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Yes, but only when they haven't seen or heard me. It's because my first name is usually given for males. I have thought about changing my name a few times in my life, but I felt like I wasn't really myself if I changed the name I grew up with. I'm always pleased when someone emails me with a Ms. knowing they must've done some research before they emailed me. The ones that address me by Mr. go straight to the trash.
On the other hand, I did run into a person who I really thought was male, but she was female. She really looked like a man, even had a noticeable mustache and her voice was deep like a man. Then one day I saw her carrying a purse over her shoulders and someone called out her name, "Vicki." I was quite stunned. I never learned if she was a trans or not.
Yes, but only when they haven't seen or heard me. It's because my first name is usually given for males. I have thought about changing my name a few times in my life, but I felt like I wasn't really myself if I changed the name I grew up with.
On the other hand, I did run into a person who I really thought was male, but she was female. She really looked like a man, even had a noticeable mustache and her voice was deep like a man. Then one day I saw her carrying a purse over her shoulders and someone called out her name, "Vicki." I was quite stunned. I never learned if she was a trans or not.
Maybe he/she had parents like you who gave him/her a name who is usually given to someone the opposite gender
So interesting how we are paralysed by gender and sex. It seems very important to us that we be one or the other. If there is confusion or mistakes, it makes us very worried.
So interesting how we are paralysed by gender and sex. It seems very important to us that we be one or the other. If there is confusion or mistakes, it makes us very worried.
Especially by those who are trying to force everyone else to recognize them using specific pronouns so they won' be upset because it is so upsetting that in some places you will be guilty of a crime if you don't use the *accepted* pronouns.
Shocking isn't it. We got along fine without a peep about gender until the last few years.
I've never been mistaken for the opposite gender that I know of. I did mistake a woman for a man once. It's a pretty vivid memory because it was so embarrassing. I wish I had just made the mistake from afar, but no. She had very short hair and her clothes seemed to scream "male" to me. Oddly enough, she had one of the most dainty voices I've ever heard. She was pretty offended when I mistook her for a man and I literally ran away because I didn't know what to say.
Shocking isn't it. We got along fine without a peep about gender until the last few years.
Obviously not everyone got along fine until the last few years. In fact, this is exactly the kind of remark a lot of white people made during the Civil Rights movement; saying "everything was fine until all them black folks started to want equality."
As a kid, yes a lot. In all fairness, I had short hair and dressed like a boy and was thrilled people mistook me for one I've mistaken kids a few times, and there are some adults I'm unsure about gender. Take away hair and any obvious genitalia and girls and boys don't always look that different anyway.
But on the phone, when giving my name as "Jim" the other person often asks "Jin?" or "June"? This sort of thing happens only when trying to deal with big companies or organizations, though, as a result of the bad connections that seem to be almost inevitable these days.
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