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I literally cannot understand how a person would need to use the washing machine so much, unless she is washing each individual item of clothing by itself!
Unfortunately roommate situations do go bad sometimes, and this sounds like one of those times. Of course you have every right to ask them to be quieter, and for him to not be there as much, but you can't force them to be decent about it.
Yep, that's the problem- we've already talked about it, and it made things weird, further discussion is going to make it blow up and then even if he abides by the 7 days he'll go out of his way to be even louder. I do have a bunch of apartments I'm looking at, hopefully one of them will come through. It's going to be a financial hardship, but even if I had to get a second job on the weekends it'd be better than this.
That is still more than normal even if she washes everything immediately. I'll bet she is doing laundry for pay. And you are picking up the utility bill I'll bet.
She needs to be paying that huge electric and water bill. And, if she is doing this, when does she have time for this guy that is camping there?? Seems a bit convoluted.
Despite your friend moving out soon, he could at least show unity in this situation and back you up.
I'd tell the guy (visitor) that you are on a lease that only allows visitors over night 7 nights a month.....he is pushing his quota. Offer him a solution....Invite him to pay rent, place a nice long lease in front of him and start pestering him every visit to sign it. ....That will keep him away for sure. Moochers avoid discussing paying anything as long as they can.
She has a fetish. Basically she does clothes every time she wears them, and can't stand to have dirty clothes in her room. It's very odd, and jacked up the utilities big time, but I actually could live with it if that were the only issue.
It's possible that the relationship will fizzle as quickly as it started so you might try to wait it out.
Could you and the nice roommate could find a place together? You said he's moving to be close to his kids, but it's not clear whether it's on the other side of town or a new city or what.
If there is a 7-day limit on guests, I'd bring it up to the roommate and then to the landlord. I don't see what you have to lose since they're keeping you up all night anyway.
In the meantime, keep your valuables locked up. Since this guy appeared out of nowhere it is possible that he's in a halfway house as mentioned above, or is basically homeless.
Time for a house meeting (without the boyfriend). Everyone needs to be reminded of the terms of the lease and anyone using more than their share of the utilities (i.e. obsessively doing laundry) needs to pay more than the others.
This situation sounds unresolvable. You should probably find a place you can afford on your own.
I agree with you, and have some places lined up to look at. I think it's unlikely I'll be out before December 1, but possible. The vacancy rate here is at a record low, so it's not just the expense but the difficulty in actually finding something empty (that is in a relatively safe area).
It's a big lesson though- I always had good roommate experiences in the past, so I figured it would be worth it to save so much money. Now I know that no amount of money is worth it. Maybe a good thing, I doubt many people have made it through life without a terrible roommate experience, so it's something I can check off my bucket list.
It's possible that the relationship will fizzle as quickly as it started so you might try to wait it out.
Could you and the nice roommate could find a place together? You said he's moving to be close to his kids, but it's not clear whether it's on the other side of town or a new city or what.
If there is a 7-day limit on guests, I'd bring it up to the roommate and then to the landlord. I don't see what you have to lose since they're keeping you up all night anyway.
In the meantime, keep your valuables locked up. Since this guy appeared out of nowhere it is possible that he's in a halfway house as mentioned above, or is basically homeless.
Sounds awful and I hope find better housing soon.
Oh yeah, left that out- he's unfortunately moving to another state. He would be an ideal roommate for a 2BR.
She's very aware of the 7 day limit since she talked about a previous housemate abusing it. The landlord didn't do anything about that, so I can't imagine he'll care about this. I think I will wait until the end of the month, and then if I haven't secured another apartment I'll talk to him about it. My only reluctance is that they have the power to make whatever limited time I spend here even worse so I'm just trying to get out of the situation as best I can.
I definitely have everything of value stowed away. I don't think he's homeless or anything like that but with relations deteriorating I'm not going to chance anything.
Time for a house meeting (without the boyfriend). Everyone needs to be reminded of the terms of the lease and anyone using more than their share of the utilities (i.e. obsessively doing laundry) needs to pay more than the others.
We already had it out about him being over too much, and she knows the terms of the lease. I'm willing to punt on the utilities since the amount of money isn't critical. I'm hopeful I can be out by November 1 but I'm seeing a possibility of it being December before I find a place which would be a drag. I've been thinking about it more today and there's really no remedy other than moving out. She knows the 7 day limit, she violates it anyway, and this isn't the type of thing that's going to get the landlord interested since she's not damaging the property (well probably the washer and drier but that's another matter).
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