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I think sometimes there is jealousy of people who are either about to get married, or are newlyweds. Sometimes it comes from frustration of having been single for a long time, or newly divorced. There can be envy and resentment.
I think sometimes there is jealousy of people who are either about to get married, or are newlyweds. Sometimes it comes from frustration of having been single for a long time, or newly divorced. There can be envy and resentment.
There isn't a problem. I just don't care. I got married a few years and didn't discuss it at work. I don't discuss my personal life at work. Period.
Some people are just friendlier and more sociable than others. I run into people all long who have no social skills, you say "hello" and they either do not respond or barely respond. Not my problem, I just consider the source. It is their problem not mine, but it sure must be Hell, going through life like that.
A coworker recently returned from her destination wedding and honeymoon. She hasn't stopped talking about it since yesterday. And shes VERY loud so she can make sure EVERYONE can here her. So annoying.
I don't plan on asking her about it because I don't want to be forced to sit and listen like I give a toss.
Whats the best way to avoid conversations with these kinds of people?
I guess she stops by you and is verbally communicating. If thats the case, how about indirectly reminding her about her pending work in a nice way. For eg: If you are dependent on her work, when she starts talking her personal stuff tell her you are waiting on her work to start yours and ask for her work status. Or ask hows the project you are working on. Or where did you learn XYZ work skills from, I am thinking to learn it too.
Another way would be sneak out from there for a while. Something like I need to make this call, I will talk to you later. Or I need to go take this print out. After that if starts via text messages on internal work chat, just don't respond and you can say you were busy.
One of my colleague/friend at work does that a lot. I am not interested in her personal stuff, but she keeps on sending me text messages and I have started ignoring it since last couple of weeks. She keeps on talking about her date life on work chat system, messages like she is not a mood to work (I get this message everyday, twice a day) and she also gets sick minimum 3 times in 8 hours of work everyday. I will get a text about she having a headache, after sometime body ache, then cold. Sometimes she is sleepy, has stomach disorder, cold and good knows what other stuff.
I have zero issues with her. And just because I prefer to be aloof doesn't mean I have issues.
But it's been less than 24 hours. Why so irritated? Has no one ever raved about a vacation, birth of a child, new job, retirement, etc. at work before? I think you're not being honest with yourself.
A coworker recently returned from her destination wedding and honeymoon. She hasn't stopped talking about it since yesterday. And shes VERY loud so she can make sure EVERYONE can here her. So annoying.
I don't plan on asking her about it because I don't want to be forced to sit and listen like I give a toss.
Whats the best way to avoid conversations with these kinds of people?
Just say never mind the wedding stories hit me up when you get divorced. That's the part I wanna hear. That should cool the room.
I don't care about most things other people talk about. If I care about the person talking (and/or our relationship), I'll fake interest. If the conversation gets excessive I'll give brief, disinterested feedback until the other person gets it that I don't care. Sometimes I change the subject myself. Usually people can pick up on it when I don't want to continue talking about a particular subject. That being said I'm not typically bothered by such things. I'd much rather listen to someone at work go on and on about their own life than have that person ask me personal questions about my life.
I think coming back from one's wedding is an exceptional life experience. I would expect to put up with a little more forced conversation for a week or so.
Glad I'm not alone in this.
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