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Why does every woman who doesn't want kids or doesn't like to cook make it seem like it's something shameful? I think it's great that you realize that's not what you want and don't have kids just to fit in with a particular "group". That's no reason to have kids and I don't think there's a person in the world who would fault you for that, but there's no need to get so defensive. Truth is, there are some of us who DO want that, and we're treated like we're horrible lowlife disgraces to women for wanting a family or finding satisfaction in nurturing and caring for our families, especially if we do that full time. What difference does it make?? Why is that so horrible? I'm a working (in the employed sense) mom, and I am a very intellegent person, but I can tell you that being a mom is the single most challenging job I have ever or will ever have, but I find it the most rewarding too.
Not exactly what I was trying to get across.... Some women want to have a family, my mom certainly did and I commend her on being an absolutely wonderful mother. What I was getting defensive about is the fact that he said 'all women really just want to be in the kitchen' That's not true, not ALL women want to be in the kitchen. Some may, that's great! I chose not too, and that's great too! Parenting is difficult, I'll grant you that and I really am amazed at the women and men who choose to have children and raise them. I just don't think that he should have insinuated that every single woman secretly wants to serve her man and children, that's all
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I agree, Jetjockey. I loved being a Mom but also wanted a job outside the home, which I took when my kids were about 8 & 10 years old. My husband told me "This will be the end of our marriage"...and he was right. He made such a constant fuss that we ended up divorcing several years later. He had been raised a strict Luthern and could not understand why I was not content in the kitchen, doing housework and taking care of our kids like his mom did. Actually I do not fault him at all, even though it sounds as if I am...I should have seen the problem before we married. I was never "content" being a wife & mom alone...call it a character flaw or whatever, but I needed to be out in the world also. I was a great mom and wife, by the way....well, my ex probably would disagree on the wife part.
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You mean Neo, right?
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