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You know what was interesting to me? I lost my darling husband unexpectedly a bit over three years ago. Now, clearly I needed something on the front end to deal with things, but my doc would only write a prescription for me for two weeks, and then I had to go back to her. She said then, "Your depression seems situational, not chronic, so as your situation improves, I feel like your mood will also improve." She did not write me a prescription for anti depressants or anti anxiety meds or whatever. I liked that actually. I felt like she knew me and knew that I wouldn't do all that well on meds. I remember her specifically saying, "In your case, meds would be like kicking a can down the road."
You know what was interesting to me? I lost my darling husband unexpectedly a bit over three years ago. Now, clearly I needed something on the front end to deal with things, but my doc would only write a prescription for me for two weeks, and then I had to go back to her. She said then, "Your depression seems situational, not chronic, so as your situation improves, I feel like your mood will also improve." She did not write me a prescription for anti depressants or anti anxiety meds or whatever. I liked that actually. I felt like she knew me and knew that I wouldn't do all that well on meds. I remember her specifically saying, "In your case, meds would be like kicking a can down the road."
Absolutely true.
My 911 "escape-mate" was given tranquilizers to deal with her PTSD and told by her family to get over it, since a distant cousin, a firefighter, had been killed and her trauma was given the "at least your not dead" attitude, accompanied by a few prescriptions.
It took her a year and some therapy before she returned to work after she decided to stop taking meds. She has no memory of attending a family wedding, but she also missed the opportunity to sort out her trauma and heal with her surviving coworkers who returned to put the agency back together.
Drugs can be useful in their place, but they are not always the answer. Grief cannot be medicated away.
There's a BIG difference in being unhappy and being clinically depressed. Many people, docs included, throw around the word depressed pretty casually. Depression has to meet strict clinical criteria. We can all be unhappy people or have depressing times. Some people exit the womb being fairly unhappy and stay that way their entire lives. And some people have personality disorders which contribute immensely to being unhappy. So much of how we feel depends on our genetics, environment, parentage, health, toxins, diets, life events, etc. There is an important concept garnering more attention these days: The concept of GOOD ENOUGH. Who knew that holding a concept of Good Enough and applying to any facet of our lives could actually result in achieving or experiencing higher standards and accomplishments?
Zombie thread. Was first posted 12 years ago. Hopefully the op is not unhappy or depressed anymore.
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Good Enough Concept
