How many of you make having friends of different races apart of your socila life? (present, college)

[Forever Blue]

I don't set out to make friends with other races from myself. I know I don't care what race they are becasue that's not what I'm thinking about first when I try to make friends with someone. I'm a female & ironically, most of my friends (same gender as me) happened to be one of the races that I am (since I'm biracial), HOWEVER, my boyfriends have mostly been another race than me. That's just how it turned out.

[R.J. Kencade]

Originally Posted by WyoEagle

You wouldn't hire the best qualified people? I really don't understand the obsession with diversity just for the sake of diversity. You hire someone because they are the best qualified and you become friends with someone because they have common interests.

Anyone involved with hiring knows "qualified" is a loaded word. Take your thinking higher than your "default" response.

Look at ANY Gov't agency and there are a large amount of people that are ex-militray. They are qualified but as a result of having a military background, they get selected first. I'm fine with that.


Mom and Dad said life isn't fair. That applies to white men too. Balance the playing field. White guys aren't the only people that are "qualified". White men are more than represented in Senior Level positions and it's not always because they are the most "qualified". You really don't believe that do you?

Diversity is good.

[Lital_The_Best]

I don't make it a priority. I have friends of all sorts of races, ethnicity's, creeds etc. I was always interesting in different types of people but I never said or told myself "I want to make friends with this or that person because of their race". For me, it was always a really, really natural thing for me to have friends of other races and was never a thought. Like some have mentioned, we either click or we don't. Same race or different race.

[NDak15]

Originally Posted by R.J. Kencade

Anyone involved with hiring knows "qualified" is a loaded word. Take your thinking higher than your "default" response.

Look at ANY Gov't agency and there are a large amount of people that are ex-militray. They are qualified but as a result of having a military background, they get selected first. I'm fine with that.


Mom and Dad said life isn't fair. That applies to white men too. Balance the playing field. White guys aren't the only people that are "qualified". White men are more than represented in Senior Level positions and it's not always because they are the most "qualified". You really don't believe that do you?

Diversity is good.

Qualified means qualified, period. I get so sick of hearing about what race or gender is "represented" in a certain job. It's called pulling yourself up by your boot straps. Yes, most people are hired for jobs because they are qualified. There is nothing good or bad about diversity. When dealing with jobs the most qualified person should be hired and when dealing with friendships you become friends with people who have common interests. Doing things just to be "diverse" shouldn't be a goal.

[animalcrazy]

Yes I have friends of other races. One of my best friends is Filipino and the other is black. I'm white. I don't care what color you are. If you're a good person and make me laugh, you're in. (Being a good cook helps too. I miss my Filipino friends parties. Oh man the food!!!)

[R.J. Kencade]

Originally Posted by WyoEagle

Qualified means qualified, period. I get so sick of hearing about what race or gender is "represented" in a certain job. It's called pulling yourself up by your boot straps. Yes, most people are hired for jobs because they are qualified. There is nothing good or bad about diversity. When dealing with jobs the most qualified person should be hired and when dealing with friendships you become friends with people who have common interests. Doing things just to be "diverse" shouldn't be a goal.

Well my friend, keep living in the 50's.

[thethreefoldme]

Originally Posted by WyoEagle

Qualified means qualified, period. I get so sick of hearing about what race or gender is "represented" in a certain job. It's called pulling yourself up by your boot straps. Yes, most people are hired for jobs because they are qualified. There is nothing good or bad about diversity. When dealing with jobs the most qualified person should be hired and when dealing with friendships you become friends with people who have common interests. Doing things just to be "diverse" shouldn't be a goal.

This is assuming that there are not multiple applicants who are equally or similarly qualified? In the case that there are, it is best to consider diversity when hiring.

Friendship is different... I am very outgoing, so I do make an effort to make friends who are a different race than me. Not necessarily because they are a different race, though.

[chiroptera]

Originally Posted by Kibbiekat

Neither It is just as strange to try to befriend someone because of their race as it is to try not to.

I totally agree....real friendship isn't something you can force. Just as in romantic relationships, there has to be chemistry, shared interests, etc.

I'm straight, white, female and not very well-off. However I have gay friends, black friends, male friends and friends who are either much, much richer or much worse-off than me.

Our differences are irrelevant in the friendships. What's relevant is our similarities.

[laughing traveler]

I have friends of many different races.

[robertpolyglot]

If you grow up in diverse multicultural areas, it would be impossible NOT to have a mix of very different people in your circle of friends. I wouldn't have had it any other way. I don't like boring people.