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So why did he say that immediately afterheoffere the Christmas gift from me.
When Ihelped out at the restaurant, immediately after he said lets get dinner sometime.
He never goes around just saying that stuff to me except on those rare occasions. Other than those times he never made such statements.
He said it because he was caught short by not having a gift in return, NOT because he wanted to reciprocate.
He was being kind, not sincere. That's your clue to back off.
He said it because he was caught short by not having a gift in return, NOT because he wanted to reciprocate.
He was being kind, not sincere. That's your clue to back off.
Okay makes sense maybe that was totally the case. It seems highly likely.
OP...you do seem to read a lot into very small things and over think other people's motives a lot. Asking us a lot of questions we can't fully answer but can at least guess on...and it seems like your CD peeps are right. Soooo...maybe we CD peeps are right about your over thinking these things.
My question...do these questions you ask us take up a lot of space in your head? Do you feel like it impacts your life?
OP...you do seem to read a lot into very small things and over think other people's motives a lot. Asking us a lot of questions we can't fully answer but can at least guess on...and it seems like your CD peeps are right. Soooo...maybe we CD peeps are right about your over thinking these things.
My question...do these questions you ask us take up a lot of space in your head? Do you feel like it impacts your life?
Maybe the OP needs something to occupy his mind and time so he doesn't dwell on all of this minutia. A job or hobby perhaps?
Doubtful. My friend suggested we meet for lunch to celebrate my birthday and she also picked the restaurant. When the check came she immediately did the math and presented me with what my share came to.
Hell, I was seeing someone (years ago) who asked me to drive to his neighborhood to go to a particular spot he wanted to share with me. I gave in...we went, ate, then he told me what my share was, which I did not expect. We talked in his car - and he said "I DON'T do the ROMANTIC thing". I told him, it was not being "romantic", but sounded as if he was inviting me to enjoy a restaurant he liked, with him.
You know, I otherwise had dates with those I was getting to know or also when meeting some blind dates I had conversed with prior (Before Internet dating). Never did I pay for anything, even when I offered to split it, and even if either of us felt we didn't necessarily "click". They were all gentlemanly (except one I recall), but I realize it was a different time. I don't know what it is like, these days or what the standard is. Even female friends who offered to take me out for something or wanted to meet for Happy Hour, would cover it or say "Oh, you can just pay the tip".
I have not read all posts yet and do not have a real answer for the OP, but maybe it depends upon what the person asking is thinking.
I ver been telling this friend of mine that we should get lunch sometime. He's been busy these past few weeks but finally we set up a time for Wednesday at 12:30. He didn't aske me where I wanted to eat. He just picked the restaurant and said let meet there for lunch.
Does that mean or imply that he wants to cover the tab since he picked the restaurant?
We are both straight males meeting up for lunch.
After re-reading this, I think since you have been trying to arrange something, he does not expect to be paying for you both and you will each pay for your own meal. Again, it may depend upon what he feels.
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