Are the people in Utah friendly? (live, rated, deal)

[Vcize]

Originally Posted by SJbust

So not true. SLC has a very progressive and hip creative scene. My next door neighbors were artists and musicians with tattoos, etc. I was invited to one of their house parties, and being a big fan of local bands I made sure I checked it out. They moved their furniture and converted their living room/dining room area to a mini stage to showcase 6 live bands. It was incredible!

I ate breakfast regularly at a cool joint across from Liberty Park that featured the work of local artists on their walls. Many friendly, creative types hung out and socialized there.

I'm telling you SLC is a hip and happening place. Easily, one of my favorite places and best experiences of living ever.

Yeah, what SouthernBelle meant to say is that she is super conservative which means she hangs out with a super conservative group of friends and is unable to separate that inner circle with the rest of the populace.

[Katzpur]

Originally Posted by Vcize

Yeah, what SouthernBelle meant to say is that she is super conservative which means she hangs out with a super conservative group of friends and is unable to separate that inner circle with the rest of the populace.

:rolleye s: Yeah, right.

[epivs91]

Interesting... I've found completely the opposite, especially coming from the East Coast.

Just goes to show, there are mean and crabby people everywhere!

[BohemianArtist14]

I've been living in Salt Lake City (downtown) for THREE years now, and I hardly know anyone, and feel like a ghost most days. I've noticed that people don't notice me or ask questions to get to know who I am. It feels like people don't actually care, and I'm an empath, so I have a very hard time with that. I feel like everyone has their guard up all the time. In this post, I'll be pulling from my experiences going on romantic dates, to visits with my doctor, to working with coworkers, to simply going out on the town, grocery shopping, or to the park, I feel like a ghost the majority of days I've spent here and I feel like people don't care to know me. For example, I mentioned something about how my stylist for this TV show I was a host on lived in the area we were heading to (to my first time date) and her response was, oh does she still live in that neighborhood? Not "oh wow, cool! You were the host of a TV show?" or something else. I found it strange, but then again, this is extremely common here. My next-door neighbors and the people across the street and my neighbors who walk their dogs past my house every day (while I'm sitting on the porch waving at them or saying hello), they never look at me but continue on walking. It's very strange. I've waved to neighbors, tried speaking to strangers at the grocery store, etc. to strike up small talk convos, but it seems like everyone is in their own world. I spend the majority of my time at home alone with my cats, so it doesn't bother me unless I go out in public and then I start to feel like an alien or outcast. I also realized recently that my strongest friendships here are with out-of-state people.

[Katzpur]

Originally Posted by BohemianArtist14

I've been living in Salt Lake City (downtown) for THREE years now, and I hardly know anyone, and feel like a ghost most days. I've noticed that people don't notice me or ask questions to get to know who I am. It feels like people don't actually care, and I'm an empath, so I have a very hard time with that. I feel like everyone has their guard up all the time. In this post, I'll be pulling from my experiences going on romantic dates, to visits with my doctor, to working with coworkers, to simply going out on the town, grocery shopping, or to the park, I feel like a ghost the majority of days I've spent here and I feel like people don't care to know me. For example, I mentioned something about how my stylist for this TV show I was a host on lived in the area we were heading to (to my first time date) and her response was, oh does she still live in that neighborhood? Not "oh wow, cool! You were the host of a TV show?" or something else. I found it strange, but then again, this is extremely common here. My next-door neighbors and the people across the street and my neighbors who walk their dogs past my house every day (while I'm sitting on the porch waving at them or saying hello), they never look at me but continue on walking. It's very strange. I've waved to neighbors, tried speaking to strangers at the grocery store, etc. to strike up small talk convos, but it seems like everyone is in their own world. I spend the majority of my time at home alone with my cats, so it doesn't bother me unless I go out in public and then I start to feel like an alien or outcast. I also realized recently that my strongest friendships here are with out-of-state people.

That's too bad. Everybody has their own experiences, though. I found this poll on the city vs city forum of city-Data to be very interesting. Apparently your experience was not all that common.

