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The male friend lives at the same apartment complex my husband and I live at.
According to my husband, I, or anyone else, would have to take the initiative to rekindle the friendship since she will not do that because in her mind anyone who needs time and space away from her chose to walk out on her and not come back.
so again, "how is this a problem for you" deserves a hearing here. Recognize that it is just more codependence to feel like you need to "fix" anything here. If it was a closer relationship, familial or something, i would suggest enlisting the male..."friend," but frankly i would not even view the relationship as a friendship, per se. These people cannot be your friends, as they have already demonstrated.
so again, "how is this a problem for you" deserves a hearing here. Recognize that it is just more co dependence to feel like you need to "fix" anything here. If it was a closer relationship, familial or something, i would suggest enlisting the male..."friend," but frankly i would not even view the relationship as a friendship, per se. These people cannot be your friends, as they have already demonstrated.
That is something I do not want to do. So would the best suggestion be to let her come to me instead?
That is something I do not want to do. So would the best suggestion be to let her come to me instead?
The best suggestion is to ignore them both and stay out of it. Tell your husband if he wants to continue a relationship with these morons to go ahead, but you're done.
That is something I do not want to do. So would the best suggestion be to let her come to me instead?
well, you must do what you think best, but why go to her? What would be the point? I mean, define this for yourself, i don't need to know, but recognize your own proclivity for becoming codependently entangled, some desire to "fix" her, perhaps, etc. Might even be...whatever, access to drugs or something, lol. Fine, but then recognize that that is a codependent relationship.
well, you must do what you think best, but why go to her? What would be the point? I mean, define this for yourself, i don't need to know, but recognize your own proclivity for becoming co dependently entangled, some desire to "fix" her, perhaps, etc. Might even be...whatever, access to drugs or something, lol. Fine, but then recognize that that is a codependent relationship.
My husband encouraged me to be friends with her and her male friend. This was back in 2012 when we were dating. We got married in 2013. I did not recognize the co dependency until this year. My husband told me that she has been like this since he has known her. He met her back in the 1990's.
Only God can change some one from the inside, but they must let Him in .
The very best you can do is ask God to teach you how to pray for them, and assume your role is an obedient example of Gods love ,doing as He instructs on their behalf. if nothing then settle with that.
Only God can change some one from the inside, but they must let Him in .
The very best you can do is ask God to teach you how to pray for them, and assume your role as an obedient example of Gods love doing as He instructs on their behalf. if nothing then settle with that.
Her response was Sometimes it does not feel this way.
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