I'm starting to feel the Seattle Freeze (cinema, high school)

[annonymous0381]

Since I have moved to Seattle in July I haven't met one person. At work no one wants to really be friends outside of work. All of my friends in California are very upset with me that I moved to Seattle that they no longer want to associate with me. I lost my girlfriend from California because I moved away to Seattle.

Over the past month I have been on two dates from woman I met online. After the dates were over the woman ignored my texts and phone calls.

Two months ago I joined a group for Jewish people in their 20s and 30s in Seattle. At the jewish events no one has exchanged phone numbers or wants to be friends outside of the events.

Is this the Seattle freeze?

I'm a 34 year old white single male.

[thedonwind]

I've felt it too buddy.

But the thing is, I don't really care lol.

It's not like it was so easy to make friends in SoCal either. The friends I have in SoCal are people I've known from high school. I can't think of any serious friend I have in SoCal that I didn't meet in high school or through another friend.

You are right, the Seattle freeze is real. But people can be like that anywhere.

[annonymous0381]

Originally Posted by thedonwind

I've felt it too buddy.

But the thing is, I don't really care lol.

It's not like it was so easy to make friends in SoCal either. The friends I have in SoCal are people I've known from high school. I can't think of any serious friend I have in SoCal that I didn't meet in high school or through another friend.

You are right, the Seattle freeze is real. But people can be like that anywhere.

After I left high school in Southern California I didn't make any friends. Many people who I left behind in southern California used me for money and nothing else.

[annonymous0381]

In the meantime I'm happy doing things alone in Seattle and it doesn't bother me.

[thedonwind]

Originally Posted by annonymous0381

In the meantime I'm happy doing things alone in Seattle and it doesn't bother me.

I have absolutely no family or prior friends here. They are all in SoCal and in other parts of the USA.

After moving to a city where you don't know anyone, you begin to realize how nice it is to spend time alone, to do things alone that you wouldn't normally do. For example, going to a bar alone or see a movie downtown or go to a park, or sit by the beach.

Every weekend I go to a bar or club alone and although I haven't gotten calls back from people I talk to, there is always someone new who approaches me to have a conversation. Guy or girl, doesn't matter to me, and it doesn't matter to me whether it's for romantic reasons. It's usually a guy who just says hello and sparks up a conversation.

This would not happen if you were there with a group... People are more likely to approach you if you are alone.

[annonymous0381]

Originally Posted by thedonwind

I have absolutely no family or prior friends here. They are all in SoCal and in other parts of the USA.

After moving to a city where you don't know anyone, you begin to realize how nice it is to spend time alone, to do things alone that you wouldn't normally do. For example, going to a bar alone or see a movie downtown or go to a park, or sit by the beach.

Every weekend I go to a bar or club alone and although I haven't gotten calls back from people I talk to, there is always someone new who approaches me to have a conversation. Guy or girl, doesn't matter to me, and it doesn't matter to me whether it's for romantic reasons. It's usually a guy who just says hello and sparks up a conversation.

This would not happen if you were there with a group... People are more likely to approach you if you are alone.

Today I went to a movie alone at Sundance Cinemas in the U district. Last night I went to Joey test kitchen in university village and the waitress gave me her phone number.

[RotseCherut]

Originally Posted by annonymous0381

Since I have moved to Seattle in July I haven't met one person. At work no one wants to really be friends outside of work. All of my friends in California are very upset with me that I moved to Seattle that they no longer want to associate with me. I lost my girlfriend from California because I moved away to Seattle.

Over the past month I have been on two dates from woman I met online. After the dates were over the woman ignored my texts and phone calls.

Two months ago I joined a group for Jewish people in their 20s and 30s in Seattle. At the jewish events no one has exchanged phone numbers or wants to be friends outside of the events.

Is this the Seattle freeze?

I'm a 34 year old white single male.

Shalom.. Upper 30s Jewish male.. I generally cannot make any Jewish friends here because I am right-wing and many Jews in the area are rigorously left-wing and think any Jew who doesn't vote or think as they do are not worthy of being called "Jews". I have attended some religious communities here, but I generally am not shomer or "religious" enough to be accepted there either. At most, I do get a lot of nice Shabbat meals, but I never make the grade to be "one of them". I wouldn't even be invited to a more reformed or secular Jew's household here in Seattle or most anywhere on the Left Coast, I mean West Coast.

Anyhow, if you don't mind a more right-wing oriented guy, I am always happy to meet a fellow Jew in the area, who can accept my differentiating political views on many of the mainstream issues that more secular Jews support. I'm a pretty accepting and open-minded person and have made friends from a variety of backgrounds, religions, socio-economic statuses. Being open-minded and putting your ego in check can be hard in a place like Seattle, where it seems where everyone is competing to get the upper hand on one another rather than try bond and help build each other up, as where I grew up in Oregon.

And, I do agree the Seattle Freeze is real, but I also believe that people in Seattle don't just go out and about meeting people. You have to join some movement, cause, clique or something with meaning to truly have a friend here.

[folkguitarist555]

http://www.jconnectseattle.org/

[Bolo99]

a few years ago I visited the Space Needle alone and went to grab some coffee and sat by myself, it was nice actually.

Bolo

[LowTune]

The people here tend to be very aloof and detached.