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He mainly just socializes when I drag him with, to friends parties and (my large) family get togethers.
I have come to terms that my happy space, is really right here at home. I can basically not see anyone for weeks and it doesn't bother me. I clean, cook, do hobbies, projects..... bliss.
I do meet friends and stuff for lunch even when I really don't want to. I learned how important friends and family were when my husband died. I didn't even think I had any friends, but I had a lot. It was weird.
When I was working I'd be stressed out as work tend to do to some people and I had to interface with lots of people during the work week, when Friday rolled around I just wanted to come home, have a couple glasses of wine with Mrs. Chow and watch some movies or cook together in the kitchen listening to music. I just didn't want to bother with friends, I know that sounds bad, but friends always seem to want more time than I'm willing to give. I'm a pretty introverted guy and don't need a large circle of friends or people around me all the time.
My dad is the exact opposite he's major extrovert and can't seem to understand me at times, I don't know why it's so hard for extroverts to understand introverts, I mean I totally get why some people need a lot of friends and I don't berate or belittle them for it, in actuality if we want to go down that path, I think really extroverted people come off as needy to me, LOL, if we want to assign unpleasantries to those labels.
I'm a very strong introvert, I really, really need a lot of alone time (my husband is part of my alone time).
Our community is very active socially and I had to cut out most of that, I was getting more and more stressed. Which is pretty funny, it was just bunch of parties.
Maybe the OP's friends are all a bunch of introverts talking to people on line, reading or something.
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I agree with the OP. It's just hard to get people out of the houses to go somewhere and do something. My partner and I have some beer drinking in friends and just say the word "beer" and they're on it! Hard to organize things otherwise. THere's actually a current book out about it (forget title, didn't read) in which the author talks specifically about people no longer going out and taking part in activities. Yeah, actually his example is bowling ironically enough.
Think cell phones and other media have plenty to do with it. I saw a group of workmen the other day on a break. In the old days they'd be drinking coffee and shooting the breeze. Instead, they were all silent working away at their phones. Sad.
I'm a very strong introvert, I really, really need a lot of alone time (my husband is part of my alone time).
Our community is very active socially and I had to cut out most of that, I was getting more and more stressed. Which is pretty funny, it was just bunch of parties.
Maybe the OP's friends are all a bunch of introverts talking to people on line, reading or something.
It's funny you mention parties, LOL. With Thanksgiving and Christmas celebrations I got my "people" fix. We have to go to a wedding next month and I'm already dreading that, I f ing hate weddings and funerals and all of that stuff you have to deal with. I know, first world problems, but still I hate them.
I hate small talk, talk to me about why you think man crawled out of the muck and stood upright, anything but small "weather" talk.
Funerals and Weddings are full of that crapola and it just bores the hell out of me.
I agree with the OP. It's just hard to get people out of the houses to go somewhere and do something. My partner and I have some beer drinking in friends and just say the word "beer" and they're on it! Hard to organize things otherwise. THere's actually a current book out about it (forget title, didn't read) in which the author talks specifically about people no longer going out and taking part in activities. Yeah, actually his example is bowling ironically enough.
I think it's called Bowling Alone. Its what came to mind as I was reading this thread.
It's funny you mention parties, LOL. With Thanksgiving and Christmas celebrations I got my "people" fix. We have to go to a wedding next month and I'm already dreading that, I f ing hate weddings and funerals and all of that stuff you have to deal with. I know, first world problems, but still I hate them.
I hate small talk, talk to me about why you think man crawled out of the muck and stood upright, anything but small "weather" talk.
Funerals and Weddings are full of that crapola and it just bores the hell out of me.
Well you go to funerals to support the people who suffered the direct loss, it's not all about you.
As far as weddings, you can RSVP "no" and get out of that.
Well you go to funerals to support the people who suffered the direct loss, it's not all about you.
As far as weddings, you can RSVP "no" and get out of that.
Of course it's not about me, doesn't change that fact that I don't want to go. How's about you put me on ignore, every time you answer me you're full of snark, not sure what I did to offend you, but whatever.
I think it's called Bowling Alone. Its what came to mind as I was reading this thread.
To the OP were these last minute invites?
That's the book and talks about the decline in society over the last several years in regards to manners and socializing.
You have the time if it's important to you to make the time for the event or the person. It's really nonsense when people can do things(as an example) like pay bills online compared to when you had to sit down, go through mail, write out checks, balance the checkbook, go to the post office to mail the payment, to say people have less time these days.
If someone decides to overwhelm themselves that's on them. As I said earlier with someone joining 20 Meetup groups and trying to go to 3 events in one day, or having your kids in 5 or 6 activities instead of one or two.
Life can be simpler these days if you know how to do that.
Of course it's not about me, doesn't change that fact that I don't want to go. How's about you put me on ignore, every time you answer me you're full of snark, not sure what I did to offend you, but whatever.
LOL...you just made it about you. You don't want to go, guess what neither does the husband/wife or son/daughter of the person lying in the casket....geez.
Every time? I believe this is the second post of yours I commented on.
I don't like self absorbed behavior.
FYI.....no on likes funerals, other than the people who work in that industry.
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