Does this mean my friend is going to pay for lunch (feel, Christmas)
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The lunch was good we spoke and had good conversation. The only bad part is that I had to pay for my own plate. I thought he would offer to pay for me but oh well.
The lunch was good we spoke and had good conversation. The only bad part is that I had to pay for my own plate. I thought he would offer to pay for me but oh well.
I'm glad it went well. The overwhelming consensus of this thread was that you should not expect him to pay for your lunch; either you would each pay for yourselves, or you would pay for both (since the lunch was your idea). I honestly cannot figure out why you would have expected him to pay for you, and why it would bother you that he didn't.
The lunch was good we spoke and had good conversation. The only bad part is that I had to pay for my own plate. I thought he would offer to pay for me but oh well.
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Originally Posted by bus man
I'm glad it went well. The overwhelming consensus of this thread was that you should not expect him to pay for your lunch; either you would each pay for yourselves, or you would pay for both (since the lunch was your idea). I honestly cannot figure out why you would have expected him to pay for you, and why it would bother you that he didn't.
I think he didn't pay for both of your lunches because he didn't want you to feel like you owed him 'anything'. It was his way of being a gentleman.
I'm glad it went well. The overwhelming consensus of this thread was that you should not expect him to pay for your lunch; either you would each pay for yourselves, or you would pay for both (since the lunch was your idea). I honestly cannot figure out why you would have expected him to pay for you, and why it would bother you that he didn't.
I left some stuff out of my original post so I could very well understand the confusion. Around thanksgiving time I helped him out at his family's restaurant and volunteered 7 hours of my time there cause they were very busy. He at that time said after I was about to leave oh we should get dinner sometime. Then during Christmas time I bought him this really nice gift and he never bought me a gift. However, he brought up oh we should get dinner sometime. Basically implying that he wanted to buy me dinner. Well we got together many times over the past few months but never got lunch or dinner together till Recently. Maybe he forgot but I feel that he should remember what he said. I was a little upset about it but I kept it to myself.
I expected him to keep his word on what he offered but he most likely forgot ever offering and I did not want to have to remind him of such.
To make it clear I didn't expect anything in return for my time orchristmas gift. However, I once he offered I expected him to rember what he said and eventually pull through on getting me dinner.
if you continuously keep tabs on people like this you're always going to be miserable and disappointed. don't do favors or give gifts expecting anything back.
if you continuously keep tabs on people like this you're always going to be miserable and disappointed. don't do favors or give gifts expecting anything back.
I only expected something back because at the time the favor/ gift was given he offered to take me to dinner. If he had never made such an offer than I would haveexpected nothing.
Last edited by kittycat40; 09-11-2015 at 02:59 PM..
I left some stuff out of my original post so I could very well understand the confusion. Around thanksgiving time I helped him out at his family's restaurant and volunteered 7 hours of my time there cause they were very busy. He at that time said after I was about to leave oh we should get dinner sometime. Then during Christmas time I bought him this really nice gift and he never bought me a gift. However, he brought up oh we should get dinner sometime. Basically implying that he wanted to buy me dinner. Well we got together many times over the past few months but never got lunch or dinner together till Recently. Maybe he forgot but I feel that he should remember what he said. I was a little upset about it but I kept it to myself.
I expected him to keep his word on what he offered but he most likely forgot ever offering and I did not want to have to remind him of such.
To make it clear I didn't expect anything in return for my time orchristmas gift. However, I once he offered I expected him to rember what he said and eventually pull through on getting me dinner.
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