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OP, I would just say something like, "Thanks, but I've already calculated the appliance's energy use myself. Dad isn't very good with that kind of thing; I'm the family handyman/woman around here", and leave it at that. Light and breezy, but effective.
To make a long story short, a male relative that I see a few times a year said something I find offensive and annoying in an email he wrote to me. It may not be a big deal to a lot of you, but it is to me. He basically indicated that I should check with my father on how much electricity a potential new appliance would use so I can determine whether it's cost effective or not. Basically, he's suggesting that as a woman, I am not capable of calculating the kWh the appliance will use and how much it will cost to run it per year. I find that offensive. This is 2016, not 1940. Women are very capable of doing anything a man can do. In fact, I do several home repairs myself and probably know more about tools than this male relative. I'm actually suprised at him. I'm sure he didn't mean anything by it, but I ,snip>expected more from a 50 year old <snip> man. I thought he would be liberated enough not to think like that. Even my 80 year old uncle knows better than that.
I'm supposed to respond back to this relative, but I cannot bring myself to do so without mentioning that what he said was offensive to me. So my choices are to ignore the email or find a way to politely tell him I was offended.
Suggestions? The email was sent five days ago and I'm still annoyed by it. I usually get over stuff pretty quickly.
If you knew the kWh why didn't you just tell him so - that would've worked. I'm suspecting you didn't know since you go into a statement about doing home repairs and having tool knowledge. But so what? You can know how to use all the tools in the world but still be oblivious energy consumption calculations.
Today's liberal PC teaching involve "micro aggressions" and "trigger words" etc. It's sad that our society is training individuals to be offended at every little thing and jump straight to racism, sexism, or some big fancy word.
Everybody has to walk on eggshells.
Exactly, it's gotten ridiculous.
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Me thinks a trip to a third world country is needed.
I think it would change your perspective, focus, and ability to get worked up over very small things.
Good idea, but the OP could just go to the closest children's hospital and take a walk down the hall.
Absolutely pathetic to be stewing over something like this for a week.
Oh, c'mon. You've already expended too much energy on this if after five days of self-perpetuating annoyance you felt the need to write a post here complaining about it. It does not sound as if he "basically" [that's your word] suggested you take your shoes off, get knocked up and get back in the kitchen. Also, ask yourself what response you expected to get from this forum.
When I see someone say "he *basically* indicated" – I read that this is your interpretation. Our interpretations are often flawed especially in email or other online communication. What did he *actually* say to you? Maybe more importantly, what did you say to him in the email? Were you just chattily mentioning to him you were shopping for this potential appliance or did you perhaps wonder about which of several might be best? Did he just read that you were shopping for a dishwasher (for example) and jump to suggesting that you 1) check the electric usage, and then 2) suggest your father might be of assistance? I think it's important to consider just what you said to him to start with.
Would you have been as cranked out of shape had he suggested that you Google about energy efficiency?
Good Grief - the things people get offended by these days. Your relative meant no offense but for some reason you are choosing to be offended by, what was to him, an innocent remark.
I'd respond just because I'm a bit of a smart ass. I'd tell him you already did the math and found that yes, the new appliance would be exactly 36.4875% more efficient than the old one and that your invest would be realized in exactly 3.2496 years. Let him think on that for a bit.
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