[kletter1mann]

Originally Posted by BohemianArtist14

I've been living in Salt Lake City (downtown) for THREE years now, and I hardly know anyone, and feel like a ghost most days. I've noticed that people don't notice me or ask questions to get to know who I am. It feels like people don't actually care, and I'm an empath, so I have a very hard time with that. I feel like everyone has their guard up all the time. In this post, I'll be pulling from my experiences going on romantic dates, to visits with my doctor, to working with coworkers, to simply going out on the town, grocery shopping, or to the park, I feel like a ghost the majority of days I've spent here and I feel like people don't care to know me. For example, I mentioned something about how my stylist for this TV show I was a host on lived in the area we were heading to (to my first time date) and her response was, oh does she still live in that neighborhood? Not "oh wow, cool! You were the host of a TV show?" or something else. I found it strange, but then again, this is extremely common here. My next-door neighbors and the people across the street and my neighbors who walk their dogs past my house every day (while I'm sitting on the porch waving at them or saying hello), they never look at me but continue on walking. It's very strange. I've waved to neighbors, tried speaking to strangers at the grocery store, etc. to strike up small talk convos, but it seems like everyone is in their own world. I spend the majority of my time at home alone with my cats, so it doesn't bother me unless I go out in public and then I start to feel like an alien or outcast. I also realized recently that my strongest friendships here are with out-of-state people.

Yes, the "eyes forward" phenomenon. This has been observed by many, again and again. Do a deep search of this forum. It is indeed the local culture. That doesn't mean there aren't exceptions - of course there are! - but it's closer to the norm. I've long since concluded that the respondents that dismiss it are the long time locals who have become (or always were) oblivious to it because, well, it's the local culture. If you're a part of it you don't see it, it's your "normal."

[Hiruko]

I think that if you live in any city center, you are going to encounter a more transient and goal-focused population. Most people don't move to or go downtown to socialize with strangers. I think if you lived in a more traditional neighborhood, you would have a different experience.

[Katzpur]

Originally Posted by kletter1mann

Yes, the "eyes forward" phenomenon. This has been observed by many, again and again. Do a deep search of this forum. It is indeed the local culture. That doesn't mean there aren't exceptions - of course there are! - but it's closer to the norm. I've long since concluded that the respondents that dismiss it are the long time locals who have become (or always were) oblivious to it because, well, it's the local culture. If you're a part of it you don't see it, it's your "normal."

I still don't get where you're coming from. Several times in just the past few days, I've been waiting in line to check out from stores and some random person in the line made a few comments. Someone else responded, and pretty soon there were several of us complete strangers talking. I will admit that I'm often the one to make the first move, but almost without fail, when I do, I end up chatting with someone I don't even know. Maybe it's about the dog they have with them. Maybe it's about the weather. Maybe it's about Covid. Maybe it's about which store might carry a product the one I'm shopping at doesn't. It's just all kinds of things. I just don't ever have these experiences you're describing.

[jcp123]

I found Utah to be one of the friendliest places I’ve ever been. I bought a 15-pack of beer from what was fairly obviously an LDS young lady, and she treated me with nothing but respect, even though it probably violated a lot of her personal beliefs. Utah is in serious contention for my top three friendliest places I’ve ever been.

But that was as a visitor. I’m not sure what it’s like to live there.

[SWFL_Native]

Originally Posted by BohemianArtist14

I've been living in Salt Lake City (downtown) for THREE years now, and I hardly know anyone, and feel like a ghost most days. I've noticed that people don't notice me or ask questions to get to know who I am. It feels like people don't actually care, and I'm an empath, so I have a very hard time with that. I feel like everyone has their guard up all the time. In this post, I'll be pulling from my experiences going on romantic dates, to visits with my doctor, to working with coworkers, to simply going out on the town, grocery shopping, or to the park, I feel like a ghost the majority of days I've spent here and I feel like people don't care to know me. For example, I mentioned something about how my stylist for this TV show I was a host on lived in the area we were heading to (to my first time date) and her response was, oh does she still live in that neighborhood? Not "oh wow, cool! You were the host of a TV show?" or something else. I found it strange, but then again, this is extremely common here. My next-door neighbors and the people across the street and my neighbors who walk their dogs past my house every day (while I'm sitting on the porch waving at them or saying hello), they never look at me but continue on walking. It's very strange. I've waved to neighbors, tried speaking to strangers at the grocery store, etc. to strike up small talk convos, but it seems like everyone is in their own world. I spend the majority of my time at home alone with my cats, so it doesn't bother me unless I go out in public and then I start to feel like an alien or outcast. I also realized recently that my strongest friendships here are with out-of-state people.

I live down in SJ and my neighbors are the best.. They are friendly to a point that it's overly so.

I think with apartments and perhaps townhouses there can be less of a neighborhood feel and people are on their guards due to crime. Although we rented a high rise on South Temple and everyone in our build and the aves were very friendly. But that was quite awhile ago... Liberty park had an active group of runners/dog walkers that were friendly and we met many great people at the park cafe waiting for tables.

People are quite friendly up a snowbird (summer free concert Saturday nights) and blues brews and BBQ at snow basin on Sundays. Perhaps you need to change up your activities, locations, and the people you are around?