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I was laid off/fired from a job last year and haven't spoken to anyone at that employer since. These kinds of relationships are often transient unless specific effort is made to nurture them.
Friends at work are just that . . . work friends. Very occasionally, you'll meet one that becomes a friend in your life, not just your work. But it's not the norm.
You have nothing in common with them any more. Time to move on.
My best friend always makes great friends with people she works with. However, these friendships of her's often sour, especially after she leaves the job. When she got married, two of her coworkers were bridesmaids in her wedding. She left the the job and hasn't talked to either of these women in years, and was hurt about it.
She now works for a company where she has bonded with the owner and his wife, and they are now inseparable. She once had a Facebook profile pic that was of her, and her boss's wife.
I keep telling her, this is a good friendship, however in this day and age...jobs don't last forever and you may lose them if the job ends. I really don't think it's a good idea to be so close to her boss. However, it isn't a large corporation. It is a small mortgage company that is locally owned.
When I left my first job in my 20's I fully expected to keep in touch with all the "friends" at work. I was so shocked that we had absolutely nothing in common once I left the job.
I have to laugh at it now but that was really quite a shock. And I have seen that happen when someone retired and then two weeks later came in to visit the old crew and no one even looks up. It was sad to see that.
it was like that when I decided to walk off the job the night I was scheduled to work. I had my reasons for doing it. None go out of their way to talk me on FB although I'm "friends" with a few of them who no longer work for the company either.
I lost my job recently and have lots of time on my hands. I want to stay in touch with my friends from my old job but while they were so friendly to me while I was there, now they won't have anything to do with me. Some come up with excuses why they can't see me, while others are just plain rude and cold.
Do you think it has something to do with getting into a fight with my boss who was destroying the company, and then getting fired? Maybe if the word gets out that they are still friends with me they will be fired too.
What is your experience with old work friends after being laid off or fired?
I've never been laid off or fired but I still have friends from my old job. A friend of mine was fired and a few of us stayed in touch with her.
Your circumstances sound different. Perhaps they think that the negative way in which you were fired might make them look bad if they stay in touch. It could just be awkward for them.
I have seen many people come and go at my job. While we may get along well on the job we have nothing in common other than the job. There is not much sense in keeping in touch.
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