Please register to participate in our discussions with 2 million other members - it's free and quick! Some forums can only be seen by registered members. After you create your account, you'll be able to customize options and access all our 15,000 new posts/day with fewer ads.
Hi everyone. I am not sure how to start, so I am just going to jump right in.
My dad was diagnosed with Melanoma 6 months ago. He was perfectly healthy except for a patch of skin that didn't seem to be healing. He took a couple of weeks to get it checked out because he was working 60 hour weeks and thought that it was just a sign of getting older (65) that his little wound just wasn't healing quickly. They discovered that it was very aggressive so they took a very aggressive route with treatment. Unfortunately, it spread quickly to his brain and started impacting his speech and motor skills. In August, he went from working 60 hours a week on his feet to barely being able to walk to the bathroom. For the past month, he was completely bed ridden and my mom (his wife of 43 years) became his caregiver. He passed at 4:35 on Wednesday morning with my mom and my sisters at his side. He was the head of the family. He was the rock.
One thing that made this much harder is that my brother is in prison for an accident that happened a few years ago. We were able to get him a furlough a couple of weeks ago to come home and see Dad one more time. That was such a blessing because we didn't think that would be possible.
The day after his passing was my DD's 8th birthday. That has been a blessing and a curse. My poor daughter's birthday will always have a sadness with it, but at the same time we have something to celebrate to help lift out spirits. Her party is today because we are trying to keep her life as normal as possible under these circumstances. We have his services tomorrow.
So far, I am grieving but am ok.
I was happy to stumble across this forum. I am much more active over in Parenting and just happened to stumble across this today.
Hi num1baby. I am so sorry for the loss of your dad. What a tragic story, it is amazing how quickly the melanoma spread.
You have come to the right place here, for we all have lost someone we love and understand what you are going through. You are just beginning your grieving process. Take your time, there is no right or wrong way to grieve. We are here for you to help you through this.
Location: West of the Catalinas East of the Tortolitas
4,922 posts, read 8,568,915 times
Reputation: 8044
Welcome num1baby! I'm so sorry you lost your dad. That's hard, especially near the holidays. I hope you'll drop in and let us know how you're doing.
I know how you feel about your daughter's birthday. My mother-in-law died the day after my son's 8th birthday. The good news is that he wasn't tuned into what day she died, really, so over the years it hasn't been an issue. We would mention it in passing, out of earshot of him, but made sure to focus on his special day. We didn't want him to grow up associating his birthday with the day his grandmother passed, as he was young enough that he was sad, but not devestated, and now doesn't really remember her (he's 23).
Woo whoo, Marcy and tn. Peyton did it. I saw the last quarter after the Pats steamrolled over the Colts.
Peyton is playing for the Broncos....you got that, right? lol
Please register to post and access all features of our very popular forum. It is free and quick. Over $68,000 in prizes has already been given out to active posters on our forum. Additional giveaways are planned.
Detailed information about all U.S. cities, counties, and zip codes on our site: City-data.com.
Please register to participate in our discussions with 2 million other members - it's free and quick! Some forums can only be seen by registered members. After you create your account, you'll be able to customize options and access all our 15,000 new posts/day with fewer ads.
