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The SO bought a house in combination with his brother & sister. As though that was already not a bad idea, the brother passed on. Now he co owns it with the sister & deceased brother's ;wifeyAnyway doe, for reasons I do not understand hubby & sister want to keep house for themselves as family property. Now what pisses me off is that my husband has to do all the work with renting out this house. Keep in mind this is a house I did not approve be bought in the first place and now my SO is too ``busy with work`` and since I lost my job`` I should try to get the house rented out``Keep in mind this a house I did not want him to buy anyways. I feel like other sibling is slacking off and now I´m being burdened. And important side note, the sibling calls me a ``gold digger`` so why should I relieve my husband of what is supposed to be his sibling job especially if they have colorful offensive ungrounded names like GOLDDIGGERRANT OVER what a week
Bottom line, other sibling should try to get the house rented out and they should keep me out of this! Am I being unreasonableMy anger is that my husband allows sibling to transfer work to him knowing that his hands are full and I eventually have to handle something I did not approve of initially
This isn't the place to come because everyone is going to be rude to you.
When you're dealing with family, everything gets tricky. People do things for their family they wouldn't do for other people. Sounds like just a rough situation that will take some time to clear.
The SO bought a house in combination with his brother & sister. As though that was already not a bad idea, the brother passed on. Now he co owns it with the sister & deceased brother's ;wifeyAnyway doe, for reasons I do not understand hubby & sister want to keep house for themselves as family property. Now what pisses me off is that my husband has to do all the work with renting out this house. Keep in mind this is a house I did not approve be bought in the first place and now my SO is too ``busy with work`` and since I lost my job`` I should try to get the house rented out``Keep in mind this a house I did not want him to buy anyways. I feel like other sibling is slacking off and now I´m being burdened. And important side note, the sibling calls me a ``gold digger`` so why should I relieve my husband of what is supposed to be his sibling job especially if they have colorful offensive ungrounded names like GOLDDIGGERRANT OVER what a week
Bottom line, other sibling should try to get the house rented out and they should keep me out of this! Am I being unreasonableMy anger is that my husband allows sibling to transfer work to him knowing that his hands are full and I eventually have to handle something I did not approve of initially
Hahah I cannot believe you, what an attitude.
First of all when you married the guy you became one with him. That's what "marriage" means.
Literally one legal entity when before there were two. People forget that. His problems are your problems...or supposed to be anyway.
That's part your house, theoretically, so why are you "suffering" to rent it when you're not doing much else anyway?
Why don't you just give it to a property manager if it's so bothersome. It's not like you can't afford it.
If he bought his share of that house while you two were married, it is property of the marriage and not just his. It was wrong of him to make such a huge financial decision without your input, but thats all water under the bridge at this point.
Fact of the matter is that the two of you have ownership of the house, and responsibility for it's care and management.
If you really do not want to help with this house, then draw a line in the sand and tell your husband you will have nothing to do with it. However, that will not mean he can just walk away and likely will do nothing to help repair your marriage. He is likely stuck with the obligation unless the other co-owners buy him out, or all agree to sell it outright.
My suggestion from a relationship standpoint is to accept that at the present time, you and your husband have a large financial commitment to the property and due to the lack of help from the other co-owners, also have the upkeep and management obligation for the property. So instead of focusing on how you arrived at this point, focus on how to work together as a team to get through the present needs of the situation, and then on how to resolve it long term to the satisfaction of both of you.
The SO bought a house in combination with his brother & sister. As though that was already not a bad idea, the brother passed on. Now he co owns it with the sister & deceased brother's ;wifeyAnyway doe, for reasons I do not understand hubby & sister want to keep house for themselves as family property. Now what pisses me off is that my husband has to do all the work with renting out this house. Keep in mind this is a house I did not approve be bought in the first place and now my SO is too ``busy with work`` and since I lost my job`` I should try to get the house rented out``Keep in mind this a house I did not want him to buy anyways. I feel like other sibling is slacking off and now I´m being burdened. And important side note, the sibling calls me a ``gold digger`` so why should I relieve my husband of what is supposed to be his sibling job especially if they have colorful offensive ungrounded names like GOLDDIGGERRANT OVER what a week
Bottom line, other sibling should try to get the house rented out and they should keep me out of this! Am I being unreasonableMy anger is that my husband allows sibling to transfer work to him knowing that his hands are full and I eventually have to handle something I did not approve of initially
Why does your husband need your approval to buy a house with his family members? Correct me if I am wrong, I am under the impression that he used his own money to buy this property. It is not like he is using the money in your joint account.
