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Originally Posted by Tumf
If I was kind enough to be concerned, and you were rude enough to answer in that way, I'd wish you the best and would take your reply as a sign that you are a troubled person needing some guidance in compassion.
From where I sit, your concern has nothing to do with kindness and everything to do with you wanting to insert yourself in business that has nothing to do with you. I do not like people butting into my business, so my rudeness in my eyes is justified. If that makes me a bad person, I really don't care.
I walk with a white cane, so I'm used to it. Sometimes people are insistent, and want to guide me somewhere, even if I'm just out for a stroll. One of the first things I had to learn to say in Russian was Я в порядке, I'm OK.
If you were sitting down by yourself, would you find it odd if a complete stranger came up, tapped you on the shoulder, and asked if everything was OK?
Would you find it odd if a complete stranger came up and touched you on the shoulder asking if everything was OK?
I would think that either they're drunk, they've mistaken me for someone who actually knows them, or they're recruiting for a cult.
From where I sit, your concern has nothing to do with kindness and everything to do with you wanting to insert yourself in business that has nothing to do with you. I do not like people butting into my business, so my rudeness in my eyes is justified. If that makes me a bad person, I really don't care.
I was in a grocery store parking lot and I saw an elderly fellow looking around as if he was lost. I did not want to embarrass him so I made a passing remark about forgetting where one parked their car. He laughed and said I have the car, I am looking for my wife. She is returning the cart. I smiled and walked on. Before I got to my car, the wife showed up.
If I see someone I consider in duress, I will make an effort to make a casual remark and see where it goes.
I'm not trying to "craft" or groom anything, sir. If a person was sitting down in a store on a seat designated for humans to sit, and a woman came and tapped them on the shoulder and asked if everything's OK, would you find that odd? It appears that most people would indeed find it odd, thanks for voting and replying everyone!
I sometimes seem to look very sad so maybe not that odd. More like "nice" and "caring"
In regards to her touching me. I had my head pointed towards the ground, my cheek resting on my hand, and my leg supporting my elbow. So because I wasn't looking forward, I think she felt the need to tap me to get my attention.
I would find it odd if I was just minding my own business. If I was upset or crying in public, the LAST thing I want is for someone to acknowledge me! It's so embarrassing and makes me cry more. I assume if I was crying in public, it would because there was a good reason why I couldn't excuse myself to a restroom or something.
in this crazy world,,,,everyone has to be careful...
depends on the situation..
its also a gender difference....most men wont feel threatened by a caring woman......but most woman would find it extremely uncomfortable if a guy stranger came too close.....and in any way touched way,,,
women are more nurturing by nature, so maybe the approach would be seen as more genuine...
I have assisted men and women in my past or offered to respectfully
3 times I have stepped in front of a girl if I thought a guy was going to harm her..
and a few places at a park....ive seen women get creepy by strange guys ..and im there with my kid,,,and tell the mothers,,at any time holler over to me .... I have no problem,, helping her out..
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