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Sometimes we do things we'd rather not to support our family members. I'd understand you not wanting to go if he was abusive to you or something, but that doesn't sound like the case. Your going to this wedding is not about you and your own enjoyment. It's about supporting your brother. I think you should go.
Sometimes we do things we'd rather not to support our family members. I'd understand you not wanting to go if he was abusive to you or something, but that doesn't sound like the case. Your going to this wedding is not about you and your own enjoyment. It's about supporting your brother. I think you should go.
That. ^^^ 100%.
Sometimes, once we mature, we do things strictly for other people. Two families are being joined together. You're there to help hold the flag for your side and extend a hand of friendship to the bride's people. Even if you never see any of them again. What you believe about love or marriage is of no consequence whatsoever. You're not getting married.
Not going is a swipe at your brother and an attempt to turn the attention to you on his big day when everyone asks where you are. It's narcissistic and it's a d*ck move.
You think it's not important for you to attend your brother's wedding, but it is a huge deal and people's memories are long. People still talk about the fact that someone did not attend a wedding or a funeral from 50 years ago.
Afterwards, contact a psychiatrist. Not because you don't want to go to a wedding, but because you have no idea why you should. You're seriously lacking in emotional intelligence, and it would be helpful for your future to find out WHY.
You say that you don't understand why people get married. I take this as a declaration that you don't like what marriage represents and what it does to people and society. It also seems that you don't plan on getting married yourself. So if those are your true sentiments, then make a statement and stay away from your brother's wedding. If your difference of opinion about marriage drives you apart, that's the price for sticking to your principles. You should not feel obligated to make a public showing of approval about something you oppose. I would imagine that eventually your brother and the woman would get over any resentment they had towards you and welcome your presence in their lives.
If you're fine with never talking to your brother again don't go.
And, possibly your parents never talking to you again.
Your grandparents never talking to you again.
Your cousins never talking to you again.
Your neighbors never talking to you again.
Your minister never talking to you again.
Even a 10 or 12 year old child understands that you need to support your family.
Now, if there is a real reason, perhaps the future bride sexually assaulted you or shot you or cut off your hand, then [u]maybe [u] it would be OK to skip the wedding because you are still in the hospital. Other than a reason like that, you are a selfish, self-centered egotistical jerk if you skip the wedding.
Sheesh! Are you even old enough to be on the computer without an adult?
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Originally Posted by FreshFresh
I'm a male and I don't really understand marriage/weddings. Frankly, I don't understand why people get married.
I don't want to deal with the fuss. Family members are supporting the wedding but it seems like it's making them a little too chaotic and I want to avoid this. I'm cool with my brother but it's not like we hang out. So I'm thinking about avoiding the wedding. I support their marriage and I'm fine being there for them after the wedding.
Make up a really good excuse (usually you can't afford the travel works) and send a great gift if you don't want to go. For the record, I don't attend weddings or believe in marriage myself.
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