Why are Seatte/Puget Sound girls such flakes and so picky? - dating scene sucks here (Seattle: camp, live)

[cmswazey]

Maybe text less and phone more!

[OneTimeSEALover]

Originally Posted by Ruth4Truth

The single guys are participating in hikes with The Mountaineers, they're at REI (which organizes social events), they're in the canoe and kayak clubs, and in the neighborhood soccer leagues that the Parks Dept. organizes. A few are in the Parks Dept. martial arts classes, the Chi Gong-in-the-Park sessions on weekends, and are volunteering for the Folk Life organization that puts on the annual Folk Life Festival and other events. Some are at the Balkan dance evenings, others are into Contra dancing, others may be in Swing or Salsa dance groups.

I have a folk dancing friend who worked with my wife who spent years in Single Sierrans. Never really knew if it was for dating or not. Thing is, if you're active with something you like, it becomes less important if you end up in a dating situation. I don't understand a generation that considers pairing up an urgent necessity. Is the "clock ticking" or something? My wife of 27 years lived with me for 8 years before we finally decided to get married. It wasn't some sex orgy. Mostly it was figuring each other out. And we weren't that concerned about our peer group, either. A spouse is not some trophy to put on the shelf. But it seems to be what some people feel the lack of. I guess they are the "normal ones".

[87112]

The COMPLETE opposite of sausage feast Seattle

Go to 33:50 to see the choices he was set up with.


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FwKkOTf0dMg&t=2148s

The one with the light brown hair WOW!!

[Ruth4Truth]

Originally Posted by OneTimeSEALover

I have a folk dancing friend who worked with my wife who spent years in Single Sierrans. Never really knew if it was for dating or not. Thing is, if you're active with something you like, it becomes less important if you end up in a dating situation. I don't understand a generation that considers pairing up an urgent necessity. Is the "clock ticking" or something? My wife of 27 years lived with me for 8 years before we finally decided to get married. It wasn't some sex orgy. Mostly it was figuring each other out. And we weren't that concerned about our peer group, either. A spouse is not some trophy to put on the shelf. But it seems to be what some people feel the lack of. I guess they are the "normal ones".

I never considered it an "urgent necessity", but companionship is nice. In Seattle, it's hard to come by.

[OneTimeSEALover]

Originally Posted by Ruth4Truth

I never considered it an "urgent necessity", but companionship is nice. In Seattle, it's hard to come by.

Are people too busy to have any hobbies? I always figured a hobby gives you companionship. Especially if it is a busy one. But not sitting at home knitting or playing computer games. You could go schmooze at a casino. More you schmooze, less you lose. Get into a biking group? Belong to a bowling team? This is brainstorming, not brilliance. You get on a bowling team, boom! you have companions.

Heh heh, and then there's "companionship". A Swinging Singles club? Never knew anyone with that activity, but I'm guessing it exists.

[RotseCherut]

No matter how bad you think women are in Seattle, small-town America or small American cities suck way worse. There may be a few exceptions, like warm,sub-tropical places that attract lots of young single people looking for fun, but as a whole, they suck. Places like Boise are really G-d awful places to date. Basically, the only single girls are college girls and they tend to sleep around with half the guys on campus or the guys they work with. Living in this large town (that wrongly calls itself a city) I got to learn all about who had sex with who. Word travels fast around here and you definitely have to be part of a tight knit social circle to get yourself into the pants of girls here. If you work a low wage job and are surrounded by young attractive girls or go to the university here you generally will have a great time with dating the young, "Flaky", but horny and wild girls. However, once past the younger age everyone quickly rushes to settle down with whoever. I've never lived in a town where Tinder was actually considered a legitimate dating app. A lot of guys I meet in late 20s,30s even 40s are hooking up with their young college aged girlfriend via Tinder and quickly "Falling in Love" with them. Dating is very dramatic and most guys who are looking for serious "love" do online dating and end up with divorced older women with lots of drama. In addition, places like this have many desperate women who are provider hunters and only seek out security. People marry usually by 25 years old in places like Boise and divorce when they are older.. THere is a lot of pressure for girls to have babies, settle down and get married even if they don't have the resources or if they end up marry some loser they grew up with to achieve these goals.

Small American towns utterly suck for dating. Places like Seattle attract lots of young, single , independent women and women who are not running to get married right away and require you to go to their church in order to date them. No matter how much you will groan or complain about women in Seattle, there are so many more single women in Seattle than many places. The women may be flaky , stuck up and not great marriage material, but the entire country as a whole is having a moral crisis and you will not find your Disney princess very easily anywhere you go.

I have to say that after living in small town America, Seattle will be a breath of fresh air. Girls in smaller towns like Boise are constantly worried about their reputation, mistrust any outsider, since "Everyone Knows Everyone" and you have to deal with a serious amount of ego and provincilism from both women and men here. People seem to have a very highly inflated opinion of themselves and their self-worth. Never mind some of these people come from lower middle class families, are uneducated , are raging alcoholics or have families who are and in general are not really considered part of higher echelons of society. Yet, so many of them act as if they are of a superior class of people and look down on you.

Seattle certainly has some type of classism and ego and yes and mean , arrogant and self-righteous people can be insulting and hurt your morale anywhere you go. However, I think in a place like Seattle people are far more open-minded, easier to make friends with and women are more receptive to meeting men they do not know from a variety of backgrounds than in many of the backwatery small cities/overgrown towns in this country.

[OneTimeSEALover]

Thinking "Seattle women are picky because they are able to be?" Less typical to date or marry a meal ticket these days. Part of the progress of the last 50 years.

[lostsoul2015]

So I've travelled to Seattle every so often, and usually stay downtown. Man the women are so... pretty. Now I moved here and still the same - so pretty.
I was at Starbucks working and people watching and damn, 2 most amazing and beautiful women were walking outside and I froze completely - couldn't believe my eyes.

Then at a café/bakery, there were these 2 women (mature) who were so attractive and actually switched on with whatever they were talking about (business related I suspect). They didn't have a dumb look in their eyes or a phases look either. That alone was refreshing to see.

I can NEVER get women like that. I stand zero chance. Just don't get how it is even remotely possible to have a woman look at me with a smile. *sigh*

I never really see couples but then I guess the area I visit usually are "commuter" areas.
The street I live on is a residential street with many houses and no doubt those houses have families and still makes me wonder how on earth they managed to become together whilst I... watch the world fly by with beautiful women who don't even want to look at me.

grrr.

point is... I wish people were more warmer, approachable, less arrogant and stand off ish like they were 15+ years ago at least.

[OneTimeSEALover]

Originally Posted by Ruth4Truth

I never considered it an "urgent necessity", but companionship is nice. In Seattle, it's hard to come by.

No chance of me moving to Seattle, but as a correspondent with those putting out Northwest Folklife, I'm pretty sure I'd have "companionship" pretty soon after getting settled. The first thing I'd do is look up classmates who ended up settling there. Second thing would be attending dance nights I've written about.

[OneTimeSEALover]

By the way, how many Zumba classes in town (or nearby). My wife takes admissions at a place that has one, and I watch the people attending and think, "If I could do that 3 to 5 nights a week, I'd be more fit". Plus, of course, the inevitable small talk that happens at such events.