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I dance the Charleston on the table while everyone's eyes are closed.
Seriously, it's not that that difficult an issue. Just sit in silence, perhaps even with head bowed, while prayer is said, and when it's done, you look back up and start eating.
As a believer, I still don't like the saying grace thing at meals. I am thankful but I can do it in my own time and way. I'd much rather just dig in.
When at the BF's relatives, they like the grace so I just sit quietly until their finished. They always ask me to say grace since I'm a minister but I do decline. Hate being put on the spot for anothers pleasure. To me, prayer isn't about the words anyway. And they even go so far as to get it going around the table as why you are thankful. Don't care for that much either but I play along.
At my families, we just dig in. No grace because it was never practiced my whole life. Of course, they've been inviting other relatives lately who do like grace. I'm skipping oout this year though. I'm leaning towards the BF, son and me for dinner. Don't feel like the family thing this year. Snow storm last year going to BF's family and an argument with the nieces BF's family about the bible and beating children at my nieces the following weekend. Too much drama crap for me. Quiet sounds sooo good this year!!!
I would like to say I get up and moon the table, but in truth I let them finish while I plan the attack on the cheese tray; uninterrupted by my wife, who is judging how fast she can move the cheese tray out of my reach soon as they say amen.
2. If asked to say the prayer and conceding to do so, you seriously intone, after a long breathy intake and exhale...
"Three pieces of pie for four of us; thank the Lord there's no more of us!"
This will, of course, potentially get some of the less confident ones off their seats, so you may have to defend yourself. Pie forks @ 10 paces.....
One would think that since a blessing to Jesus is being done this shouldn't be an issue. I mean afterall, if you can feed five thousand with five loaves and two fish, then three pieces of pie among four (or even ten) should be no problem at all!
For myself and my family, we just sit quietly until the blessing is over. No reason not to be polite as a blessing doesn't hurt anyone.
Last edited by Fullback32; 10-19-2009 at 11:30 AM..
One would think that since a blessing to Jesus is being done this shouldn't be an issue. I mean afterall, if you can feed five thousand with five loaves and two fish, then four pieces of pie among four (or even ten) should be no problem at all!
Now this bread and two fish issue is one thing, but can he do it with a good aged cheddar cheese. With that cheese you might have something to bring to the table so to speak.
Now this bread and two fish issue is one thing, but can he do it with a good aged cheddar cheese. With that cheese you might have something to bring to the table so to speak.
Hey, when Jesus decides to poof endless fresh, delicious sushi into existence for me, we'll talk about conversion.
I also respectfully decline to participate in prayer by simply sitting there in silence. If they're really into the prayer, their eyes should be closed. If someone comments on your lack of participation, politely tell them that you're just not comfortable going against your beliefs (or lack thereof). Then promptly change the subject.
Respect is a two way street. The religious are expected to show it as well, no matter whose roof is hanging over everyone's head.
2 way street????if it were a 2 way street camp pendleton would be out of business friend. somebody elses home somebody elses table, you owe when you walk in the door.
they dont have to meet your approval or your requirements to be worthy of respect, when you picked up that fork you owe it
2 way street--- people on the hood love to say that
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The sound of silence...
If someone comments on your lack of participation, politely tell them that you're just not comfortable going against your beliefs (or lack thereof). Then promptly change the subject.