My brothers and I own properties together. They bought them for me. It is none of other people's damn business. Plus, half of anything accumulated after marriage belongs to the spouse anyway, why are you bitching?! Do you guys have a prenup?
My bro bought many rental properties for his wife and he also bought couple rental for my parents. we also have family business. My sister in law was NEVER once jealous, or told him not to taking care of his family. Dude had a family before he was married, you know. When my bro was in the hospital fighting for his life, he could definitely count on me for renting out his properties, taking care of his son, etc. My sister in law was too busy taking care of my brother. We all helped her out because she is a family!! My sister in law trusts my brother 100%. His money is her money, her money is his money. They are a team! However, my brother can buy whatever he wants, whenever he wants, sometimes, investment needs to be diversified. Your husband only bought one property with his siblings, and you are pissed! What the hell!
There is a reason why his siblings call you gold digger. I am not trying to attack your character, but sometimes, you really need to reevaluate your own behaviors and see if you have done something wrong. You are the one who wants to flirt with somebody in order to get a job, and now you are bitching about his investment decision? Come on, let's play fair here.
I am sure your husband has bought many things for you, isn't that enough? Your user name says it all , angry millionaire. Not sure if you are really a millionaire but you are certainly angry!
p.s. Managing a lousy rental property temporarily is not hard work. You can ask your husband and his siblings to pay you 10% of the rent in order to manage that property if you want to make it a business transaction.
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The SO bought a house in combination with his brother & sister. As though that was already not a bad idea, the brother passed on.
I'm confused over whose (bad) idea it was for the brother to die.
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Originally Posted by angrymillionaire
and since I lost my job`` I should try to get the house rented out``Keep in mind this a house I did not want him to buy anyways. I feel like other sibling is slacking off and now I´m being burdened.
Well, to be fair, if that is how you feel, tell your husband, not us. Put it simply without any ranting of calling his dead brother's widoe a "wifey." Say, "I think my time would be better spent looking for work rather than helping with this house."
On the other hand...
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Originally Posted by angrymillionaire
And important side note, the sibling calls me a ``gold digger`` so why should I relieve my husband of what is supposed to be his sibling job especially if they have colorful offensive ungrounded names like GOLDDIGGERRANT OVER what a week
...perhaps by helping with the house, it might do some to sway the brother's opinion of you more favorable. Maybe not, too.
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Originally Posted by angrymillionaire
Bottom line, other sibling should try to get the house rented out and they should keep me out of this! Am I being unreasonableMy anger is that my husband allows sibling to transfer work to him knowing that his hands are full and I eventually have to handle something I did not approve of initially
Other folks seem to know your back story more than I do, but you asked if you were being unreasonably angry. My answer, yes. And unreasonably beetchy about it too. If your husband can help out his family financially and it doesn't hurt you folks, why not be more approving of him?
First of all when you married the guy you became one with him. That's what "marriage" means.
pffft
To you, maybe.
By your logic, a spouse who wants to deal with an issue on their own is not supposed to object when their other half pokes their nose in?
A spouse is a helpmate, IMO, not a Siamese twin.
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Originally Posted by cindersslipper
Literally one legal entity when before there were two. People forget that. His problems are your problems...or supposed to be anyway..
When it comes to property, it's best to seek legal counsel on that. If her name is not on this investment property, it can be hinky, in some locales.
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Why don't you just give it to a property manager if it's so bothersome. It's not like you can't afford it.
That I agree with. Even if the property was in joint hands between the OP and their spouse, she shouldn't be obligated to deal with it. I've seen what landlords have to deal with, rental property can be a humongous pain. Turn it over to a professional and let there be peace in the home.
The OP sounds like someone who needs to find excuses to stir up s***t. There are sensible ways to deal with problems like that.
His house, his problem, is how I would look at it.
Exactly.
And OP, how is this at your expense? Do you feel he's taking money away from you?
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When my bro was in the hospital fighting for his life, he could definitely count on me for renting out his properties, taking care of his son, etc. My sister in law was too busy taking care of my brother. We all helped her out because she is a family!! My sister in law trusts my brother 100%. His money is her money, her money is his money. They are a team! However, my brother can buy whatever he wants, whenever he wants, sometimes, investment needs to be diversified. Your husband only bought one property with his siblings, and you are pissed! What the hell!
You can ask your husband and his siblings to pay you 10% of the rent in order to manage that property if you want to make it a business transaction.
