Asian thinking of moving to Temecula / Wildomar - Social suicide? (buying a house, buying)

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Originally Posted by evolutionrules

temecula won't offer the cultural opportunities the OP is hoping for.

Temecula does not have the concentration of Asians that a city like Irvine has, but one just needs to look at demographic information (e.g. here on city-data) to determine this. People put more weight on things that they deserve all the time. If you ignore the whole Asian-factor, Temecula provides excellent value. So assuming the OP could get a job there, he may be passing up on a great opportunity. Houses in Temecula are almost half the prices in Irvine, yet they don't differ dramatically in amenities. The beach is still relatively close, the city is between two beautiful mountain ranges, the weather is good, it has all your typical California stores and one could always commute to events in Orange County, etc. The OP would be in no sense the only Asian in Temecula, the demographics in Temecula are similar to a place like Mission Viejo.

Anyhow, I use to live in Irvine and I'm very familiar with Temecula (like the OP I'm thinking of moving there)...how about you? Just rants?

[evolutionrules]

i live in the temecula area, moved here from Garden Grove and have lived in the Los Feliz area of Los Angeles. i think temecula is an amazing place to live and raise kids unless you're looking for second bilingual daycare centers and an abundance of "Asia" culture. if not having these things will dramatically lower your standard of living then don't move here. there are lots of great communities in SoCal. i happen to believe temecula/murrieta is one of the best. the tvusd is one of the main reasons why we chose the area.

[Lienyie]

Wildomar maybe, it is still a growing and changing community. Temecula has an every growing Asian American Community. We live in south Temecula, and our community has had a huge turn over in housing and all the homes bought on our street were from Asian Americans, a mix of Korean, Chinese and Philipino. And all executives from Irvine that work out of their home. Within the families they find language and cultural resources within themselves, their is no cultural center or Asian Markets like the LA/OC area. Temecula grew from a farm community to a bedroom community extremely fast, and is still growing. It lacks a major hospital and 4 year University campus, but Loma Linda Hospital is being built in Murrietta, and their are satilite campuses available and many dentist and doctors offices. We have lived all over the U.S. and Temecula brings a family a safe community, endless sports from competitive swim to girls Softball, and from non sports, skatepark to Drama/Arts to Music Band outlets. All types of children have options in Temecula, hence gangs and drugs are not an option, kids here want to succeed. The schools are highly rated because most parents are involved and hold their kids accountable, and the kids want to go to college. You still have the goof offs but there is such a low percentage. Our familiy is Chinese American, my husband is a U.S. Marine commuting to Camp Pendleton daily. When we first moved to Temecula is was not as diverse but over the past two years, my childrens classroom went from only three Asian in each classroom to 10 to 12. Again this is south Temecula, a lot of parents want their kids in the IB program at Great Oak H.S. There is a growing number of family owned noodle restaurants, a few family owned sushi restaurants. Temecula has year round nice weather with limited bugs. While in the summer from 10am to 5pm it could be 90 to 100 degrees, in the evening it will drop to 6o with cool breezes. The warm weather is July-Sept varies in June and varies in October. Negatives, bedroom community: commute to executive jobs, airport, major hospital. Positives: Great year round weather, low housing cost, safe for families
We are Asian American and have met many locals that have lived in Temecula when their were no developments, all are very helpful and friendly, and this is the first city, that shakes my Chinese American hand, and thanks him for his U.S. Marine Service. It is a very military supportive city, no matter what race, that is very rare for us. We did not receive that in Boston, St. Louis, Newport Rhode Island, or Camp Lejeune.

[ambermerci]

Culture and heritage is important but you can make new friends and travel if you need to. Do what's best financially and otherwise or if it bothers you this much, maybe stay where you are.

[Dub D]

I don't understand why so many Asians on here think they are going to be ostracized in SoCal. My buddy is half Korean and half Chinese and grew up in Nebraska. He was literally the only Asian and one of 3 non-white students. This is Southern California, the boiling point in the melting pot of the U.S.A.

[Count David]

Originally Posted by Dub D

I don't understand why so many Asians on here think they are going to be ostracized in SoCal. My buddy is half Korean and half Chinese and grew up in Nebraska. He was literally the only Asian and one of 3 non-white students. This is Southern California, the boiling point in the melting pot of the U.S.A.

