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i understood the point you were making. my point was not just the op but what a few other posters were harping on is irrevelant because as you say preference can coincide with racism. as in the area of personal relationships, it really is not something you can address whether it's prejudice or not or defined that way.
They wouldn't let me rep you so, yes I agree whole heartedly with your entire post, but I used to say" think with your big head not your little one"
Again, what are you? Miu's puppydog?
I'm not saying that what Miu is saying isn't valid, but dang, you are a creepy poster if all you do is follow and rep her all the time. Miu! Watch out, you have a stalker!
I'm not saying that what Miu is saying isn't valid, but dang, you are a creepy poster if all you do is follow and rep her all the time. Miu! Watch out, you have a stalker!
Why don't you chill, I just tend to agree with most of what he/she says.
I am a black male, and most people have said and rated me very attractive and very intelligent. I graduated from one of the top private universities in the country and I hold a very good job for a person my age. I also have traveled around the world and have noticed a huge disparity on how women from other countries treat me compared to how most women in America treat me.
It just seems as if most women born in this country who are white, Asian, Latina etc; are so hesitant to actually start a relationship with me. There is no doubt they show there is obvious interest in me with them sending me text messages and giving me there numbers, flirting with me in the office, inviting me to some special events. However when it comes to you know starting a real relationship and even showing you want to commit, they run around circles and play games. Almost as if they are scared to have them meet there parents. I once asked this beautiful white female out who I knew was interested in me from the start and it took almost four months of leading her and basically just asking her out until she finally agreed to go on a date. Our relationship only lasted two months and it seems all of my relationships with women raised in this country last only from one night to two months.
It is completely different with the woman I encountered from other countries. I met this one Japanese girl who was cute and goofy, and our strange relationship lasted long. She was willing to use her money out of her own expense to take me to Japan to meet her family and get married. She was serious about it too, saw the ticket and everything. I also once dated this girl from Spain, and she was very open-minded from the start...I even met her family.
I also had this long relationship with a white woman from Germany. We dated and went to Germany together for a couple months. I can tell you my experience as a black man in Germany on a daily basis was much more positive than my experience as a black man in America. I felt the people there automatically gave me respect. No long stares, great conversations, and hardly any of it had to do with me being black. Ironically, it is like that when I go to any other European country, I just feel that I am more respected and accepted. Who would have thought I would feel comfortable in a sea of white faces, however this issue belongs in another board I guess.
I also conducted a fun experiment where I joined a dating web site for fun. I set up a quick profile with some of my pics. I decided to chat with 10 women who were from the states, and 10 women who were located internationally. My main goal was to be direct about what I wanted and ask them for their personal information. The 10 women I chatted with who were not from the states, were not uptight at all. They were willing to give out personal info about themselves, and eight out of the 10 of them even gave me there number. The only time the fact I was black came up and this was when one of them said it was there wish to have sex with a black man.
The 10 women I chatted from who were from different parts of the USA, asked follow up questions, seemed very uptight and thought I was being rude, brought up race and giving excuses that they have not been in a biracial relationship before. They tried to give me other options like maybe an email or aim at first and all that other nonsense.
Why has the World or at least the Eastern Hemisphere put race aside however America has not? Maybe that is the real question. Why am I not truly accepted by the mainstream in when basically I did everything right here in America, but the world accepts me? An answer to the question I posed is the American media that continues to belittle and defame black people, and portray our culture as inferior. There are other variables, and I could use other examples based on current evens to validate my point. It is so ironic indeed.
Why are you so obsessed with dating any woman besides a black woman? If your true intent was to find a mate regardless of race/ethnicity, then you would not be on this board complaining. You are obviously looking for some sort of validation from non-black women that you aren't receiving. The question you should be asking yourself is why would you spend so much time thinking about women who aren't giving you two thoughts? And I am not referring to the women in any specific racial or ethnic group. Rather what I am saying is if Susie does not like you, then move on. Whether Susie is white, purple, or orange makes no difference. You can't force someone to like you or be attracted to you. And I also do not think a person's dating preference determines their level of respect for a person or even indicates any type of racism; and for the record I am a woman of color.
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Just to throw a curveball into this thread, at my banking job, I get the most disrespect from who? Black women. Let me tell you the background.
Me and another black man started working at this job at the beginning of the month. We get the most disrepect out of anyone who works in the branch. I find it sad that the black female clientale who should be happy that their brothers are well-represented in the company (including a vice president and an IT dept head) really in a lot cases show so little respect to their brothers who are trying to do an honest days work.
I'm so tired of BLACK women complaining about how their black men don't respect them when in a lot of cases they show so much disrespect to black men who are actually handling their business. Is it any wonder why more and more GOOD black men are turning to women of other races? Because us good black men are looking for respect and are finding that our women are giving it to the thugs and any lowlife with a few dollars in his pocket instead of us.
I did have problems with a lot of hispanic women at my last job and not just because of the language barrier. Some of them just had no respect for me whatsoever and one who was on the teller line with me just started feuds with me for no other reason even when I tried to respect her. Some may be intimidated by a 6'4 295lb black man when most of their husbands are 5'5 and shorter and are more masterable.
With asian and white women, I often find when I respect them, the favor gets returned. Of course there are exceptions.
The moral of this story is us GOOD black men, love to be respected and will go to anyone who will give it to us regardless of color.
Because us good black men are looking for respect and are finding that our women are giving it to the thugs and any lowlife with a few dollars in his pocket instead of us.
With asian and white women, I often find when I respect them, the favor gets returned. Of course there are exceptions.
I'm so tired of BLACK men viewing Black women as monolithic.
The moral of THIS story is that when one has problems with an entire group of people (Black, White, Asian, Hispanic, male, female, gay) one needs to take a close look at themselves. The problem lies within.
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Originally Posted by baybook
I'm so tired of BLACK men viewing Black women as monolithic.
The moral of THIS story is that when one has problems with an entire group of people (Black, White, Asian, Hispanic, male, female, gay) one needs to take a close look at themselves. The problem lies within.
I know that black women aren't monolithic (had to look that one up). But a lot of black women think black men are monolithic.
I know that black women aren't monolithic (had to look that one up). But a lot of black women think black men are monolithic.
Again with the generalizations. ;-)
Prehaps you simply hang around the wrong women. If most of the White/Black/Gay/Straight/Asian/Hispanic people I meet/know are small/closed/narrow minded people.... well, what does that say about me??? If you think Black women are a monolith in how they view Black men.... what does that say about you?
As my Dad likes to say, "Water meets it's own level". Look within.
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Okay.
Miu! Watch out, you have a stalker! 
Sure. *leaves*