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That is a sexist remark? Maybe uninformed, but not sexist. Thank him kindly and just say you figured it out for yourself.
Today's liberal PC teaching involve "micro aggressions" and "trigger words" etc. It's sad that our society is training individuals to be offended at every little thing and jump straight to racism, sexism, or some big fancy word.
Lighten up. You can't pounce on every word someone says and make an issue out of it. He's your relative. Is he known to make sexist comments. <snip>Just respond and say thank you. Life's too short. All the best
Last edited by Miss Blue; 11-16-2016 at 06:32 AM..
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To make a long story short, a male relative that I see a few times a year said something I find offensive and annoying in an email he wrote to me. It may not be a big deal to a lot of you, but it is to me. He basically indicated that I should check with my father on how much electricity a potential new appliance would use so I can determine whether it's cost effective or not. Basically, he's suggesting that as a woman, I am not capable of calculating the kWh the appliance will use and how much it will cost to run it per year. I find that offensive. This is 2016, not 1940. Women are very capable of doing anything a man can do. In fact, I do several home repairs myself and probably know more about tools than this male relative. I'm actually suprised at him. I'm sure he didn't mean anything by it, but I expected more from a 50 year old man. I thought he would be liberated enough not to think like that. Even my 80 year old uncle knows better than that.
I'm supposed to respond back to this relative, but I cannot bring myself to do so without mentioning that what he said was offensive to me. So my choices are to ignore the email or find a way to politely tell him I was offended.
Suggestions? The email was sent five days ago and I'm still annoyed by it. I usually get over stuff pretty quickly.
Perhaps he said it because he has no confidence in you, not women in general, just you. Letting one sentence of an email bother you for days does show you are not a mature adult, perhaps this has been an issue he has observed in the past.
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Last edited by Miss Blue; 11-16-2016 at 06:04 AM..
To make a long story short, a male relative that I see a few times a year said something I find offensive and annoying in an email he wrote to me. It may not be a big deal to a lot of you, but it is to me. He basically indicated that I should check with my father on how much electricity a potential new appliance would use so I can determine whether it's cost effective or not. Basically, he's suggesting that as a woman, I am not capable of calculating the kWh the appliance will use and how much it will cost to run it per year. I find that offensive. This is 2016, not 1940. Women are very capable of doing anything a man can do. In fact, I do several home repairs myself and probably know more about tools than this male relative. I'm actually suprised at him. I'm sure he didn't mean anything by it, but I ,snip>expected more from a 50 year old <snip> man. I thought he would be liberated enough not to think like that. Even my 80 year old uncle knows better than that.
I'm supposed to respond back to this relative, but I cannot bring myself to do so without mentioning that what he said was offensive to me. So my choices are to ignore the email or find a way to politely tell him I was offended.
Suggestions? The email was sent five days ago and I'm still annoyed by it. I usually get over stuff pretty quickly.
Wow. He is suggesting that you get a SECOND OPINION so that you don't waste time or money.
I am continually astounded at how people want to be offended by everything these days. Seriously, it's like if they can't be mad at a comment made to them, they are bored.
And BTW if it were 1940, as a woman you would already know this. It is more unlikely that today's young woman would know this.
I had an male relative make the same sort of remark to me several years ago when I bought a car. He said he was glad that I had my (male) business partner have a look at it before I bought the car..... like my opinion couldn't be trusted.... I was already set to buy the car, but I like having a second opinion.....
It annoyed me for about 2 seconds and then I just shrugged it off as it being just the way he is....
I think you're very much overreacting. I mean the fact that you let it bother you for more than 5 minutes. In the grande scheme of things, this doesn't even rate on the scale because of how meaningless it is and yet here you are seething for a week.
At the end of the day, your best way of handling this would've been to laugh it off and move on. "Lol, yea thanks for the suggestion, I'll be sure to take it under advisement." And add a winky emoticon. And then walk away. All of this self perpetuated drama is really unnecessary and a waste of energy. You need to lighten up.
I had an male relative make the same sort of remark to me several years ago when I bought a car. He said he was glad that I had my (male) business partner have a look at it before I bought the car..... like my opinion couldn't be trusted.... I was already set to buy the car, but I like having a second opinion.....
It annoyed me for about 2 seconds and then I just shrugged it off as it being just the way he is....
So did your relative specifically say he was glad you had a man look at the car?
You said yourself you liked having the second opinion. If your relative didn't specifically reference your friend's gender, then he simply echoed your exact thoughts.
He basically indicated that I should check with my father on how much electricity a potential new appliance would use so I can determine whether it's cost effective or not. Basically, he's suggesting that as a woman, I am not capable of calculating the kWh the appliance will use and how much it will cost to run it per year.
What was the calculation?
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