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Perhaps you should discard the antiquated notion that a woman's worth is determined by her marital status. So what if you don't get married? You can still lead a healthy, productive, fulfilling and enjoyable life without a husband.
No, I can't. Even if I'm not married, my life still has no value because I'm dark & Black. Most people value lightskin
The colour of you skin is irrelevant. There are beautiful women of all shades and colours, and beauty is not a virtue - it is a genetic inheritance. What's more important are your values, your personality, your intelligence and your sense of humour.
The other factor is what you believe the purpose of life is. If you think your life's purpose is solely to have a man in your life, to get married or be in a relationship, then you are basing your self-worth and self-fulfillment on someone else, and that's never good.
You need to learn to love yourself, then invest in yourself and pursue goals that improve your character, make you feel good about yourself (volunteering and helping others are especially beneficial activities) and when you finally realize that you a wonderful person who deserves more than a man, then you might just find what your purpose in life.
IMO, romance and marriage are not a very good purpose in life. Just an important aspect of it. Work on yourself (not your physical self, but your spiritual and intellectual assets) and the rest will follow.
Then make your life valuable. Go out there and be proud of whom and what you are. If you like yourself, other people will like you, too.
If you life is meaningless, give it a meaning. Help others who need help. They will appreciate it. Help animals, children in need, old people, sick people, the environment, ....Being appreciated might give you some sense of being NEEDED.
I like dark people. I am super white and hate my super white skin, but so what, it is how it is. Can't change it. Only Michael Jackson can change skin colors. Didn't make him happy though.
Get a profile at an online dating site with a picture, even if you don't intend on using it to find somebody. I bet you will have multiple responses within days. There is somebody for everybody.
The colour of you skin is irrelevant. There are beautiful women of all shades and colours, and beauty is not a virtue - it is a genetic inheritance. What's more important are your values, your personality, your intelligence and your sense of humour.
The other factor is what you believe the purpose of life is. If you think your life's purpose is solely to have a man in your life, to get married or be in a relationship, then you are basing your self-worth and self-fulfillment on someone else, and that's never good.
You need to learn to love yourself, then invest in yourself and pursue goals that improve your character, make you feel good about yourself (volunteering and helping others are especially beneficial activities) and when you finally realize that you a wonderful person who deserves more than a man, then you might just find what your purpose in life.
IMO, romance and marriage are not a very good purpose in life. Just an important aspect of it. Work on yourself (not your physical self, but your spiritual and intellectual assets) and the rest will follow.
Even in non-romantic relationships, my darkskin skin color is still a huge burden. I'm still treated less than. So again, what reasons do I have to live since my life has no value whatsoever?
I don't even see the point in my existance. I am darkskin, Black with African features. To make it worst, I'm a woman. Most men and women in society think lighter skin is better. Darkskinned Black women like me have a harder time finding mates and getting married. I'm discriminated against more. The outlook for me to get married is not good at all. What is the point of me living? I don't see any at all. I feel my existence is meaningless. I feel that I would be better off dead.
I love you and I don't even know you. If you walk about thinking "am I ever black and ugly" you are not ever going to be less black but you will be more unattractive. I have seen "beautiful" woman on the street..who are born with nice features BUT there is such a look of bitterness and distrust on their faces that they may as well be ugly as sin...I suggest you need a spirit boost. Once the spirit is soaring men and woman will gravitate towards you.
I am older and was very attractive when I was younger....now as an older male there are days when some woman will not give me a second glance- BUT there are days when my spirit and confidence are up and people are attracted to me like flies to honey. It's in the soul my dear...realize that your beauty is not gagged by western Hollywood standards- get rid of the bad attitude and let it shine...put the angel back in your heart and all will love you------------------GLOW!
Secondly - don't feel sorry for yourself- end the pity party......."You had better get busy living or you will waste your time being busy dying....Live....I am approaching the end of my life and no way am I going to ever give up. It is you that discriminates against you- STOP IT.
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