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No, it was in a small town though. The waitress giggled at me, and not in a nice way. It was more of a demeaning giggle. I didn’t like that.
Given she was young (probably late teens) and this was small town Appalachia, she probably never saw a vegetarian man or was raised by family to view them as beta males. I was stopping for lunch during a road trip.
Ofc...lots of men are vegetarian. BUT....it's a lot more manly if you are confident in you being you instead of looking for confirmation & approval from servers or strangers online about it IMO. AND.......why would servers always tease you in a mean way.......because of tips? It makes no sense.
Lol, I’m not looking for approval. I just want to make the server aware of my dietary choices.
Of course, I never have a problem in big cities. It’s quite customary to serve vegetarian customers there. But more isolated rural areas can get a bit iffy.
I just pack my own lunch these days and have a small hot logic box to keep it warm.
Maybe this has to do more with the OP and how he handled the situation rather than men being vegetarians. I remember I was at a workshop one time and someone offered a Snickers bar to someone else. Instead of just saying no thanks, as a normal person would, she said “oh no thanks, I can’t because I’m a vegan“(unlike you dirty savages). Ok, I made up the savages part, but she might as well have said that with the way it sounded.
Me personally, I can’t stand the taste or smell of chocolate. So every time someone offers chocolate I just say no thanks. If someone gives me a gift of chocolate I thank them, and then take it home for my wife and daughter to eat. I don’t make it a point to tell everyone that chocolate repulses me and I can’t stand the thought of anyone possibly eating it. I don’t feel the need to tell everyone my culinary palate.
Maybe this has to do more with the OP and how he handled the situation rather than men being vegetarians. I remember I was at a workshop one time and someone offered a Snickers bar to someone else. Instead of just saying no thanks, as a normal person would, she said “oh no thanks, I can’t because I’m a vegan“(unlike you dirty savages). Ok, I made up the savages part, but she might as well have said that with the way it sounded.
Me personally, I can’t stand the taste or smell of chocolate. So every time someone offers chocolate I just say no thanks. If someone gives me a gift of chocolate I thank them, and then take it home for my wife and daughter to eat. I don’t make it a point to tell everyone that chocolate repulses me and I can’t stand the thought of anyone possibly eating it. I don’t feel the need to tell everyone my culinary palate.
Like I said, There weren’t many vegetarian options on the menu, and it wasn’t clear to me which vegetarian items were available. Although, I have been to rural restaurants where they would cater for special needs like this. I asked the server “I’m a vegetarian and having a hard time finding items, is there any item you can recommend for me ?”. Usually they say “ok, here is what we can do” or “I’m sorry, you have to go elsewhere”. I was never criticized before this incident.
I’m male, in my 30’s, and I believe in doing my part to protect the environment. And I have been vegetarian for a long time.
However, when I talk about the fact that I’m vegetarian, I always get teased by the server (in a somewhat mean way), or told by other guys sitting next to me I’m a disgrace among men...
Like, why is doing my part to help reduce my carbon footprint seen as “unmanly”. I just don’t get it. Doesn’t part of being “manly” involve respecting the environment around you ?
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Like I said, There weren’t many vegetarian options on the menu, and it wasn’t clear to me which vegetarian items were available. Although, I have been to rural restaurants where they would cater for special needs like this. I asked the server “I’m a vegetarian and having a hard time finding items, is there any item you can recommend for me ?”. Usually they say “ok, here is what we can do” or “I’m sorry, you have to go elsewhere”. I was never criticized before this incident.
So it was a one time event, therefore it's always?
Did you also mention protecting the environment and reducing your carbon footprint? Now that would get a reaction in most rural areas because they know that's a joke. Unless you're growing a garden in your backyard, hand dug with a shovel, and weeded with a hoe, you're contributing to the "carbon footprint." There are hundreds of reasons to be vegetarian, but carbon footprint isn't one of them.
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No, it was in a small town though. The waitress giggled at me, and not in a nice way. It was more of a demeaning giggle. I didn’t like that.
Given she was young (probably late teens) and this was small town Appalachia, she probably never saw a vegetarian man or was raised by family to view them as beta males. I was stopping for lunch during a road trip.
Noticed you took several swipes at rural folks throughout this thread. One teenager giggled at you is apparently justification to negatively stereotype an entire class of people.
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Lol, I’m not looking for approval. I just want to make the server aware of my dietary choices.
Why do you have to make the server aware of your dietary choices tho? Just tell them what you're ordering...ha. My fiance isn't a vegetarian but he will order vegetarian dishes or fish sometimes. He doesn't explain himself...he just orders something off the menu. Nobody has ever been mean to him or criticized him in a restaurant for ordering a vegetarian dish.
AND....you're looking for approval online because you posted it in the 1st place...confirmation that you are being manly for what you order in a restaurant. It makes no sense to me. Just do you....& order what you want. That's more manly IMO.
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Ofc...lots of men are vegetarian. BUT....it's a lot more manly if you are confident in you being you instead of looking for confirmation & approval from servers or strangers online about it IMO. AND.......why would servers always tease you in a mean way.......because of tips? It makes no sense.
