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Everyone just has to be offended about everything these days. I'm looking forward to 2017 being the year that, hopefully, everyone grows up a bit. Exercise some grace and good manners as a mature woman does by saying a simple 'thank you' and move on.
I'm a bit surprised at how many people are telling the OP to get over it. Her feelings are valid. Just because many people ignore subtle sexism doesn't mean that the OP has to.
I like the following response:
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Originally Posted by Ruth4Truth
OP, I would just say something like, "Thanks, but I've already calculated the appliance's energy use myself. Dad isn't very good with that kind of thing; I'm the family handyman/woman around here", and leave it at that. Light and breezy, but effective.
I'm a bit surprised at how many people are telling the OP to get over it. Her feelings are valid. Just because many people ignore subtle sexism doesn't mean that the OP has to.
I like the following response:
Actually, given the lack of clarification on the part of the OP on what her uncle said, no.
If I understand correctly, he advised the OP to discuss it with her father. We have no understanding of why he said it, but if could be for a variety of reasons, some of which are completely unrelated to gender issues.
Here's the thing. Did he mean to be dismissive of her? Did she bother to take his intentions into account? Or is the OP just a sensitive plant who wilts at anything and everything?
I mean, there are times when people need to get a freaking grab and understand the other person's intentions are rather important.
Actually, given the lack of clarification on the part of the OP on what her uncle said, no.
If I understand correctly, he advised the OP to discuss it with her father. We have no understanding of why he said it, but if could be for a variety of reasons, some of which are completely unrelated to gender issues.
Here's the thing. Did he mean to be dismissive of her? Did she bother to take his intentions into account? Or is the OP just a sensitive plant who wilts at anything and everything?
I mean, there are times when people need to get a freaking grab and understand the other person's intentions are rather important.
OK, I get that. Thing is, the OP is the only one who knows her uncle, the relationship with her uncle, family dynamics etc. None of us do. She is the one in the best position to judge what her uncle's intentions were when sending the email. She's upset 5 days later even though, according to the OP, she usually gets over stuff quickly. Rather than having the resentment build up even further, why not send something back along the lines of what Ruth4Truth suggested? It's taking a stand, politely, but without going all nuclear.
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