early on in the pandemic. It felt like panic and there was a steep learning curve. Now we can finally loosen up but I seem to have forgotten how. Would a trip to a museum be wonderful? It used to be but after spending a year doing nothing and feeling proud of how well I was coping, it's hard to get used to the fact that I could go out and do things, could be with other vaccinated people, can plan some fun again.
I'm stuck in a rut but right now I am going out and getting caught up on stuff that I need to do, mostly things I need to buy but I got tired of Amazon all the time and there are some things you need to see in person-- got to get my computer repaired, got to go to the jeweler and get a few things appraised. Got to do, got to do, got to do...hopefully when I get all caught up, I will be ready to be with other people and have some fun.
I understand perfectly. Sometimes i wonder how different is contentment from no other choice.
But i also think we have new ways of doing things now. I love the zoom meetings we have with my kids, although grand-brats are too cool to join. Way more satisfying than the phone calls because all 6 of us are together and we have planned out things for July. I can see their faces, we share what we are eating, my son shows me his garden. These will stay with us.
Concerts ant museums onlne. Now i can see the Uffizi, go down the canal in Amsterdam for a fee.
I agree though it is no match for the experience of going to the Museum to view Kahlo with my friend and then lunch on a beautiful spring day in the city. Which BTW had several amazing art installations..
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