Different people think this way about all corners of the country. It's sad really. CD is loaded with threads like this (i.e. Hispanics in Colorado, Black people in Idaho, White people in minority ghettos, etc).

American-born people should feel 100% comfortable everywhere they go. I'll bet your buddy is a fairly well-adapted/balanced human being.

The OP here was only moving 60 miles for goodness sakes.

[Fontucky]

Originally Posted by David Aguilar

Different people think this way about all corners of the country. It's sad really. CD is loaded with threads like this (i.e. Hispanics in Colorado, Black people in Idaho, White people in minority ghettos, etc).

From personal experience, I'd say the trepidation is valid if you add the word North in front of Idaho...

HEIL!

[Count David]

Originally Posted by Fontucky

From personal experience, I'd say the trepidation is valid if you add the word North in front of Idaho...

HEIL!

Perhaps that was why I never saw a single black person in Coeur d'Alene or points northward. (Though I've seen several blacks in Moscow, and one playing a trumpet on a corner in Lewiston ).

Here's the latest case (but hate directed towards a Puerto Rican):
Coeur d'Alene brothers face third hate crime trial - Spokesman.com - April 30, 2010

I don't doubt your experience in the least, but I never felt threatened/hated on, only that people were nicer/more engaging on the WA side (generally). I'll add that the ID side is looking more and more IE-esque demographically as time goes on, if you know what I mean.

[waggie]

Originally Posted by Danalysd

I see lots of Asians here in Temecula, but thats usually when I am at the Casino...

as an asian, born in asia... i find this comment extremely hilarious two thumbs up for you!

[waggie]

it boils down to how much is it worth to you for you to have a "social" life that includes asian culture?

for the folks who don't understand why the OP is asking this type of question, just think of it as someone who is not familiar with asian culture but is buying a house in china town because of job availability.

for the OP, would you rather live paycheck to paycheck, and struggle to make large purchases while dealing with the lack of stability in your job... or would you go to a steady and let your kids have less exposure to asian culture?

Being American Born Chinese has nothing to do with how social you are. I'm sure you can make new friends with people who are not asian. Heck, I live in Upland, and i have no asian friends... heck, one of my good buddies (white) has MORE asian friends then i do.

some points to consider:
• dual language day care (in walnut/DB/OC/Irvine) = less financial stability (this is according to your post)

• child growing up in a financially stable house = english only day care? if you live in temecula with the more steady job, then maybe one of you can stay home with the child, so the child won't need day care. and you can teach the child any number of language you want.

• dual language day care is available in temecula (wont be chinese/japanese, it might be spanish, though)

• you're not moving to Missouri. Rowland heights/DB/Walnut is only 45 minutes away. the food is not going anywhere. besides, if you're further away from it, you'll enjoy it more when you get to have it. Secondly, maybe you can learn how to cook the food that's in those asian areas. Lastly, maybe you'll discover foods that are way better then asian food. I know temecula makes a mean tequila (google: temequila). By the way, I recently visited Sedalia, Missouri... even they have chinese restaurants there... SEVERAL, in fact. Heck, I randomly stopped in Wakeeney, Kansas, and there was a chinese restaurant there (believe me, it was a LEGIT chinese restaurant!). Wakeeney Kansas has 15 chinese people there, 99.22% of their customers are non-asian.

have you ever heard of Wakeeney, Kansas? neither have I until i needed to fill up my car and my belly.

my advice, one asian another, move there, get the steady job, make new friends, you live with "asian culture" all of your life... its time to try new things, and experience the American part of being Asian-AMERICAN... I've learn to embrace my inner-redneck (the redneck culture/mentality is not exclusive to whites, in my opinion, people of other colors can have the "redneck" mentality as well...there is this really funny episode of King of the Hills where the Kan's became rednecks...)

heck, for all i know, the job at temecula probably hired you because they thought you were good at math! milk it, baby! stressing over financial stability is way worse then stressing over dual language day care.

if your asian friends ask you why the hell you move "all the way out there" just tell them the Casinos in temecula pays better then vegas... they won't judge you after that.