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I don't understand why some people don't get what stress is all about. Stress is a normal function of working in the United States, extreme to minor, it doesn't matter. You just learn how to deal with it your own way. Getting depressed and sad about it won't fix the problem with you coping with it. Learn to live and love stress.
I don't get why people don't understand everyone deals with stress differently. While some people can cope in their life with an extreme amount of stress, others can't and need help.
I don't get why people don't understand everyone deals with stress differently. While some people can cope in their life with an extreme amount of stress, others can't and need help.
No kidding! There are people all over this world living in war zones and coping with levels of stress that I know I wouldn't be able to. We all have different thresholds. One level of stress could be invigorating for one person but cause depression and anxiety in another.
I don't get why people don't understand everyone deals with stress differently. While some people can cope in their life with an extreme amount of stress, others can't and need help.
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Originally Posted by 55degrees
No kidding! There are people all over this world living in war zones and coping with levels of stress that I know I wouldn't be able to. We all have different thresholds. One level of stress could be invigorating for one person but cause depression and anxiety in another.
Next time someone from management comes up and approaches you and you freak out. Let me know if you still have your job. lulz
i would be super careful. when i was on it, i gained a ridiculous amount of weight. another relative who got in it a few years after i had gotten off, had the same problem.
Next time someone from management comes up and approaches you and you freak out. Let me know if you still have your job. lulz
I don't think anyone said anything about freaking out in front of your manager. It's how the stress affects you at home or at work when the manager isn't around. In my case, I kept my cool and asked very respectfully if there was something going on with my job and was told "no", which I found out later was a lie and actually, I knew it all along. THAT's the kind of stress I dealt with which eventually led to my health problems. Sure, if someone goes off on their manager and becomes combative or argumentative, yes, they would definitely lose their job on the spot.
I have been in your shoes. I landed a job in 2008 that I had been trying to get for years. The first four or five months were wonderful. Then the company moved it's headquarters to a new multi-million $$$ campus and consolidated all of the satellite offices under one roof. From that point on, the atmosphere became toxic. So much so that the truth about issues regarding jobs, and the future of your own job were never forthright. Lies were told to employees about their future with the company. Covert meetings between managers were held where the employees' futures with the company were decided without the employees' even knowing their job was in jeopardy. Mine included. I couldn't get a straight answer from anyone. The stress from worrying day after day about my job caused my blood pressure to skyrocket to dangerous levels and I basically had a nervous breakdown from it. My doctor wanted me to take time off. So, I exhausted all of my PTO and was into unexcused absences. My doctor faxed (twice) a statement to the HR department telling them that I was still under his care and my absences were to be considered FMLA from the first day after my PTO ended. However, the HR department called to tell me that they were terminating my employment because of unexcused absences/absenteeism and claimed they never received the faxes from my doctor. Bottom line -- don't assume the HR department will "do the right thing" because they won't. Regardless of your time with the company -- 1 year to 20 years, if they want you gone, you're gone.
Have you thought about retaining an attorney? You may be entitled to back wages and your job back. It sounds like what your employer did was illegal.
I don't understand why some people don't get what stress is all about. Stress is a normal function of working in the United States, extreme to minor, it doesn't matter. You just learn how to deal with it your own way. Getting depressed and sad about it won't fix the problem with you coping with it. Learn to live and love stress.
Love stress I wish I could take you to work with me. It's ever so much fun holding your urine for an hour as you run from one crisis to the next. A half hour lunch break? Don't make me laugh. You learn to eat really fast and if you're lucky you finish before someone interrupts you. Team work? Really? Everyone else is stretched to the limit and they can't help you. I worried about losing my license at my last job, that's how dangerous the work load was. I'm off for another 3 weeks with a broken ankle and I can't believe how good I feel right now. I've had to literally deal with life and death situations for over 20 years now and I can't wait for it to be over. There's character building stress and there's relentless in your face high octane STRESS. That's the stress that kills. How can that be good
Have you thought about retaining an attorney? You may be entitled to back wages and your job back. It sounds like what your employer did was illegal.
I spoke with a friend who is an attorney, about it. He told me that even if I succeeded in getting back pay and my job back, it would probably only be temporary because then the company would have been forced to rehire me and from that point forward, they would have made my work life miserable. So, I had to ask myself, "Do I really want to go through that again?" The answer was a resounding, "No!"
Also, since the separation notice they mailed to me had excessive absenteeism on it for reason for termination, the unemployment office viewed that as misconduct and they denied my unemployment. I had to appeal it (with the help of my doctor) and won the appeal and got the unemployment from them.
HR departments can be very cutthroat, when necessary. As much as people like to think the HR staff is their friend, 9 times out of 10, they are not.
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I wish I could take you to work with me. It's ever so much fun holding your urine for an hour as you run from one crisis to the next. A half hour lunch break? Don't make me laugh. You learn to eat really fast and if you're lucky you finish before someone interrupts you. Team work? Really? Everyone else is stretched to the limit and they can't help you. I worried about losing my license at my last job, that's how dangerous the work load was. I'm off for another 3 weeks with a broken ankle and I can't believe how good I feel right now. I've had to literally deal with life and death situations for over 20 years now and I can't wait for it to be over. There's character building stress and there's relentless in your face high octane STRESS. That's the stress that kills. How can that be good
