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Old 03-10-2012, 10:51 AM
 
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Lots of good advice. We have very different personalities. I more like to dig into problems and come up with a good solution, and then present it to people. He more likes to knock heads and go from person to person to get results. He can be abrasive, but he gets things done.

One thing that drives me crazy is he tends to ignore / go contrary to / change what I've done. I'd probably say that is his biggest weakness -- thinking his way is always the best and not realizing other people do have good inputs. I work with plenty of other really smart and talented people. But I feel like they respect my opinions (and me), whereas this guy doesn't.
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Old 03-10-2012, 12:50 PM
 
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Lots of good advice. We have very different personalities. I more like to dig into problems and come up with a good solution, and then present it to people. He more likes to knock heads and go from person to person to get results. He can be abrasive, but he gets things done.

One thing that drives me crazy is he tends to ignore / go contrary to / change what I've done. I'd probably say that is his biggest weakness -- thinking his way is always the best and not realizing other people do have good inputs. I work with plenty of other really smart and talented people. But I feel like they respect my opinions (and me), whereas this guy doesn't.
If this individual is your equal - I'd put a stop to that right away. I'm also going to say 'watch your back' because I've met a few of those types too.

You might have to be a bit more aggressive to compete with the person you are describing.
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Old 03-10-2012, 05:27 PM
 
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Lots of good advice. We have very different personalities. I more like to dig into problems and come up with a good solution, and then present it to people. He more likes to knock heads and go from person to person to get results. He can be abrasive, but he gets things done.

One thing that drives me crazy is he tends to ignore / go contrary to / change what I've done. I'd probably say that is his biggest weakness -- thinking his way is always the best and not realizing other people do have good inputs. I work with plenty of other really smart and talented people. But I feel like they respect my opinions (and me), whereas this guy doesn't.
I am still waiting for you to tell me what your real job is. If you don't even know what your real job is, how can you do it well?
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Old 03-10-2012, 06:33 PM
 
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When I see someone who is where I want to be but I'm not, I observe them and try to figure out what they're doing that I'm not. It does me no good to be jealous, it does nothing to try to put them down (either out loud or even only "in my head"). Pick out one or two things that person is doing that you're not and try to emulate it.

We can all improve in SOME way. The only failure would be in wallowing in self-pity and jealousy.
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Old 03-10-2012, 06:43 PM
 
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hasn't been a problem
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Old 03-10-2012, 07:22 PM
 
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I guess you can look at it a different way. Being around someone better than you can make you better as well. You'll observe what they are doing that you are not and it will benefit you in the long-term. A year or two from now, one or both of you will have likely moved on and the skills that you have attained will no doubt benefit you. If you have a long-term mindset, you will more than likely be able to use this competition to your advantage.
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Old 03-11-2012, 07:58 AM
 
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I am still waiting for you to tell me what your real job is. If you don't even know what your real job is, how can you do it well?
My real job is to give the boss the information he needs to make the right decisions, preferably before he knows he needs it.
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Old 03-11-2012, 01:34 PM
 
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My real job is to give the boss the information he needs to make the right decisions, preferably before he knows he needs it.
No, it is not. :-(
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Old 03-11-2012, 05:29 PM
 
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No, it is not. :-(
Obviously you have a predetermined answer, so please provide.
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Old 03-11-2012, 05:33 PM
 
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Step 1, improve yourself to become the best.
Step 2, if Step 1 fails you just have to accept that you will not always be the best.
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